The ex is moving his tart in.

[MiaWallace]

Ex has just informed me that as soon as I move out of our house (in a few weeks) he will be moving in with his gf.

We split up a few months ago but before he moved out (and within a week of us spliting)I found her earings on my bedside table.

As well as her moving into my home and playing happy families with my daughter every weekend, she's even taken over my gym memembership.

I feel like this woman has stolen my life. She is welcome to the ex but does she have to take everything else?

I am no longer going to justify my opinion. I don't expect everyone to agree with me but I do stand by what I said.

Well I agree with you completely and by the way further to what you said below and the stick you got for using the word tart, I think you're being generous towards that woman.

sorry did that make any sense? point is, I would be using even stronger words.

Well what you say is the logical approach madamez but logic and sense often don't come what is a very emotional and upsetting time.

And you don't get more emotional than the end of a relationship, do you?

When folk (not pointing fingers) come out with stuff like that then it's denigrating the very really hurt and pain that someone suffers.

Can anyone honestly say they have never felt like this?

Janos: not pointing fingers at anyone here but just because a person is suffering hurt and pain doesn't entitle them to pass it on in the form of abuse. There have been quite a few threads on here advocating physical assault ,against ex-partners and their new partners, slander and criminal damage which all seem to be regarded as acceptable if it's a woman punishing a man or "other" woman for ending a relationship or choosing to have sex with someone else.
I find this unethical as well as depressing.

Ambercat I think I love you....
I said prawns too .

Easy to be high and mighty and ever so righteous and proper if you are the one who hasn't been hurt humiliated and shat all over by someone who you care/d about and at one time cared about you - sometimes here(not in RL) is a place to rant and let off steam and not be so bloody pissy about what people say here on the wonderful web ....
and if you mean my comment about "smacking the OW one" if you weren't so busy being on the MN mafia you would have realised it was meant very much TIC (as I think I said I am not violent and have never hot anyone but many a time dreamt of beating the OW bloody and well within my rights)...

oh god and before another mafia memeber comes along - well within my rights to IMAGINE doing it am not actually advocating doing it - wish this place was not so bloody literal ......

madamez, there is a huge difference in ending a relationship in the right, decent and grown up way, and humping some slapper in the marital bed.
I think MW has been quite reserved in her description of said tart.

Kimi: it's possible to feel great hurt, rage and anguish if someone has ended a relationship in a 'proper' way, if you were the person who wanted the rleationship to continue. No one likes being dumped. But in the long run, it's often easier and quicker to heal if you can tell yourself that you behaved with dignity and grace rather than wasting your time and energy plotting or carrying out a revenge.

madamez, as far as I'm concerned I have acted with dignity and grace. The worst think I've done in all this is label her a tart ffs.

And just so you have the facts straight I didn't get dumped, I finished it with him because I couldn't get over an affair he had last year. Doesn't mean it didn't hurt or I didn't have feelings left. That's why I tried to hard to make it work over the last year.

Please don't be so quick to judge unless you've been in a similar position.

The ladies on this thread who have been through the same thing all believe my reaction is justified. That's because they know how bad it feels.

Poor you, Mia. I know someone in a similar situation. It's horrible and these things take a lot of ranting and raving to work through. It's really difficult when people have other points of view. It's not what you need right now. I have really felt like spitting at an ex boyfriend. I think that was pretty mild. Keep spitting tacks till you feel better!

madamez : I think I had one of the most grown up and civilized break ups on the face of the earth.

I think MW is well within her rights to call the tart a tart though.

Think rationally

If I have read this right, you finished with him for being unfaithful last year?

He immediately took up with a new partner.

You left him in the marital home and he is having sex with his new partner in the bed that is left there?

Now look at it the other way, he left you, you met someone and took them home, where is the wrong in that? Honestly?

Yes it is hurtful when someone moves on so quickly (took mine 3 weeks) but why are you hurt? I was pissed off that I was replaced so easily. I ended the relationship and hurt him deeply but I wanted him to hurt for ever (pure spite) Not because I wanted him though, never felt that

Mine was a man that couldn't/wouldn't live alone, alot of men are like this. They see having a partner as a sign of virility. You dumped him, ego crushed, get another in......look all man lol

It is a difficult time but I think you need to get your tough head on. Bitterness, hurt and anger are not healthy and it will be you alone that hurts if you keep hold of it