Had an argument, DD won't talk to me.

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DD (24) and I had an argument over the phone a few days ago. I exchanged a few choice words with her and as a result she's now blocked my number and her father's number which I think is a bit extreme. I've been texting her friends but she must have told them something, because all of them are ignoring me. Feeling v frustrated, what can I do??

Bloody hell - back off! Now wonder she won't give you her address!

She is 24 - an adult
There must be issues between you if you don't have her address and think she is selfish
Leave her alone

You sound exactly like my mother. I feel like crying at the mere thought of being in the same room as her. Suffice to say I avoid as much contact with her as possible. If you care even a tiny bit about your daughter, back off, let her live her life and stop judging her. She s hurting a hundred times more than you are and you can make that stop.

I don't know her exact address as she refuses to tell me what it is (another point of contention between us).

If you are for real (and I think you might be a troll after reading the above) then you need help. Find a Counsellor who can talk to you about how you move your life forward.

You demanded and didn't get the response you wanted so verbally abused her and then went on to contact her friends?
I'd block you too.
On top of everything you have embarrassed her within her peer group.
I don't know how you can make roads back from that one.
My DD is 25. I treat her and she treats me as an adult.

You called her names for not going to a family dinner? Seriously? You need to back the fuck off lady! Your daughter is a grown woman, I'm not surprised you don't have her address! I can't believe you phoned her friends, my god I'd have killed my mum if she pulled a stunt like that.

Crikey.
You fell out with her because she didn't want to come to a family event with people (or a person) who she finds it awkward to get on with.
You called her names.
You contacted her friends (how do you know their numbers?)
She finds you so overbearing as a mother that she doesn't feel able to tell you where she lives, and has had to block you.
What else are you going to drip feed us?

Go get some therapy. For both of yours sake.

If you are for real (and I think you might be a troll after reading the above) then you need help. Find a Counsellor who can talk to you about how you move your life forward.

Actually, not giving your address to a toxic mother who doesn't respect boundaries isn't that rare, and doesn't scream troll to me.

The OP clearly sees motherhood as being able to have full control over their child, and when they don't they can treat them like shit and call them all kinds of awful names and then badgers her friends when she wants to talk again. A lot of people go NC and don't give their addresses to parents like this.

If this is real, I'm with your daughter.

OP I had a similar relationship with my Mum, and I backed off completely because I couldn’t bear always being belittled, bullied and bossed. It’s exhausting.

She and I did fix things, eventually, but it took her cancer diagnosis for both of us to realise that we didn’t have time to fuck about being petty. The two years we had together were wonderful (in terms of the relationship we built together) and we were closer than I’d ever thought we could be.

Now? My god I wish we’d both put that shit to one side before we’d had to and not wasted so much bloody time.

Who calls their kid names? For anything never mind a family dinner?! You sound awful.

I'd have loved to be one of the friends! Imagine if you got a call or a text from your friends mum to say that your friend won't to me God! As the friend Id be mortified!

And I bet you .spend the whole time at the family dinner slagging off your daughter.
Disfunctional doesn't begin to describe the situation OP.