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Would you believe this woman who's claiming my partner cheated on me?

104 replies

Fran6581 · 23/09/2018 17:25

She contacted me via FB telling me she'd been seeing my partner until she found out about me, she humiliated me by copying my friends & family in the message. He denied the affair but 3 weeks on, he's talking to her again & he claims they're just friends.

OP posts:
FuckItPassMeTheWine · 23/09/2018 18:46

Is anyone else feeling like they’re now actually living in the film ground hog day?

liverbird79 · 23/09/2018 19:20

Reminds me whatever happened with nite and fog? HS anyone got a link to the mist recent one please?

AnyFucker · 23/09/2018 19:32

Niteandfog changed name and posted on the step parenting board

It was still Love's Young Dream

Yes, really

AnyFucker · 23/09/2018 19:41

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/stepparenting/3367493-new-to-stepparenting?messages=100&pg=1

This was the link. Now deletio.

Welshmaiden85 · 23/09/2018 19:43

Yes, absolutely. Mainly because if she was lying he would be incensed at what a nutter she was and certainly wouldn’t be chatting with her.

IhatetheArchers · 23/09/2018 19:49

Ok, last we heard you were shagging your neighbour who is a bus driver. You couldn't meet his friends or family and he ignored you on social media. This woman contacts you to say they had been having sex. You were both very cross with this woman because she was lying, and anyway it was only bum sex.

Has anything happened since?

starzig · 23/09/2018 19:53

Unless him having an affair particularly bothers you, I would just block her.

FuckItPassMeTheWine · 23/09/2018 19:55

@IhatetheArchers that summary killed it 😂

IhatetheArchers · 23/09/2018 19:56

Soz

AnyFucker · 23/09/2018 19:56

It pretty much sums it up...

itsbritneybiatches · 23/09/2018 20:01

Thanks @AnyFucker Smile

Off to read that now for a bit with a red
Wine and some Lindt balls

Haireverywhere · 23/09/2018 20:04

Thank AF. I know some people say it's not good form to link to other threads of an OP as we have a right to choose what info we present in a thread, but if someone is constantly posting about the same issue hiding and changing relevant info in different threads, we can't even hope to help them!

Thebluedog · 23/09/2018 20:14
Biscuit
puzzledlady · 23/09/2018 20:17

this is niteandfog?Wow i haven't heard about her in a while! How's she doing? Jesus she had some issues that woman - i remember her threads! She had a daughter and was seeing someone married - right?

UnicornSparkles1 · 23/09/2018 20:19

Totes sounds legit

itsbritneybiatches · 23/09/2018 20:25

It's not nite and frog. Apologies I asked for s recent link as it reminded me about the nite and frog threads

dirtybadger · 23/09/2018 21:35

If this is genuine then you need to seek help. Im not being facetious, you must have created 10+ posts on this and it's very very clear he cheated on you! Speak to your GP. Lots of people end up in denial for a long time but the repeated posts, but this is quite extreme

I would say he did cheat on you (!!) But only because he made you think you were his girlfriend. I wouldn't be surprised if he had others tbh.

PatriciaHolm · 23/09/2018 21:39

Yes, if for no other reason than YOU ARE INTENSELY ANNOYING.

AnyFucker · 23/09/2018 22:38

This op is not Niteandfog

"She" is some other deluded fucker who likes to relive her fucked up existence with the addition of internet stars and unicorns

Or summat

IsabellaMoltisantixx · 23/09/2018 23:52

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

IsabellaMoltisantixx · 23/09/2018 23:53

Everyone is being so horrible to this OP. WTF is a matter with people on here? Seem to get a kick out of bullying and yes it is bullying, all sound like high school girls ganging up on someone vulnerable to make you feel superior or something???

The op is genuinely hurt and distraught, why be smartasses about it? Bet some of you have daughters, I wonder how you'd feel if she was being taken the mickey out of and ridiculed online? Isn't that some kind of form of trolling??

darkparadise1 · 23/09/2018 23:57

I agree Isabella Sad

Angelf1sh · 24/09/2018 03:01

If this is the other side of the bus driver one then yes, he cheated on you. He told us that he was intending to leave you for her but then she found out about you and told you.

If it is a different matter, I’d believe her. He wouldn’t have stayed in contact with someone who had lied about something like that and jeopardised his relationship if it wasn’t true or if he cared about you at all. You should end it.

SD1978 · 24/09/2018 04:27

@IsabellaMoltisantixx-
Have you read the other multiple
Threads from the same OP? I think it's more frustration, as the same things, are being asked on multiple threads, across multiple days. And slightly dodgy story which links on to a weirdo bus driver who also allegedly posted but was deleted.

Whereismumhiding2 · 24/09/2018 05:39

@Fran6581 to answer your question. Yes your "D"P is cheating in you with this woman.

I don't know how much more obvious he could make it without DTD in front of her, by his subsequent behaviour.

No sane person stays friends with a woman who lied to their partner about shagging him and risked destroying their relationship.
Either way he's showing you he does not care about you, your feelings nor your relationship.
Walk away sharpish.