Dating Thread 138: Hotter Than July

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11.Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

@YeahCorvid How about saying something about picking up from where you left off...?

I'm just checking in after a few days away. I have a coffee date with MrGig tomorrow. That's my third date off POF and still not a sausage from Bumble - not a single match in over a week so might bin it off for a while.

Whoop, whoop Vet! So exciting.

Vet - amazing!!! Time to buy a hat xxx 😂🤣

Next date set up for Thursday night - with a lovely nurse who works just down the road from me.

Omg what does your thing say vet? I'm on my phone and can't seeeeeee

de-lurking to say omg vet how amazing! its like something from a film

daffo vet has booked flights to canada for start of september ✈️

its like something from a film

I know... it is a bit. I'm hoping more of a love story than a horror

Daffo I'm clinically insane flying to Canada next weekend for 12 days. It's all very intense and amazing over video etc. but we need to know if it's real. Worst case scenario I'll go to Jasper and do some hiking!

Omg I am so pleased for you. Fingers crossed it all works out x

Morning thread :)

Just a quick check in, haven't managed to read all the updates, but vet I am routing for you! How bloody exciting! I think its fabulous after Mr DM that you have had that spark with someone, goes to show when it feels good, it feels good.

I am in the middle of WW3 to do with my extended family, my ex is being a grade A dickhead. Still talking to Mr Surfer/Ski and will see him next week. I have kept it at arms length this last 10 days as my family are here and I don't have the emotional energy to be with him. he is lovely though, texting every day, asking how I am etc.

Managed to escape a couple of times to see FWB. Its amazing, we have a wonderful time, I like him a lot, but I am just about managing to keep it all in check. I praised him on his bedroom skills the other day, he told me I need to sleep with "many many more men" so I can see he is just a normal guy (he isn't, he is just being modest, which makes him even more fab). He is so liberal its unreal. But he is good for me for now.

Had a few surf lessons, I still have my eye on the spanish instructor. He was checking me out yesterday in my bikini (my sister saw ;) Its my big 40 on Friday, he will be joing us on the night out. My aim is to snog him, and kick off my 40s with a bang. Mwahahahahaha (he is younger, but he is funny and very very gorgeous)

Other than that I am determined I don't want a conventional committed relationship right now, I am having a LOT of fun and most of my boxes ticked. If only I could merge them into one man...............

Go for it vet what have you got to loose. so exciting

Thanks pudding... even over messaging it feels so so different to Mr Disappearing Dickhead - we never talked on the phone ever and, well, yeah, it just feels different to everything so far, as in ever, but it's not really real until it's real and all that! Roll on next Saturday, I'm like a kid waiting for Christmas 😄 Thanks everyone else as well!

Your 40s are going to be awesome, you will be snogging the face off Mr Surf Instructor, I know it!!

vet omg! Well done you! That's so exciting!

dan I'll take a look at your profile if you like. I'm brutally honest 😂

Wow @VetOnCall this is proper exciting stuff! None of us will find love without taking risks but it is still brave to do what you are doing. Fingers crossed!

@pudding21 Oh well done. Just....yes!

Is it possible to just be too ugly / unattractive for OLD? I've always put my lack of success with women down to not having much in the looks department

It's not how you look but who you are that counts Dan.

As mentioned previously on this thread, everyone has their own perspective on physical attractiveness and to think that you are 'lacking' in any way is self-defeating and unattractive in and of itself.

Keep going with the confident and funny messages and you will have success.

Awesome news Vet - what a difference a few weeks makes, eh! Hope it goes well and you enjoy Canada, whatever the outcome.

Well done rich! You're next target is to get another date lined up this week...

pudding if you could merge all your ticked boxes into one man he'd be... dangerous, wouldn't he!?

Corvid just be open and honest about what you want - us men really do appreciate that approach you know!

Kin dangerous? No he'd be fucking perfect ;)

Mr surf/ski is emotionally available and well, kind and gentle.
Mr FWB is my perfect match sexually, slightly bonkers, very practical, non material, local and just a little bit older than me
Mr Spanish is very funny, slightly crazy and has a body to die for. Young with a lot of energy. And I saw yesterday how good he is with kids ;) And he has the most amazing piercing blue eyes.

Oh can I throw in Mr Architect to the mix with his career goals and determination?

Oh man.

He'd be PERFECT!

Pudding, why get them all into one man? that's just all your eggs in one basket and more to go wrong when it goes wrong!

I am not looking for a boyfriend either. My ideal is one or two really friendly lovely FWBs. I am not sure if it possible to have what I want, which is the friendliness and trust and easiness of someone you know well and are not afraid to be open with, without it developing into full blown bf and all that shizzle, which I am really not up for. So far, all my FWBs haven't lasted for various reasons (I get bored, they get bored, they want more, I forget to text them, etc) and I wonder whether you just can't develop an emotionally satisfying friendship with someone when you are starting out with strict rules on limiting it? On the other hand I met a F 10 months ago on tinder; we decided to keep it to friends then, but we've very recently extended the friendship to include certain very delicate benefits so, maybe there will be more of that. Or maybe not.

I am not sure what the background is to Vet's very exciting story but it looks very exciting! All the very best with that.

I don't understand; what does emotionally available mean?

Pudding, why get them all into one man?

I agree, but then I'm a tramp. Why not have four FWBs and gain something different from each of them..... and have quadruple the fun in the process?

I am talking to someone on bumble who is so amazing I am having to pinch myself. I am away next week so we can't meet up till the week after argh which heightens the possibility of over investment of course but wow. Had forgotten what it was like to talk to someone like this.

Second date with Mr Northern tonight

kin emotionally available is a man that will talk about your relationship and share feelings with you. That is my understanding of it anyway. I spent 21 years with an emotionally stunted man, its actually top of my list really in terms of what I want if I wanted a "relationship".

www.meetmindful.com/what-being-emotionally-unavailable-means-why-men-do-it/

My FWB is totally emotionally unavailable which is one reason why it works as he literally can't or won't go there !
Signed up for okcupid yesterday, a bit like badoo but slightly less crazy. And I like how easy it is to pass on someone who messages you.

Someone has already revealed on the 3rd message that they want someone submissive in and out of the bedroom !