41 yo partner watching teen porn, my teenager wants to bring a girl friend home

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I've noticed a few times my partner acting very weird around young women and teenagers. He's 41. He acts almost giddy forgetting everyone else around. I checked his internet history finding lots of teen porn, normal porn, teenagers stripping or in their bedrooms. I found a receipt for a virtual porn experience of watching a young teenage girl in her bedroom undressing. I'm pretty creeped out at the thought if my 41 year old male partner jacking off to teenagers (who are children really, a teen is a child until turning 18). We have a very quiet sex life, I don't feel much of a connection when we do with it always in the dark, it doesn't feel like other lovers I've had. I have a teenage son looking to bring a 14 year girlfriend home but I'm feeling very creeped out. He's asked me to wear a school dress before and I found a pair of pink stripy very childish stockings in his house he said an ex had (we have been together 2 years)

I'm thinking of leaving him - I don't think is normal behavoir and I'm worried I've got a oedophile on my hands. I don't even think I could be intimate again with him knowing the faconation he has for teenagers/children in my opinion

Am I overreacting ? Is this normal ?

I’m sceptical but all of this, but If it does happen to be true then Please contact the police about it!

Get rid right now and call the police to report him. What you have seen is probably the tip of the iceberg.

Most men do not fantasise about teenagers. This is awful. Get out

Revolting man. You are well rid.

Definitely get rid, you don't want that influence around your ds, also what if he told the police it was your ds accessing the images and charged him instead.

My God, what has happened to you to make you think all men do this? I adore my DH but he'd be out the door so fast his feet wouldn't touch the ground if I suspected any of this kind of shit..obviously!

Have you left him?

I’m surprised you’re asking. There is only one way to deal with this.

Move out, call the police and don’t alert him.

Is he the father of your DCs, OP?

Report him now!

I don't think all men do this. My DP is 30 and we have discussed pornography before. We don't watch it but it disturbs him what's out there legally, especially as he has a daughter. Teenage pornography is something only teenagers should watch (if they must!)

Acting giddy around young women and teenagers?! That's creepy as hell. The 'barely legal' porn stuff is bad enough, but if he is starting to act weird around real people in real life, that's stepping up to another level. Hurry up and leave/kick him out!

Please report him OP. He’s sounds vile and this has really shaken me this morning.
My stepfather saw fit to covertly record me and my sisters in various states of undress as young teenagers. My mother covered for him and he wasn’t reported until years later, when we were old enough to do it ourselves. I’m now 25 and still struggle with it.
Anyone who could get off on that sort of thing is someone who needs reporting, and then keeping far, far away from. Vile.

If you don't report him OP what does that make society?

All men are not like this!!

My DP can appreciate that much younger women are gorgeous & sexy, & he knows they sometimes practise flirting with older men (his stepdaughter was a bugger for this in her teens), but he doesn't find them sexually appealing or want to have sex with them or wank over porn with them in it

If you don't want to report him to the police you can report via crinestoppers. Problem is that unless a crime has been committed they are unlikely to look in to him. Absolutely worth reporting still even if it does just sit on a system as an intel log!

It's difficult because what if all men do this, but he's just the one who got caught.

They don't. Me and my bf are into some weird stuff. And he doesnt even watch porn. Just our own ideas and imaginations.

Hang on. What is Virtual Porn, with "participants"? You said the participants handed the girl soap

As no-one else has asked this, I'm wondering if I have led a sheltered life?!

I have PTSD, childhood abuse, extreme domestic volence that went on much too long and he is my first partner in years, my dad died three weeks ago - short answer - I've lost touch with my own instincts and feelings of right and wrong - then the partner/expartner who this post is about is say 'its just fantasy, all men look at that but most wouldn't act on it". But every post on here tells me otherwise

I'm struggling to make sense of it all, but I've packed his stuff, blocked his number but I'm struggling to think if all men do this, but judging from this post, I really think they don't

I went to my psychologust yesterday, we did a questionnaire about domestic violence and he ticked nearly all the boxes, from gaslighting to occasionally hitting or pushing to mind games and blaming me for every thing that goes wrong. I'm making a break from this partner of two years, thank God I didn't let him move in

No he was my partner of two years, but the children got quite attached to him as a stepfather

The virtual porn is a big red flag - just because it isn't a "real" child, doesn't mean it isn't illegal. There's a whole category of indecent images for cartoon, virtual, type things.

So sorry you've had such a tough time and sympathies for your recent loss.
You've got rid now, thats a big step. Now clear your head, be kind to yourself and give yourself plenty of tlc and time before you think of dating again x

Yeah, run for the hills. Those people that watch 'barely legal' stuff would have absolutely no problem going younger if it was legal. They rely on technicalities to justify their gross obsession with children.