Annoying guy doesn’t seem to get the message

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Guy is my tutor as I am adult learning which is why he has my contact details. Now he’s started following me on social media where I post arty type photos, and I am annoyed and awkward about it because I feel like right now he isn’t doing anything terrible, just being irritating. He likes all my photos and I don’t really want to have to go private just to get away from him (it’s not a private account... it’s not photos of myself but he knows it’s me and think he found it via my phone number?). Last week he sent me a DM about a photo I posted which I ignored. Last month he sent me a message about something I was wearing at a tutorial.

I have told him multiple times i am not interested, so now I am just ignoring him unless it’s course related. He was outrageously sexual with me when he thought I might be interested but I put a stop to that and now it’s just multiple attempts at being friendly. So nothing that bad.... am I over reacting?

I do not want to report him because I am getting close to the end of course and really just need to get through the exam - and I am concerned that if he got thrown off this course as tutor it would really affect mine and my fellow students progress and be a complete mess. We had a rocky start with tutors and just want to finish. I also do worry he’s going to pass my work because he thinks I will shag him

In summary, annoying guy seems to have no self awareness and is pissing off woman trying to learn something.

I am considering reporting him once I have passed the exam. Is this cowardly?

at so much!

Particularly at him being able to access your address... this is exactly what bloody GDPR is for! I’d be so upset with the training provider - they’ve really failed you. So sorry this is happening

That's horrific OP. So feel for you. Bloody horrible being afraid in your own home (been there)

He got fired.

No further details yet except the company called a meeting next week to sort the course out with us all

I called 101 but I was on hold for so long, I had to hang up, get kids/dinner etc. I will call back later on. think I will be looking over my shoulder for a while

It's good they took it seriously, like you say you need to look out for yourself for a bit.

You're doing good. Well done. He was out of order.

Remember, you don't have to carry this worry alone. Try again with the police.

I have not had much peace from kids this evening (arguing) and my stomach really hurts so I have gone to bed. I will call them tomorrow for advice

Good plan.

Be kind to yourself- you've had a hard time recently.

He absolutely deserved to lose his job (and hopefully get such a dire reference he will never get that kind of work again). Good luck getting it on record with the Police, hope it's not too stressful. They should be able to give you some sensible advice.

Well done op - what a massive arsehole he is.

OH guess what. He did not go quietly yet. It’s not police worthy but he sent us all an email essentially saying he resigned of his own free will, had been thinking about it for months and the company was a pile of shit. I forwarded it straight to his HR dept 😂
He also made sure he put his personal contact details at the end!

Oh my lord!!!
What a thick skin he has!!
What a twat!! 🤣

I know!! He sent 2. One was very professional to begin and generic that he had left but then still offered to help us on the course (erm no)

The 2nd was scathing and almost hilarious. Blatant attempt at re writing the whole situation and blaming the training company for everything.

I sent it straight to his HR who are now fuming

Absolutely no self-preservation instinct!!!
Hoisted on his own petard!
OP - I salute you
But seriously - take care - he could get a bit nasty - carry on reporting anything he does 🍷

Did you get hold of the police in the end OP?

I really wish I could be a fly on the wall at his HR....

They took all the details said block him etc. Pretty basic but at least it’s logged

I hope HR do take some kind of action because it was almost slanderous in a sense... if that’s the term - trying to make them look bad. ‘I had to leave because of the company misled me with my role and I don’t know if they will be able to replace me’ kind of thing

All of this is appalling. What a horrible situation for you . You should be very proud that you were consistent and refused to be coerced by him. I really hope your own company take this extremely seriously in protecting you and your colleagues on future courses. There is no reason he should have been able to contact you privately, and that is a chronic breach of GDPR. Accepting that he is an utter cunt, measures should be put in place to ensure this sort of sidebar contact cannot happen. I do hope you are not discouraged by your employer from reporting it to 101 out of some sort of professional embarrassment/it’s dealt with/what more can be done. He has displayed his predatory side and you showed great strength as he pushed through all boundaries. What a creep.

Oh, and well done on training up; I wish you every success.

How absolutely sickening. I would also feel awful, I don't blame you.

I think I'd wait and see whether he tries to contact you before calling the police. It's very good you've got all this in writing, and of course the disciplinary with his work. It's all ammunition for you, and very clear cut. I'm very glad your work (and his) took this seriously.

Good luck. I hope that's the end of it.

Thanks all
I have a date tonight my first in months. I’m not letting this idiot ruin my enjoyment of life don’t worry. His hilarious email didn’t even make me angry. What a sad lonely loser he is

What a totally unhinged man. Just wow!

You handled this do well, op. Go and enjoy your date. You bloody deserve it!

It amazes me just how many specimens like this exist.

Well done OP. You've handled it really well, he must have done this to lots of women. Have a lovely date tonight

I wish I could warn other women about him in some way! I am sure he is predatory dating on dating sites although I have not come across him

I agree TurnipCake, he was so incredibly cocky and sure of himself.

Love it when an a-hole gets their comeuppance. No way he can talk himself out of his horrendous and unprofessional behaviour.

It actually defies belief he wasn't afraid of the consequences of his actions.

I am still a little traumatised by the idea of his ‘massive willy’
🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

Lol

Well, he is a big knob.

I know but the vision of him naked that he has kindly put into my head
He’s very bony and wiry and looks like he has a lot of wiry body hair