Dating Thread 138: Hotter Than July

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11.Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

I used to be on Tinder, will probably dip into again after the summer holidays, have had a couple of dates off there in the past.

I take POF with a pinch of salt these days, something to do in the evenings when TV is rubbish.

I’m going to swipe on 100 blokes on Bumble without looking at profiles. Wonder what %age swipe right I’ll get. I reckon 2. Or 4 if I don’t rule out ones with visible cameras taken in hotel bedroom mirrors.....

Woah! I swiped on 6 and 3 were matches. Bloody hell eats words

C'mon Cover move back up north, you know you love it here really!
Love I have been very much using pof as a distraction/ entertainment when bored lately, Amused myself by pointing out that one guy's description of himself stated black hair and blue eyes, when the stock photo he had stolen clearly showed brown hair and (lovely) brown eyes....he didn't reply, some people are just stupid.

Totally new to OLD - loving this thread and learning the rules.

So far have had one total loon who messaged incessantly for a week while I was on holiday and then suddenly disappeared and blocked me after feigning a serious head injury - just after I'd said I didn't want more than friendship and would be happy to meet up for shared hobby but that was all for now - and having his 'friend' who was allegedly looking through his phone message me via his account to update me on his medical condition.....they both had the same appalling incorrect grammar so no loss but why not just say 'Ok, I'm out' why go to the bother of a HUGE medical drama. Loon.

One date with a chap from OKC who I'd been chatting to a couple of times daily for a couple of weeks - Mr Trees, very clever, very cultured but a bit dull and worthy. We're still chatting on Whatsapp but it was a very non datey date and one coffee in the space of 2 hours - we might meet up to go walking sometime.

Two other other irons....

1. Mr Lifecoach who's opening gambit was 'omg you like x, y and z lets skip the dating and just run away' and we've had a laugh over chat since. Hopefully meeting him Fri, was gonna be Tues but was too tricky with various work commitments. Good sense of humour and having a bit of chat on OKC, but he's not really tall enough for me and lives an hour away.

1. Mr Squirrel (comment on his profile) who I've had couple of days of really funny chat with over the weekend. He makes me laugh a lot. About ten messages in he said 'we could meet for a coffee tomorrow ....no pressure just putting it out there'. I wasn't sure of an unrelated plan today and he said fine let him know in a.m. ...my plan was cancelled and I let him know but got silence until 1pm then a very apologetic message: sorry for delay, feels guilty for not getting back to me sooner he's on standby to go down to visit his elderly mother as care home thinks she may have had a stroke so he thinks it may be awkward to meet today. Taking this with pinch of salt as maybe he just got a better offer but I'd really liked the sound of him, replied with 'sorry to hear that, hope all goes ok' message. Must not over invest but dagnammit he seemed like a good prospect - is the poorly mum thing total BS or not I wonder.

So basically need a good slap to NOT hold out hope for Mr Squirrel and not message him suggesting an alternative meet up, I'll leave that to him. ....so checking in here to stop me waiting for a message....

Also had the best message ever: from one bloke: 'It doesn't say on your profile whether you'd consider dating an old, bald, dwarf'....he made me laugh but was too short and old!

Does anyone use match on mobile app? The algorithm does my head in. It places people together side by side on a search who look alike! It's like a noah's ark for men. I can't unsee it now I've noticed it. Two baldyguys, two guys with glasses, two smiley guys... Is it just me?

Afternoon thread :)

I had a surf lesson today, I might have a little crush on the cough rather young spanish instructor ;)

Looks good both in and out his wet suit.........and he was very encouraging..

How young Pud? (If you are saying young, that means waaay young!)
You are seriously spoilt for choice, don't ever move back to UK, my matches are currently all Mr Potato Heads, think some have the ears and eyes in wrong places too...

26. Doesn't meet the rule. But rules are meant to be broken right?

Actually, for 2 more weeks he matches the "rule" of half your age plus 7.

Leave it with me, I'm on it ;)

Hahahahaha at the potato head comparison!

I had a interesting conversation about my grandmother with someone on POF today

Spoke to another man on and off throughout the day, he has asked for a date.

Mr Marathon still messaging me at least once a day, I’m playing it cool after he vanished on me at Christmas, still unsure if I would want to see him again as he seems to be a bit of a head fuck.

Laughing at Mr potato head, seen quite a few of them on POF.

Daffo - I used POF, Match and Tinder.

Tinder has worked out quite well for me despite initial reservations, not everyone is on there looking for a hookup. It just takes a while to sort through everything and find someone to talk to. I have met some amazingly interesting people..... traffic is high, interface is great - no "online now" or anything like that which for me just adds lot of pressure and anxiety.

Usual ratio of weirdos but you'll get that on any platform. Give it a try. X

So been losing the will to live with online dating in the last couple of weeks so I wiped the slate clean last weekend and started from scratch.......

Did my quickest ever meet up this week - started chatting Wednesday, met today and hit it off well. 2nd date this Wednesday. :-)

vixen your right about Tinder, I love the fact you can’t see when someone’s online and if they have read your messages or not. I might have to have another go with it. I have spotted Mr Campervan on POF and he comes up on my ‘top prospects’ list. I think he has spotted me on there too as I have just received a text message from him asking how I am. I’m not going to bother replying as it will just mess with my head.

