How long before moving in together

[DiamondsInTheMud]

Just wondering how long people were in relationships for before moving in together... Im in a long distance relationship, have been together for 4 months now. Its all been pretty serious from the start. We see eachother at the weekend, maybe every second weekend. But its getting more and more difficult when im not seeing him, and he's said the same. Hes currently living at his mums, pending completion on a house that hes just bought. And hes suggested that i can stay at his for weeks at a time if i can schedule work in the area. It feels like this could progress quite quickly into me moving in, work would be easy to sort a transfer for, and i feel like its the right time, but i dont know if its too soon to be even thinking about that?

Sorry my phone wouldn't let me to paragraphs for some reason , well done if you read through that all!

I moved in with my boyfriend after 3 months and that was 2 years ago! There is no ‘right’ time. I know people that dated for several years and then moved in together and it didn’t work out!

I think that's pretty quick to go from not even seeing each other every week to moving in.

What would you do if it went wrong? How easy to transfer back? What's your current living arrangements?

I know that i cant move myself into his house, but think if he were to suggest it which is likely, i really want to. But i know my mum will freak out if i tell her im moving, it would involve moving to a different city where i dont know anyone other than dp and his family..

After 14 months and two weeks before our first baby was born.
I didn't mind having a baby but I wasn't keen on living where he lived.

In a couple of weeks im going to be working in the area for a week, so will be staying with him for 9 days, which will be a good test of longer periods of seeing him. It would be easy enough to transfer back if needed. Its just that practically, its never going to be any more than a weekend every couple of weeks unless one of us moves, and with him having just bought a house, it would make a lot more sense for me to move to him. In that area i would have better career opportunities than i currently do as well.

Bought our own house together after 9 months as a couple. Still together now five years on...

Stay with him when you are in the area. It will happen naturally when it's supposed to then.
Although you'd be moving into ' his' house. That's what put me off living with my DH that it was his, I wanted ours.

If you're saying that you've only spent time together on about 16 separate occasions then that really doesn't sound like long enough. The arrangement you describe doesn't sound like living together though, don't move job or give up your current abode just yet!

I always say 5 years. That's when I moved country to be with mine but only as we had a baby. Or I would have lived on my own for another 5 years.

I'm not sure, We met in June and I officially moved in in October but had already been living there in all but name for a few weeks. Still together 31 years later

I would say for me the magic of dating is much better than the reality of living together! I would hold off as last by as poss!

I moved in after 3 months. We married two years later & have been married for fifteen years next week!

When you know, you know

I moved in with my boyfriend 9 months after we started dating as we lived an hour apart.

It's now been 6.5 years and are married ☺️

If you don't have kids and it would be easy to pick your life back up again back home if it went pear-shaped, what the hell? If you do live together, make sure you have an equitable financial arrangement (ie. don't end up paying into his mortgage for years while never building up anything of your own) and that you share housework from the off.

I think when you know you know too. Me and DP moved in after 5 months of being ‘official’ and we’re still going strong! On the other hand we have bought a house together so in that sense it would be more secure if we split rather than just his name.

Moved in after 4 months. Married after 4 years.

Dh and I moved in together after 3 years but we both had children and needed to find a big enough house and also didn’t want to take things too quickly. If neither of you have children then doing things more quickly is fine

3 months! The first time my dad met my now DH was when he was helping me move into his house 😂

Moved in together at 3 months, bought a house after 6 months and got married and pregnant within a year. That was 6 years ago and we're still blissfully happy

3 months! We met overseas in September, he returned to UK in October but was living 250 miles away at his Dad's and travelled to me almost every weekend. Moved into my shared flat in January and we got our own rented flat in February. I was nervous, but my fabulous friend pointed out that if it didn't work, I could just move out 😂 Nothing couldn't be un-done, so to speak.

Moved in to our own tenancy after 5 months together with DP working away from home Monday to Friday, felt completely natural and we're still together 7 years later with 2 DC. We kept finances separate for a few years though. Only you can know what is right and when you're both ready, sounds like you have a good set up for a trial run though.

Um....three days! We met at uni. He moved into my room in a hall of residence and remained there for two years, undetected by the authorities! We were together for 16 years (married for ten of those) until his death at 36.

No way on god’s Green earth would I move in after 4 months. Especially after I’d only actually met him 8 times beforehand. Madness.

3 years for us. Feels like the right amount of time.

Its currently a 3 hour drive between us just now which isnt ideal. Work-wise i would still be doing the same job, for the same company, a transfer woukd be pretty straightforward. Ive already said to my work that if they coukd give me a week or so of work in that area each month then i would be happy with that. Myself and dp both work for the same company akd are both well thought of within management, so they all seem quite keen to help the relationship along 😂 I think that if staying at his for a week at a time goes well, then it'll very quickly develop into a longer term thing. It is a bit of a worry about me moving into his, which is all in his name. Hes just bought it so wouldnt be moving anytime soon. But he has bought somewhere big enough for us and a future if it gets to that point, which he's said himself. I suppose after a length of time i could ask to be added to the mortgage? Not too concerned about stuff like that though atm, it would change if theres kids involved at a later point. I rent currently, so would be no different helping him pay his mortgage than just now where im helping my landlord pay his.