Only I’m the wife that’s out enjoying myself not the stereotypical MN husband and it’s causing massive issues 
I’ve always been an outdoor person. I love sport, keeping busy, running that sort of thing. I also love animals and have always had lots of them. Met husband 12 years ago and moved in together about 6 years ago. I had dogs/horses before we met and continue to do so.
Before DC it was never an issue. I would go out and ride, walk dogs while DH lazed about and that was that. He never once said a cross word or indicated it was a problem for him, infact he seemed pleased of the time to himself. He would walk the dogs occasionally and happily come along a few times a week, again never indicated he hated it.
Post DC it’s a totally different story. We have equal downtime but DH chooses not to participate in any activities/hobbies at all outside of work (although attends the Work gym) and prefers to watch tv- fair enough his choice.
However he constantly moans or pulls the face every single time I leave the house. That sort of dissaproving ‘out again’ look. He often moans at how long I have been when I return, moans about the cost of whatever I’m doing despite it coming from my wages, moans about my reading about it, taking about it, having friends that do the same hobby. Honestly it’s neverending although I don’t talk about it at all to him as he goes ‘ah ah no horse talk’ accompanied by a sort of teacher telling off a student type look 
He claims it cuts out family time however I take DC to all activities through the week, do school collections and take DC out with me to sort horses etc 5-6 times per week. DC love rolling around in the mud and having a blast outside and certainly aren’t adversely effected.
I also love to compete and am getting pretty good if I do say so myself. He thinks I shouldn’t be doing this as it’s ‘selfish’ and takes up 3-4 hours on a weekend once or twice a month. I don’t involve him in this or anything else at all and deal with all housework, pets, DC,cooking and work myself through the week as he works long hours by choice.
He also moans about the dogs although not to the same extent, mainly that I walk them (usually first thing on a morning before anyone else wakes up or last thing at night after dc are in bed) and he finds it annoying that I do so. I don’t think it’s that he is missing me as he spends the whole time I am at home either playing on his phone, watching tv or asleep. He never suggests anything to do as a family or a couple and i am forbidden to speak about hobbies, friends relating to the hobby or anything that may lead to speak of the hobby or work as those subjects bore him 
Basically it’s driven a massive wedge between us, the fact he wants me to be home 24/7 and I really really don’t want to be.
Am I really as selfish as I sound?!