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The ex is moving his tart in.

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MiaWallace · 04/06/2007 21:25

Ex has just informed me that as soon as I move out of our house (in a few weeks) he will be moving in with his gf.

We split up a few months ago but before he moved out (and within a week of us spliting)I found her earings on my bedside table.

As well as her moving into my home and playing happy families with my daughter every weekend, she's even taken over my gym memembership.

I feel like this woman has stolen my life. She is welcome to the ex but does she have to take everything else?

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KerryMum · 04/06/2007 22:14

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BreeVanDerCamp · 04/06/2007 22:14

MW did you used to be EM ?

winniepoo · 04/06/2007 22:15

I'd leave the odd prawn under the carpet!

Heathcliffscathy · 04/06/2007 22:15

it's not a question of semantics. this thread title is odious in the extreme.

i'm gone as evidently the stance that is de rigeur on these thread is hang them both.

very helpful.

TaylorsMummy · 04/06/2007 22:15

how about a nice piece of cod behind the radiator?? (in the bedroom)

SockPuppetOfDeath · 04/06/2007 22:17

Well, I'm sure we can all learn from your measured attitude.

KerryMum · 04/06/2007 22:17

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TaylorsMummy · 04/06/2007 22:18

what would you do sophable,give them a bloody house warming gift? they are a pair of shits,plain and simple.nothing wrong with the word tart in this case,imo.

BreeVanDerCamp · 04/06/2007 22:18

Sophable

Have you never been hurt by someones actions ?

When people are hurt they lash out, and human nature being what it is it is not always well thought out and logical.

For all we know MW could be putting a very good face on it in public and this could be her only release.

Shame she is being denied it.

snowwonder · 04/06/2007 22:19

prawns into the bottom of the curtains or into curtain pole if you have them and they are hollow....

she must be worried as in getting with her he has now created a vacancy for the next mug

WelshBoris · 04/06/2007 22:19

I think sophable is trying to help, reminding the OP that she should be taking her anger out on her XP no the woman.

Greensleeves · 04/06/2007 22:23

I'm not sure sophable, I agree he is a stupid selfish pig and the blame for her pain lies with him. But there's no denying that a woman who knowingly sleeps with a married man - in the marital bed ffs - is behaving like a bastard as well. IMO. Why can't she hate them both? I bloody would.

ViciousSquirrelSpotter · 04/06/2007 22:24

I don't think the use of the word tart in this context implies the OP doesn't blame the ex as much as said "tart" though

kimi · 04/06/2007 22:40

Make sure before you move out you sew prawns in to the curtain linings, poor fat down every drain and wet all the soft furnishings and put cress seeds on them.

Also if your mad enough, pee on his clothes!

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MiaWallace · 04/06/2007 22:43

wow this thread took off when I wasn't looking.

Firstly let me address the tart label. No I don't blame her as much as my ex (partner and father to my dd NEVER my dh thankfully).
I do think its justified to call someone a tart if she came into my home, screwed in my bed (he might have been my ex but only for a week), hid in my study when I came home and then plans to move into my home asap. She is a tart without any morals, but as you state, she never went out to intentional hurt me, she doesn't know me, and I hope for her sake, she never gets to meet me.

As far as he's concerned, I'm very confused. Of course he is still the father to my dd and we spent a huge part of my adult life with him. I will try and maintain a civil relationship with him for the sake of our dd.

As far as the prawns go, so so tempting but I want to walk awake with my head held high knowing I didn't sink to their level.

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MiaWallace · 04/06/2007 22:46

oh and Bree I was never EM (trying to work out who you think I could have been )

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eidsvold · 04/06/2007 22:48

and but for you and your dd to start a new life much better than the other one.

i would have thought 'tart' was a mild form of what she could be called. I know when my dh took off with my married best friend - they both coped a lot of names etc BUT she also went into this knowing he was married so that says a lot about her and her morals as far as I am concerned - as much as it says about this woman.

winniepoo · 04/06/2007 22:50

Why the fuck can't we support one another - surely anyone can understand a women calling her ex's new partner a tart especially when it is anonymous - fgs if you haven't got anything supportive/practical or funny to reply to the op then move on...without typing.

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MiaWallace · 04/06/2007 22:51

I couldn't agree more eidsvold. She knew exactly what she was doing, she's far from innocent in all this. If she had done nothing wrong, why would she hide in the study when I came home?

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kimi · 04/06/2007 22:51

Ohhh lets see, she slept with a man who had a family, in the bed in the home he sheared with that family.... is she a tart.... NO she's a filthy home wrecking whore..... and so is he.

MW, you hold your head high, but let me know where you live and I will sew in the prawns for you

Chugnuts · 04/06/2007 22:53

EM had a similar name to MW but not exactly the same IIRC.

I bet you'll end up having the last laugh, MW. at both of them.

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MiaWallace · 04/06/2007 22:54

If he had waited just a few months (or even weeks) before getting involved with someone else, I wouldn't be making the same judgments on this woman. The fact that she knowingly got involved with him (in my bloody bed)when we were still living together, makes me feel justified in calling her whatever I choose. Thank you to those who realise this.

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MiaWallace · 04/06/2007 22:55

Don't tempt me kiwi

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BreeVanDerCamp · 04/06/2007 22:55

Chuguts you are right, the other one was MrsMiaWallaceIsawyoupeeping if I remember correctly.

LGJ

kimi · 04/06/2007 22:57

Or you could spam them to death....