How do i make him stop - trigger warning - rape **Thread title edited by MNHQ**

[femline]

I can't handle this anymore and I need help with my OH. This morning he woke up and was touching me sexually. I rolled away but he didn't stop. He asked for sex and I said no. Then for about 5 minutes he sat there begging me "please babe", "you know you want to", etc. In the end I rolled on to my stomach and he just started anyway. So he's.. doing the deed, and I'm kinda just led there with my head in the pillow wishing I was anywhere else. He then out of nowhere started choking me and I could barely breathe. He was squeezing my neck so hard it hurt. I started crying (silently) at this point. He "finished", got up, said "love you" and left for work...

I wish I could say this was the first, or second, or fifth time. How do I stop him? Or AIBU as his wife and do I just go with it?

My ex partner had rape and choking fantasies....i was with him 4 years....when i look back its terrifying how close i might have come to him doing me serious harm.

Oh my gosh!

Leave him ASAP. I heard recently it only takes 6 seconds to kill someone that way. Get away from him.

God it’s scary to think about how this could go. One morning he kills you because his sick strangulation abuse goes even further. The press would report it as a sex game gone wrong, poor man....he’d get a couple of years inside before being free to move on to the next victim.

Please leave him, he’s an abusive, violent rapist. He’s utter scum.

Hope you are OK my love. I know it's a lot to take in.

Please keep posting here - MN is a fantastic place for support and advice.

Oh love .

You’ve had some really good advice here.

I just wanted to reiterate what other posters have been saying... please please please leave this man. What he is doing to you is sickening, it is NOT normal. Please get away from him before he does worse .

I cannot add to the advice, you know what to do now.

But please do something and get away from your rapist partner. He's clearly vile, and you know this, you said you wanted to go to the police before?

You know deep down it's rape, you know this. And choking you too. What would happen if he went too far and accidentally killed you while doing this? It would leave your little baby with a rapist.

Call women's aid and get to safety.

We're all behind you.

Please get out OP.

Hoping you're OK OP.