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Is sending a naked picture cheating?

106 replies

Tilly30 · 04/09/2018 23:24

My boyfriend of 4 years sent a picture of his d*ck to another women along with sex talk etc. He denies that it’s cheating and I should be lucky as it could of been worse. Do you think it’s a form of cheating? Or am I going crazy?! Ever since then the trust has completely gone and I can’t seem to trust him. HELP!

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AsleepAllDay · 08/09/2018 04:56

Dick pic and sex chat = prelude to sex so yes. If the person on the other end gave him a favourable report and wanted to meet up, he would go and physically cheat too

Thebluedog · 08/09/2018 07:04

Yep it’s cheating Flowers

JacNaylor · 08/09/2018 07:08

Well yes I'd class it as cheating but it's kind of beside the point here.
He did something really horrible and personally hurtful to you and is making you feel like it's YOU who has the problem. That's the real issue here, of course the trust has gone because he's a massive arse!!
Please move on, give yourself a chance to meet somebody who actually cares about your feelings.

KlutzyDraconequus · 08/09/2018 07:09

Someone doing anything with someone else that they wouldn't want their partner to know about is cheating.
From flirting, secret messaging to full sex, as soon as they decide to hide what's happening, they braking trust, they're choosing someone else over the feelings of their partner and therefore they're cheating imo.

BitchQueen90 · 08/09/2018 07:13

Yes, it's cheating.

I personally would never forgive a cheat but I think to do so the cheater would have to show remorse, be sorry that they hurt you and do whatever it takes to fix the relationship.

From what you've said it sounds like your partner doesn't give a shit so to forgive him in those circumstances would be madness to be honest.

Funicorn · 08/09/2018 07:33

Yes it is cheating and his attitude stinks as well . Time to move on .

Laureline · 08/09/2018 07:33

He’s a disgusting moron, get rid.

HawthornLantern · 08/09/2018 09:27

Do you want to get the trust back? If this is how your boyfriend defends a slam dunk case of cheating, how is he likely to react (how has he reacted) in other scenarios where he’s done something that has hurt you?

It doesn’t seem likely that he’ll ever see something as his fault or that you are someone he should put first.

I’d trust him to put his own interests far above yours and I think it’s time up on a relationship where he thinks he’s entitled to behave like this. You are worth so much more.

rumred · 08/09/2018 09:35

Regardless of defining cheating, why would you want to be with such a horrible person? In the old days we called this flashing and done by dodgy inadequate men. He sounds like one of these men

Claw001 · 08/09/2018 09:56

How can you work on getting any trust back, if he doesn’t feel he has done anything wrong?

MistressDeeCee · 08/09/2018 10:13

Even if it wasn't cheating, this idiot is taking pics of his dick and sending them to women, WHAT is appealing about someone like this?

I am fully convinced that any man, no matter how cheap sexist nasty and offensive, can get a woman somewhere who will crave a relationship with him and twist herself into knots for him. Bloody depressing, so much for living in modern times where women have choices now.

tillytop · 09/09/2018 19:22

Have you decided what to do Tilly30? Are you ok and do you have some trusted family, friends for support?

Oddcat · 09/09/2018 19:31

For some reason I find sending dick pics almost worse than having a physical affair- it's just so sleazy .

mariniere · 09/09/2018 19:33

Not only cheating I would also question whether I wanted to be with a man who thought a dick pic was something appealing to do? Vile. Vote with your feet OP. He won’t change.

mariniere · 09/09/2018 19:34

X post Oddcat. Agree with you, awful behaviour

findingmywaytoday · 09/09/2018 22:03

Yes it is cheating. Not sure how you'll get trust back when he doesn't seem to think he has done anything wrong...

OICU812 · 15/04/2021 17:28

This has been my experience. I found my boyfriend of just over 2 years, had been sexting through different social media sites, ex. Instagram, pinterest and he had profiles on a few dating sites. After screenshotting and documenting all the evidence, I confronted him. After he wore out every possible excuse and failed every attempt to place his guilt on my shoulders. He realized his narcaccistic fallbacks weren't going to win against his own words and photos. He deleted or took down the sites n profiles to show me i meant more to him. Yeeup my dumbass fell for it. At 3 and a half yrs into relationship, i again found nude selfies in his phones gallery trash bin, that were dated 3 days b4 my finding them. Lesson Learned: Even a snake sheds his skin, but no matter how many times, he's still a snake

JorisBonson · 15/04/2021 17:42

Zombie thread.

ZaZathecat · 15/04/2021 18:03

I don't care if it's cheating or not, it's gross and I'd lose all respect for him which would mean it's over.

JustSleepAlready · 15/04/2021 18:04

How awful for you. What a complete wanker. Get rid. You’re worth better and more than that.

CirqueDeMorgue · 15/04/2021 18:21

Pretty sure my bf would think I'd cheated if I sent nudes to another guy.

Isitsixoclockalready · 15/04/2021 18:26

Wow this an old thread but of course it's cheating.

Gyh863 · 15/04/2021 18:34

Well what does he think about you sending photos of your tits to other guys? I think we already know don't we.

Notjustabrunette · 15/04/2021 18:38

If someone in a relationship is doing something with some else they feel they have to hide from their partner, I would consider that cheating.

Lozzerbmc · 15/04/2021 18:56

Yes its cheating! Forgive at your peril. He will do it again and what else has he done that you havent discovered? I forgave a partner for being on dating app - guess what he did it again!