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The ex is moving his tart in.

114 replies

MiaWallace · 04/06/2007 21:25

Ex has just informed me that as soon as I move out of our house (in a few weeks) he will be moving in with his gf.

We split up a few months ago but before he moved out (and within a week of us spliting)I found her earings on my bedside table.

As well as her moving into my home and playing happy families with my daughter every weekend, she's even taken over my gym memembership.

I feel like this woman has stolen my life. She is welcome to the ex but does she have to take everything else?

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Original poster
MiaWallace · 04/06/2007 22:57

oh and there's me thinking my name was original

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kimi · 04/06/2007 22:58

put a dead rat behind the freezer......

Original poster
MiaWallace · 04/06/2007 22:58

My revenge will be walking away and watching them destroy each other over. With their standards I doubt it will be long before they are cheating on each other.

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MiaWallace · 04/06/2007 22:59

Random 'over' sneaked into that sentence. Don't know where that came from

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kimi · 04/06/2007 22:59

I could set up my own website here.... revenge is sweet . com

BreeVanDerCamp · 04/06/2007 23:01

Sorry MW, someone had a variation on that name Christmas 2004.

LGJ is fully aware that she has been here toooooooooooo long.

Chugnuts · 04/06/2007 23:02

Bree - Me too. I can't remember the useful stuff but somehow remember previous posting names of people who haven't been on here for ages.

FlossALump · 04/06/2007 23:02

Going through the horrible time MW is atm she can call either of the two of them who have hurt her wtf she pleases. Really don't think a thread which is looking for support is really the place to be arguing about a fairly mild insult. Good luck with your course and new life MW.

Greensleeves · 04/06/2007 23:02
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MiaWallace · 04/06/2007 23:09

Thanks FlossAlump. Really looking forward to my new life.

This thread has really made me realise I'm strong enough to move on and build a better life.

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macdoodle · 05/06/2007 00:16

Good for you wish I could stupid OW slept in my bed in my old flat (which DH had moved into) which she knew we had bought and lived in together whn first married - TBH I really don't get it I would feel like second best (which is what they are)

alipiggie · 05/06/2007 00:21

I really feel for you I truly understand how you feel and I also believe that "tart" is a very kind word to call her. He might have been married but it didn't stop her sleeping in the marital bed did it. Believe me I called my h's bit on the side a lot worse than that and still do. Sending you all my sympathy.

macdoodle · 05/06/2007 00:27

hehe me too I have some choice words for mine have called them all to her face too

eidsvold · 05/06/2007 03:50

well mia - years later you will be looking fab and run into them looking very large ( where previously they had been very slim and obsessed with looks) and looking like life had beat them down.

Happened to me - just recently ran into them after 13/14 years and they looked old and saggy and like life had sapped them of everything. I was no model BUT i looked well ( despite having just had 3rd c-section) and was dressed well and with a smile on my face. It was fab to then see them try and hide ( behind a glass cabinet) for my ex-best friend to try and cop a look at me too I just laughed and bloody hell it felt good.

As for tart again - you are being ever so polite I said a whole lot worse - including calling her various things to her father!!

a life well lived is the best revenge.

eidsvold · 05/06/2007 03:50

i would have said it to her face had she ever had the guts to see me!!

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MiaWallace · 05/06/2007 08:05

eidsvold that's a great story. Loved the fact they tried to hide behind a glass cabinet - Idiots.

I really am looking forward to watching my life go from strength to strength. I will be fulfilling a life ambition to go to uni soon. I believe I'm a good role model to my daughter and when she is older she will realise I handled the situation with dignity. Plus if I do meet someone, I know I can begin a relationship with no guilt and without the fear of it being on the rebound.

In the meantime I have no doubt they will destroy each other, with jealousy and mistrust.

Well that's karma for you. I can't wait

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OrmIrian · 05/06/2007 08:11

I don't think "tart" is that extreme TBH. Anyway I think that she probably conforms to the definition of the word.

Anyway.... she's unlikely to visit this site so I don't suppose she'll care. A harmless way to vent frustration and anger I would say.

compo · 05/06/2007 08:12

Who owns the house?
Shouldn't it be sold and the proceeds split down the middle for each of you?

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MiaWallace · 05/06/2007 08:26

The house is rented. All possessions have been split equally so that's been sorted amicably thankfully.

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mylittlestar · 05/06/2007 08:39

for you mia

But sounds like you have a great future ahead of you and you realise you'll be better off without him.
You're right, they will probably end up cheating on each other and making each other truly miserable. Not that you'll care by then, I'm sure.

In your op you're obviously sad and angry that she has just taken over everything... but very soon you'll be glad it's her stuck in that life and not you!

Good luck and stay strong.

overdraft · 05/06/2007 08:56

for what it's worth If I saw a man who moves his girlfriend into a home he shared with his wife and they worked out together with wifes gym membership he would be a bloody laughing stock.was new for old on his insurance policy. Why can't men be on their own ever.
How old is this woman anyway ? sounds like she is playing house. Is she the full ticket? What sort of woman would do this.
Also think Tart is mild.

overdraft · 05/06/2007 08:57

I would leave all the clothes I didn't want incase she wanted them too

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MiaWallace · 05/06/2007 09:36

overdraft you have hit the nail on the head. He can't cope on his own. The longest he has been single since he was 15 years old is 2 months. This gap was between him finishing with his ex and meeting me. He is scared to be alone and is totally dependant on other people.

As far as she's concerned, he's already said to me that he thinks she maybe a bit of a 'bunny boiler'. She constantly phones and text him when he's not with her. She must feel insecure knowing what he's capable of.

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NKF · 05/06/2007 09:38

Good luck to you in your new life. I wouldn't be in her shoes, moving into your house. I'd say you've got the better deal by far.

FioFio · 05/06/2007 09:40

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