ok so this is a bit of an odd one. I’ve been exclusive with this guy for two months but have had a gut feeling he might not fully be over his ex. They split up eight months ago - she left him for another man and he said he was heartbroken.
He has brought her up a few times since I’ve known him but it’s just been trash talking. He is clearly very bitter about the split. Last night out of the blue he asked me what the most weight is I’ve lost after a break up (bit of a strange question I thought) and then he told me he lost four stone in a month when his ex left him, he couldn’t eat, sleep etc.
Tbh id had enough of hearing about his heartbreak and I pulled him up on it and asked him outright if he was ready to start dating again. He said he definitely was and I just said it made me uncomfortable how often he bangs on about his ex and that maybe we should call it a day.
He then burst into tears and was crying hysterically saying he’s over her and he felt really bad for making me feel uncomfortable. It was one of the most awkward moments, we were at his house and there he was sobbing his heart out saying he was over his ex but was angry at her for leaving him for another man and embarrassing him like that. Then he started going on about how he feels like an outsider and an oddball and how he has never fitted in. I tried to console him and he calmed down after a while but I’m left wondering wtf to do now. He seems very broken and a a bit unstable but If I leave him I will be another woman who has upped and left him.
He is 31 btw. One of my friends thinks he sounds manipulative, crying cos he was worried I was going to leave him but I’m not sure if that’s the case here?