How long before moving in together

[DiamondsInTheMud]

Just wondering how long people were in relationships for before moving in together... Im in a long distance relationship, have been together for 4 months now. Its all been pretty serious from the start. We see eachother at the weekend, maybe every second weekend. But its getting more and more difficult when im not seeing him, and he's said the same. Hes currently living at his mums, pending completion on a house that hes just bought. And hes suggested that i can stay at his for weeks at a time if i can schedule work in the area. It feels like this could progress quite quickly into me moving in, work would be easy to sort a transfer for, and i feel like its the right time, but i dont know if its too soon to be even thinking about that?

And this thread will be full of people saying they moved in after 6 weeks and were married for 40 years. But read the relationship boards. So so many women only finding a man’s true colours after a rushed moving in / marriage / baby. What’s the rush?

Got together with my (now) DH on a Monday, we spent the night together on the Wednesday and we've never separated since (3+ years later).

Its nice to hear of lots of other similar length relationships moving in together and it all working out!

I met my dh in April 2014, we became officially a couple 9th May 2014, we decided to ttc in July 2014, moved in together in October 2014. We conceived in November 2014, found out we were having a baby in December 2014 and we had discussed marriage by this point as well. We got engaged January 13th 2015, set the date the middle of February 2015, and got married 9th April 2015 (we'd been together exactly 11 months the day we got married). Baby was due August 2015 but born in September 2015.
A lot of people will say it's all way too quick, married within a year of being together, and expecting a baby. But for us it felt right.
There is no right or wrong, it's what you feel.

Met DP summer 2006, got serious November 2006. Moved in January 2007.

Still living together now. Not married (my choice, too many family politics involved) but perfectly happy have DD (7) and never regretted moving in too soon.

I think it depends. My ex and I were together about 6 months before we moved in together and the relationship lasted 4 years. My current partner and I have been together about 18 months and have just began talking about moving in together. He will probably move in just after Christmas x

On a financial basis, OP, make sure that you are protected. You don't want to be paying into his mortgage for years and then find if you split up that you have nothing. Better for you to buy your own place (in a year or two) and rent it out, so that you are on the property ladder.

I moved in with a boyfriend as early as 2 months after we met (disastrous, turns out he was a cheating arsehole) but my dh and I didn’t move in until nearly 3 years after we started dating (we were long distance and I had to get a visa to move to be with him), which was 3 months before we got married. There’s no right time really as long as the relationship is solid.

DH moved in with me following my admission to hospital after emergency appendectomy about 5 weeks into dating- almost 15 years later still have the bugger??

Meant !!

I moved into DPs after 7 months then 2 months later we got our own place, that was 4 years ago and we're still together!

From the moment we got together! tbf he’d been my best mate for 6 years before that though

And this thread will be full of people saying they moved in after 6 weeks and were married for 40 years. But read the relationship boards. So so many women only finding a man’s true colours after a rushed moving in / marriage / baby. What’s the rush? absolutely true. You’re only getting the real success stories here, not the ones where couples moved in together then broke up.

After 4 months we moved into our own rented place, bought our own house after 3 years, married after 4

Six weeks and that was twelve years ago. Happily married with three DC now but we're definitely not the norm. Sometimes I feel we moved in too soon but it worked out well for us.

Moved in together after 8mths and that was 5 years ago.

I got hit by a car 11 days later and that really tested our metal (broken left leg and left shoulder so I was pretty useless for months) but we've just had our first baby 5 and a half years on from meeting.

I've had other relationships that lasted longer than we initially waited to move in together and I would never have moved in with them at that stage. Some things you just know, sometimes you're wrong but you could wait an age figuring something out that you wouldn't truly know until you did it.

Good luck

Met in Oct and he moved in in Dec/Jan. he was leaving the army and needed somewhere to go so he moved into my house share. Then in the April we got our own place. That was ten years ago.

I think a little bit of 'when you know you know' applies, as well as circumstance. But also, to those saying you might not like who you end up living with, better to find out sooner surely?

No matter what you decide to do, the most important thing you need to focus on is your personal financial stability and independence. If you are financially sound, no matter what happens with your relationship, you have the resources to do whatever you need to do.

If it's what you want do it. Some people on here go incredibly slow, after 4 months its still just dating to them and I've seen it where they are also dating other people still. So of course to them it's too soon they aren't remotely serious. If you guys are serious then move in. At least spend a few weeks there and see what he is like to live with, he could have habits you hate.

We bought a house together after 11 months it was another five months until we moved in together as it was a new build and we were waiting for it to be completed

I think it's different for everyone. I know people who moved in within a few months, others it was a couple of years. So it really depends on how you feel at the time. Don't put any money towards his mortgage though! DP and I moved in together after a year and a half, but that's mainly because I was 6 months pregnant at the time. We probably would have lived separately for a few years while we saved money to buy together. We technically could have still done that, and in hindsight, I wish we had, but we had wanted to start family life together. And why can't I do paragraphs *sigh

After 2 weeks, having seen him for a total of 72 hours at my parents in the interim (we met at Uni on thr last day of term)... He originally came to stay for a couple of nights after I'd been burgled. Still here 23 years later.

From experience, this is not something to rush into!

I dont know if its the right attitude, but i kinda feel like i need to take a leap of faith with it, that its not going to progress any further currently because of the distance. I know its cliched, but as soon as i met him i instantly knew there was something therr, as did he, and its all progressed from there quite quickly, but without either of us forcing it forward iykwim? If i take the chance and it doesnt work out, i would be able to move back to my home city, with ny job, and have somewhere to stay. Why wouldn't it be a good idea to help him with his mortage, at least for the first while? I currently rent, and am not in a position to buy, i have no savings at all. So wherever i stay, i wouldnt be investing in my own financial security, i would be paying someone else rent. If i didn't pay him money towards mortgage/bills, then i would be the female equivalent of a cock-lodger....

6 weeks for us and we had only seen each other about ten times. Marriage lasted 16 years, just ending.