I'm on tinder bumble POF match silver singles and eHarmony. Last one has no matches. I've had a few dates through POF and one guy I saw for a few weeks but he works away too much.
For very invested in one guy then he backed away so being very cautious now.
Another guy I really fancied but he's pulled back too as his dad is unwell. And he's too busy for me. He was quite an exciting experience!!
Chatting to another guy since I started old(POF). He disappeared then came back again. May meet him soon and been chatting to a guy since yesterday on POF who has suggested we meet this week for coffee.
I'm learning a lot! And developing a thick skin.
I'm in Edinburgh. Had a couple pop up on tinder who are from Germany and looking for a female or a couple to have sex with. I was like wow!

Thanks vixen and others who commented on tinder. I like that about bumble too (not seeing who is online etc.) so I might have a look at tinder in September when I'm firmly back in London from travelling.

I'm getting fed up with this already and only been doing it a couple of weeks. I don't fancy anyone! I don't like beards. I can see that men have nice eyes and a kind face so why cover it with a shitty beard?!

I have 2 irons - one on Bumble, MrFilm, who seems nice but has a beard. And one on POF, MrCredit, who doesn't. No dates lined up. Don't know whether to bite the bullet and suggest coffee. I'm a modern woman, but goddamit I would quite like to be asked out!

Feeling a bit raw as my ex has been sniffing around and playing with my heart...but turns out he's back with his girlfriend and just wanting FWB so I told him to jog on 💔

I like beards.

I have just been asked on a date by someone I met on a fb group (not OLD), he seems ok but has 2 kids and is ex army (haven't had much luck with ex army, I have dated a few).

I like beards on men who suit beards. Not all of them do.

I had forgotten how much OLD makes me despair of humanity. Just had another totally grim message from a vaguely normal looking person who is allegedly looking for a relationship.

I don't understand Tinder. People will unmatch you after a while, which is fine, I get that. But to match with you, not message and not unmatch... do men think it's bloody Bumble or something? One of the guys I matched with looks half normal, but I'm now feeling quite resentful of the lack of messaging first on Tinder.

Re exes... I found out quite by accident that the girl one of my exes left me for has just passed away. He's a bit of twat, but I liked her - we used to move in the same circles, and I would quite happily greet her with a kiss and make small talk. I feel really really sad for her friends and loved ones, because she was genuinely lovely (and very different to me, a much better match for my ex - which is probably why I never hated her).

I'm now feeling quite resentful of the lack of messaging first on Tinder.

Same here Pringle but I don't know if it's because I'm feeling a bit resentful in general! I have 88 matches on Tinder now who haven't messaged but haven't unmatched. 16 of those 'Superliked' me... why bother?! The only one who did message me today looked normal but sent a message asking 'can I tempt you to share a naughty bottle of wine with meeeee?' The word naughty reminds me of a Carry On film and as for 'meeeee'... To answer the question; no, no youuuuu can't.

They're all pissing me off just now though - Mr Hotel was keen to arrange another date all last week, I told him on Friday evening when I'm free and he didn't even read the bloody message until tonight despite being on and off WhatsApp constantly all weekend so he can do one. I haven't heard from Mr Canada on Whatsapp since he got on the plane on Friday. He liked an Instagram post I put on yesterday but no actual contact. Mr DM cropped up on Tinder tonight, never seen him on there before, just photos and no bio - I swiped left obviously! Mr Plane is sending grovelling messages after I told him I was stepping back on Thursday. We were supposed to meet on Tuesday but he didn't get in touch to actually organise it (second time this has happened and I wanted to see if he would step up). He then messaged on Thursday all casual, no mention of the date, just asking where has the sun gone so I replied saying I'd wondered the same about him on Tuesday and I was done Cue lots of apologising but too late now - no 3rd chances, it sets the bar too low.

To sum up: they're all flakier than a fucking 99 factory.

I do have a date with Mr Posh on Wednesday though, or I do at the moment anyway. He sends great messages.

Pringle sorry, meant to say I'm sorry to hear of your ex's gf's death

@VetOnCall It is sad, but it's not my grief to share in, which makes it all a little bit weird. She was lovely, but we weren't close for obvious reasons! I'd heard she was ill on the grapevine a little while ago, but I guess I had expected her to pull through. Always shocking when someone dies at my age.

On a lighter note, hope your date with Mr Posh goes well. There are so many flakes out there. I genuinely don't know why it's so hard. Are there really no good ones left?

cake im in Edinburgh 🙋🏻‍♀️ i have noticed quite a few attractive newbies at my gym, here while performing at the festival so i know what you mean

vet wtf MrDM on Tinder? you didn’t meet him on Tinder did you? what an absolute weirdo.

Sorry to hear that Pringle. Even if you aren't close someone dying young if always unsettling news.

Welcome coldlocation. Definitely don't message MrSquirrel. If he's genuinely dealing with a crisis he probably won't reply and if it's bs then he won't reply either - both will make you feel crap. If he's interested he will get back to you

esk no I met him on POF. Never seen him appear on Tinder before.