Husband no longer attracted to me due to weight loss...

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I’m struggling with round 3 of an eating disorder, 36 with DH and DS, age 3. It was triggered by stress incl dealing with DH’s burnout at work and depression, a toddler, a further round of narcissistic abuse from Mum, financial worries and my demanding job.... this morning though DH told me I look like I should be in hospital and he doesn’t feel he can have sex with someone so ‘sick’ :( I am not actually that thin according to bmi, and I think that I’ve got plenty of muscle and am actually quite chubby on the belly and thighs (I run....ran 30km this morning so not exactly about to keel over). I can’t gain any weight back- I’m aiming to lose a bit more then maintain it there. But what do I do? Can I somehow convince him that I’m well and get over this block? Is it his antidepressants as well? I’m really into him and want him, so this hurts... thank you for reading.

OP, you know you’re very poorly. You know it deep down. As you’ve been there a couple of times before, you know what you need to do. And an eating disorder is an eating disorder whether you’re starving yourself, restricting food, bingeing and purging or over exercising. Often people start with one of those, seem to recover for a while and then start again a a while later with a different symptom (e.g. a classic anorexic could be seen to recover but then become orthorexic and start over exercising. They think they’re being healthy, but the goal is still to reduce their body size and the destructive thoughts are still the same, so therefore they are still very unwell with an ED).

Please get help. You really need it.

@Lostandfound81

Bravo. Such a heartening post to read

I am under ED MH team. BMI 18.5 and I'm like "that's ok" - it's has been 17.5.

Nurse says actually 18.5 is only healthy for very few people and for most it's under weight.
And just cos periods haven't stopped doesn't mean you're not ill. And just cos you can run 15 miles in one go doesn't mean you're not ill. Really, the ED in your head is very good at deluding you.

Sorry MNHQ, just seen your comment re BMI numbers. Happy for you to delete my post.