41 yo partner watching teen porn, my teenager wants to bring a girl friend home

[Snoopy37]

I've noticed a few times my partner acting very weird around young women and teenagers. He's 41. He acts almost giddy forgetting everyone else around. I checked his internet history finding lots of teen porn, normal porn, teenagers stripping or in their bedrooms. I found a receipt for a virtual porn experience of watching a young teenage girl in her bedroom undressing. I'm pretty creeped out at the thought if my 41 year old male partner jacking off to teenagers (who are children really, a teen is a child until turning 18). We have a very quiet sex life, I don't feel much of a connection when we do with it always in the dark, it doesn't feel like other lovers I've had. I have a teenage son looking to bring a 14 year girlfriend home but I'm feeling very creeped out. He's asked me to wear a school dress before and I found a pair of pink stripy very childish stockings in his house he said an ex had (we have been together 2 years)

I'm thinking of leaving him - I don't think is normal behavoir and I'm worried I've got a oedophile on my hands. I don't even think I could be intimate again with him knowing the faconation he has for teenagers/children in my opinion

Am I overreacting ? Is this normal ?

Run like fuck. If this is what you know about him, can you imagine the secrets he’s managed to keep from you?

Ikr, he's been extremely gaurded with his phone all this time too

I would be out of there SO FAST.

Barely legal teen stuff is basically a cat's pube away from underage stuff, but blokes like it cos it's as close to being young as they can get without it being illegal. 🤮

I want to leave penis breaker, I've returned all his things,

I'm struggling with knowing is this just a harmless fantasy thing, do most men fantasize about teenagers but nothing about it ?

Why is he your partner when you already know all this creepy weird stuff about him ? Run as fast as you can .

NO ! Most men don't fantasize about having sex with teenagers ! Run !

I think the internet history + wierd behaviour around teens tells you all you need to know.

Your gut is telling you that you can't trust him around your sons GF- listen

I went through similar and not trusting my own judgement was gaslighted into believing it was my problem: 'all men like to look at younger women' etc.
It really really freaked me out and messed with my head to the point where I became quite mentally unwell. Not least because I have family history of abuse but for many other reasons too
It meant I couldn't even watch Rita and sue and Bob too which was one of my favourite films!
I ended up with PTSD and had trauma therapy which mainly worked but there are so many triggers everywhere I'll never be fully recovered.
Teen porn is a super popular genre. It doesn't make it right and just makes me despair for our kids and future relationships. Sadly, shit like this really makes me despise men. I know they're not all like it but it's so prevalent.
You need to be comfortable with your son bringing teenage girls home. What is it like for you when you're both around teenagers? I remember the anxiety and constant scanning for 'signs'.

I found a receipt for a virtual porn experience of watching a young teenage girl in her bedroom undressing. I'm pretty creeped out at the thought of my 41 year old male partner jacking off to teenagers (who are children really, a teen is a child until turning 18).
Hang on, are you saying these girls are underage?

Creepy!! Get rid asap!

The virtual porn was of a virtual young girl, maybe 15 in appearance. The participants watched her undress and bath, handing her the soap, that sort of thing :(. I think teen porn yes is underage tillytown

And dragonfly flew yes, I'm always watching him. I found out too that the first month we were dating he was seeing someone else. He had told me we won't see other ppl, to stop dating others, update my Facebook to in a relationship but then in his emails I found and email that said he had had another woman to his house in his bed a month into the relationship.

I replied below tillytown

Sorry to hear of your struggles dragonflyflew, I know what PTSD is like, is horrible. I'm tired of worrying about this guy, I think he might be a pedophile. Some of the random things he's said are not right too.

This is not normal. Get rid.

Thank you :)

It's difficult because what if all men do this, but he's just the one who got caught.

They really really don't. do you realise that if any of the participants are under 18, 'consensual' or otherwise, then they are illegal?

There's a law where you can find out if there's a convicted paedo in your midst. I remember the case that inspired it but ashamedly cannot remember the name.

Ikr it's making me sick, he's 41. I just can't get my head around it all, I'm still coming to terms with who is. His things were all packed and dropped at his door, I'm not talking to him and he knows why. I don't think I can understand or be ok with this.

Report him, and throw him out

There is unfortunately a massssiiiive industry for barely legal teen pornography, and yes you've guessed it, most of the consumers of such things are men who are two, three times the age of the girls in it. It was created BECAUSE vile men want an outlet for their urges which realistically, are urges for girls who are minors. The biggest thing for it is the idea of them is 'deflowering' and corrupting, taking someone's innocence away etc.

If he's being secretive and protective of his phone, god only knows what's on it. Blokes like porn. Fact of life, but his behaviour reeks of wanting to involve himself with minors if he was given the opportunity.

Oh Christ I almost threw up reading that!! Please please get shot of him fast... that’s not normal. Don’t let him talk you into anything that’s what they do, they groom everyone around them.

It's difficult because what if all men do this, but he's just the one who got caught

This kind of thinking is so sad. Women are so conditioned to think they need men.

First of all, all men do NOT do this. But even if they did, does that mean you should just put up with it? You would obviously be much better being alone.

I would really be alerting the police to make sure this is all actually women over 18 posing as younger teenagers.

Thank goodness you’ve left him. He’s vile.

I am a bit confused. OP are you moving out? Btw I would still ring the police and get his laptop analysed.
Call them! He'll just move on to the next.