We have been together 5 years.... the last 2 1/2 years have been hard. Really hard. But the last few months its been rediculous. We argue alot. He literally does nothing round the house. Absolutely nothing.... oh im lying he puts the toilet roll holders in the bin (yes he did use that in the latest argument today, not gonna lie i very sarcastically started clapping at him) i have been working part time but on monday i go back to full time hours, i want him to out more money into the household budget (hes self employed so some weeks he can earn as little as 80 pound, which thankfully isnt that often... and then others it can be between 300 and 400, these have been more regular) he doesnt understand why he shoukd put more money, at the minute he puts 100 a week in, keep in mind out of that i pay his car insurance, tax, phone bill and bupa dental. So doesnt equate to anything regarding other bills....why should i go back to work full time (my wage is very good, for part time hours i was on a full time wage, so i would of been mad to turn the full time roll down) but obviously once i get taxed and pay the childcare im not much better financially off. I dont understand how everything that goes into my bank has to.pay bills, feed us, pay for xmas and birthday presents for 3 kids that arent even mine (and before the step parent police jump on, i dont begrudge the kids, i begrudge that he doesnt even offer anything for the presents i buy. I pay for everything. I even pay for his youngest to get her mom a card and present on mothers day, birthday and xmas, hes doesnt offer a penny) hes gets to blow 100 - 200 a week on whatever the hell he wants. Its took me 5 months to save 300 for a new cooker. He was supposed to take me out tonight for my birthday which i had to ask him to do hes never made a scrap of effort on my birthday, but because we fell out hes just sat in silence all evening... whatever hell complain hes hungry before i do.... im trying to explain if hes on a good week why on earth cant he put the extra in. His pathetic excuse was well if you were on your own youd have to do it anyway..... wtf. Yeah i would but i wouldnt be paying 2 car inaurance.tax.phonebills . For four kids to have a bloody christmas or fucking feed them! And then the cheeky bastard was going on about me doing full time (i did a full time last week) you came in you fell asleep you a miserable bitch because your tired. Is he for bloody real.... im not tired because ive been to work... im bloody fed up because i get up at 6.30 with the little one i think go to work for 8am... finish at 4.30 come home to a shit tip so i have to clean all that up cook dinner sort laundry bath and bed little one and then if we need anything i have to drive to our local shop to pick up necessities. All while he sits on the bloody phone or laptop or whatever. And im the miserable bitch..... can someone please tell me im not crazy and that hes a bloody self centred bloody lunatic....
Sorry for the rediculously long post this was only meant to be short asking how the get him to leave my house when everytime i tell him its mid argument and nothing ever happens. Also hes got no where to go at all. His mom is the unsupporting individual going (another rant another time) so he cant go there where should i send him.... i dont want to be too harsh he is the father of our son.(he has four kids in total only 1 with me) weve not had any intimacy at all in 4 months and less than 5 times this year.... so i feel like im paddling a sinking ship tbh. I really do not see what he brings to the table so to speak.