Walked in with an erection

[mollymoomalone]

So my partner has a 3 year old with his ex, however he has only managed to ejaculate once in 18 months in bed with me. Albeit he is on heavy medication due to health problems he manages to ejaculate every day through self masterbation. Not really interested in sex just in me pleasuring him for hours to no good end 😢

Yesterday his ex visited , he was in the kitchen cooking and she went in there only for a minute and returned to the conservatory. A minute later he walked into the conservatory and put a cup on n the tab,le before immediately returning to the kitchen. I was gobsmacked to notice he had a definite erection sticking straight out in his shorts, I fo,lowed hi. The the kitchen and grabbed the said erection to prove my eyes weren’t deceiving me .

He says I’m being silly and he hadn’t even noticed ...it’s just because he had no pants on only loose football shorts

Not having a penis myself , I want to know is it possible that someone could not know that they had a semi erection when walking form one room to another ?... am I over reacting ?..

so he only gets an erection in the presence of his 22 years younger EX... I'd have his stuff already packed

inTheBoredroom

I can assure you my relationship is as far from abusive as it gets. I was speaking hypothetically because I would never be so disrespectful towards either my wife or house guests as to walk around parading an erection.

I find it curious that you are more focused on her reaction than his behaviour. Are you a bit of a flasher yourself?

Is anyone else reminded of the well known Bangles hit, Walk like an Egyptian "Walked in with an erection"?

Fuck sake inTheBoredroom calm down

He sounds like a nob to be honest (pardon the pun).

Who on earth wouldn't have taken that as a joke?!

I didn't get the impression he was "parading it" to another woman. More that she caused it by walking in the room (or that's Ops suspicion). Also whilst I think he would have known he had a semi, my first thought was that he didn't realise anyone else would be able to tell (because it was a semi). Thought he had got away with it, As it were.

The clarification of what happened re grabbing makes more sense. If I had erect nipples (only comparison I can think of) and DP pointed at them (and I could see what he was pointing out) I wouldn't be so surprised or feel as violated if he then proceeded to physical touch them, As in "DUH THIS!".

Quite a lot of inference in the above though

I don't think you can read too much into the erection
You do want to look into resolving the sex stuff

Are YOU sexually satisfied OP?

If so, then I disagree with the "LTB" comments & think they're a bit sexist - if it were you who struggled to orgasm during sex then I think people would be more sympathetic. Orgasms can be complicated for both sexes and lots of medications such as antidepressants) complicate them further.

However if you're not satisfied then I agree that you're probably sexually incompatible and you should consider waking away if it bothers you.

Who on earth wouldn't have taken that as a joke?!

Where does the OP indicate anywhere that it was a joke? What exactly was funny about it?

And for the record, I really, really wouldn't take someone grabbing my genitals to see if I was aroused by an ex as 'a joke.'

How low does this bar go again?

(and I know was said I was out, but I forgot to hide the thread so I'm not. Yet )

wow @inTheBoredroom you're in a foul mood today aren't you? This is the 3rd thread I've seen you on today in which you are zeroing in on an error, or poster, and just belittling, nitpicking, being rude and and generally being an arse.

@McFugget 😂 well now that’s going to be stuck in my head all day

I’m 56, he is 54, she is 32

Oh goodness I thought for a moment this might be Boris and the Mrs but his latest is 30 and she's not yet the ex.

Move on OP.

You deserve better.

@inTheBoredroom I don't disagree with you on the point only in your tone and agression in your posts. it leapt out at me perhaps because I came back to this thread having just sat and 'seen' you in action on another.

That said, we all have bad days, I hope you are ok and that whatever has caused your mood improves.

Despite not being able to ejaculate, he sounds extremely immature and uncontrolled if he 'has' to masturbate every day. Even more so if you have to do it for him. How tedious.

It all sounds quite revolting, get rid and hopefully you'll eventually find someone who doesn't put sexual release (I won't call it pleasure) at the top of their to do list, and treats you better.

Do you think he has not got over his ex? I can see why you would think that.

He sounds grim to be honest - wanking all the time, wanting you to give him handjobs, flopping round the kitchen with no pants on, parading erections infront of visitors, no sexual satisfaction for you.

What is his take on him not being able to ejaculate with you? It is clearly not medical or he wouldn't be able to wank. It is either psychological and possible a sign he is holding himself back from you - literally and in terms of commitment. Or it is because he can not now come from normla sex because he is so used to porn and the death grip of wanking. He could do something about either of those things if he could be bothered. Can he be bothered?

I'm assuming he does not spend hours trying to help you orgasm?

Stop being his dick slave. He sounds selfish, and from what you say, it doesn't seem that he finds you sexually attractive and has no interest in improving your sex life. Set him free in porn land and move on.

why are you with a partner who doesn't find you attractive ? What are you hoping to get out the relationship ?

You grabbing his penis is just not On!

I don't think its fair to jump to porn use. I think its perfectly possible for men to struggle to ejaculate due to their individual anatomy just as some women struggle to orgasm also. Some people don't do it at all.

Yes, but he does do it. Every single day. From my (sadly personally) experience, I can pretty much guarantee he’s watching a lot of porn.

“have no idea what threads you've followed me through but funnily enough, I'm in a foul mood. However, this is the thread where I'm talking to a poster who seems to be in a very fucked-up relationship and thinks 'minor' sexual abuse is ok because it could be worse.

Do you not see that? If not, you're in need of help too.”
No, you really aren’t talking to a poster who thinks abuse is okay. You’ve either deliberately or accidentally misread what one poster wrote and are clearly in a pissy mood and have totally overreacted. It would be nice if one day someone on the Internet could admit they were wrong. Tenner says it won’t happen here though.

Sounds like a selfish knob. And what grown adult HAS to wank every day?! Jesus christ.

I didn't realise blokes got random erections actually after the age of about 15. Except like..waking with one, which is a bit different.

I agree with @intheboredroom in principle. If a man posted that he had forced his hands on a woman's genitals to see if they were sexually aroused there would be uproar. However, i do think the OP worded it badly.

Likewise if a man jokingly posted that he would physically hit a woman in the genitals if he suspected arousal, joke or not hed be ripped to bits.

I love how you grabbed his erection to prove your eyes weren't deceiving you.

I don’t.
Yuck.
I can’t imagine how violated I would feel if dh grabbed my private area without permission to prove a point. That was really unpleasant.

God so he will make you pleasure him for hours and masturbate himself but not ejaculate with you?? That's very strange. He must have some kind of fetish and maybe vanilla doesn't do it for him?!