Would you leave your Husband if he did this......

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• Tried to snog all of your friends (when drunk)
• Tried it on with your Sister
• Went on a night out, and instead of staying overnight with a male friend as planned, actually stayed at a females flat (although swore nothing happened)
• Would occasionally shove you/kick you, in an argument

BUT

• Earned a lot of money and kept the family in a good lifestyle (financially), so big house, nice cars, holidays etc.

Yes. Yes. Yes.

One of those things would be enough

What the fuck kind of question even is this?

Who on earth is going to say they’d stay?

Yup. But I’m more likely to have not married him in the first place.

I would after just one if those things

Yes. No question. Earn your own money and keep your self respect.

I would not tolerate any of that. I'd rather be poor and not have to put up with a cheating violent partner.

Yes
No question
And I'd get a shit hot lawyer

Hopefully your kids aren't subject to any of this

Yes.

I would not live to live with someone who has such little respect for me and, if there are children, what on earth does this show them about how women should be treated.

1, 2 or 4 would all be instant for me. But, my DH is an adult so wouldn't, meaning 3 would be a non issue.
What he earns is totally irrelevant. You can't pay someone to be abusive to them.

What sort of answers are you expecting?

This would make me feel like shit !!! Is he a flirty person, and has actually tried to snog them like really tried to ... if that's the case no amount of Money or life style would make me feel better xxxx

He sounds dangerous and abusive if he shoves and kicks you.... it might be hard to leave now but consider it. Material things come and go but you only LIVE once. Google freedom programme xx

No buts.

Except to kick him on his.

See a solicitor asap.

None of those are worth the money. None.

Is this about you OP or somebody else?

Thank you so much for the replies.

I DID leave him. But....I have been plagued with guilt ever since, because the children seem to have emotionally suffered for it. They are older now (20 & 21), but I feel like I ruined their childhood, and I could have just sucked it up, so that they didn't suffer. One of my children took it so badly, and I'm not sure that she's even over it now (despite being 20).

It has been made even harder, because when I left him, his whole family turned their backs on me, despite them knowing what happened, they said that "he just had a bit of fun, whereas I broke up a family".

Sigh.

Yes.

I would rather camp for a wet week in Bognor than put up with any of that for a nice holiday & a big house.

Maybe your dcs suffered because of their father’s behaviour during the marriage and the break up and this is their issue.

I can’t imagine this is something you took lightly.

Forget his family and their reaction. You are the right choice.

Bless you OP.. you absolutely did the right thing.. he's a pig

Thank you ladies. I know I should stop tortouring myself. I'm so worried that I put my own needs first, and I could have just stayed to give the children a non "broken home"

Yes because if you stay with someone for money then...well, you're just selling yourself?