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Would you do a test even though you knew you weren't

346 replies

Whatisthishelp · 10/09/2018 09:57

Hi all,

What would you all do in my situation? DH and I have been told that we have less than a 1% chance of getting pregnant naturally (problems on both sides) and we have had one failed IVF attempt, which although worked, it didn't stick and we had what the clinic classed as an early miscarriage. We were told to keep trying naturally which we have, although not religiously (I really struggled with the first round and now believe that my body doesn't work anyway so what's the point). We are waiting for a second round, I just need to lose a bit more weight before we can do so, but my weight loss is steady, not drastic and I've been regular throughout so don't think this is the cause, but my period is now 6 days late with no signs of showing up (none of my normal pmt symptoms). I am normally fairly regular. Is there any point in doing a test and being disappointed even though I know really there is no chance of being pregnant, or would you just wait it out until it arrives. I could I guess being perimenopausal (I'm 38). I have no signs that would make me think I could be pregnant, apart from fatigue (which isn't a new thing to me). Don't really know why I am posting, just wondered what others would do? x

OP posts:
legocardsagain · 14/09/2018 14:20

Don't let DH read the result. I got my DH to check after our 2nd round of IVF. I was testing early so didn't see a negative as game over.

He said it was negative. The next day I tested again. He said it was negative. I looked at it. It was positive, and so was the one from the day before! Doh.

Best of luck 🤞

TrumpsTinyCheesyWotsit · 14/09/2018 14:28

Good luck OP. I am crossing everything for you!

Snoopychildminder · 14/09/2018 14:36

❤️❤️ everything crossed for you OP

AspieHere · 14/09/2018 14:43

We were told it was unlikely I'd ever get pregnant without IVF. I have 2 children, both naturally conceived.

Someone in work this week said they know a family who had failed IVF, couldn't have children etc. Woman is now pregnant with her second, both conceived after failed IVF.

Fingers crossed for you OP!

I used to get cramps every month. 1 month had them, knew that meant AF was appearing that day. Nothing happened. VERY unusual for me. That was the month I had my first positive result.

Enko · 14/09/2018 15:04

OP just wanted to say that what you describe as headachy and low pains was how my very early pregnancy symptoms felt. I was convinced I was getting my period. I was charting my temperatures so knew differently but I still could not belive it was just like that..

Good luck for tomorrow & have a lovely Saturday if its not the result I think all of us here is hoping for.

JLG19 · 14/09/2018 15:39

FWIW OP, I have a constant headache, feel exhausted and have mild stabby pains in my tummy - 7 weeks pregnant tomorrow!

Good luck, I'm so hopeful for you!

armsandtheman · 14/09/2018 15:54

I just wanted to say good luck. It took 4 years to get my miracle and so much heartache. I really hope things work out for you x

Whatisthishelp · 14/09/2018 17:13

You are all so so lovely, makes a world of difference knowing you’re all routing for us and a miracle and that a fair few posters have had their own miracles against all the odds, so pleased it has all worked out for you all!!

No AF as yet but can’t help feeling it’s on the way, I’m going to the loo literally every hour just to check I haven’t started!!! —trying not to get hopes up!!—

OP posts:
Whatisthishelp · 14/09/2018 17:14

@legocardsagain, that made me laugh! Bless him!! X

OP posts:
Babytalkobsession · 14/09/2018 17:16

Everything crossed for you!

AuLoinSontVontLesNuages · 14/09/2018 19:06

Wishing you luck from afar

Would you do a test even though you knew you weren't
FrederickCreeding · 14/09/2018 20:56

Good luck. I totally understand you not wanting to get your hopes up, but I do think ultimately it will be better for you to know one way or another. False hope can be a very hard thing to deal with.

I'm keeping everything crossed for you though that it's good news tomorrow.

SammySays · 14/09/2018 21:02

Got everything crossed for you OP. Good luck! Xx

Rebe90 · 14/09/2018 21:06

Good luck!!!

MakeLemonade · 14/09/2018 21:08

Got my fingers cross for you OP 🤞🏼

DinosaurPoop · 14/09/2018 21:11

Fingers crossed for the morning for
you both OP...got a little bit emotional for you reading this but I have had a gin or 2 Grin

BrynsPicasso · 14/09/2018 21:42

Good luck! Xxx

OptimisticIntrovert · 14/09/2018 21:45

Bless you OP I know that paradox so well... don't want to test/ don't want to not test.
If it helps at all it took me 5 years ttc to get my bfp so it can happen.
Good luck either way x x

Huntlybyelection · 14/09/2018 21:53

Fingers crossed from here x

twoheaped · 14/09/2018 22:00

Fingers crossed for tomorrow.

starryeyedsnowgirl · 14/09/2018 22:01

Good luck!

Scarydinosaurs · 14/09/2018 22:06

All the very best for tomorrow xxx

LetsHaveAnotherGo · 14/09/2018 22:07

Everything crossed for you here OP!
Hope there's two lines glowing like beacons for you tomorrow Grin

ivegotthisyeah · 14/09/2018 22:10

Good luck Wink

BeeBum · 14/09/2018 22:11

So much luck and baby dust and stickiness etc etc for you OP and lots of love too