Husband wants to drive us to beach 1.5hrs with 6 year old son not wearing a seatbelt

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Hi mum's,

Am I being ridiculous to be freaking out? Husband wants to drive us to the beach tomorrow 1.5 hrs all good there's 2 spare seats in our car and another friend has his car full with his family. My husband has invited 3 friends onto our car and says they'll carry our son on our lap.

I freaked out and said are you hugs no way are we risking our sons live to take another person. We can only take 2. He's angry and says I'm being over the top that it's only an hour drive and that I'm being mean to the extra person.

I said well that's all good but it's 1.5 hrs not that it matters and if there was an accident my son would be the one flying through the window and wtf is he thinking risking our sons safety for the sake of bringing an additional friend.

He said fuck it were not going anywhere and is now angry that I'm being complicated.

I'm 37 wks pregnant am I being ridiculous and my hormones are getting the better of me or am I right?

Is your husband English? It seemed very common when we took the dsc to the French family wedding for kids to sit on parents laps no matter what the distance. (we caused a lot of arguments insisting on them in car seats with seat belts )

I actually can't believe that someone would even consider doing this.... let alone for 1.5hrs.

Dangerous, illegal...... and frankly pretty unpleasant for all those squashed in the back.

And don’t let anyone make my MIL’s favourite suggestion: the child sits on an adult’s knee with the seatbelt round both of them.

That’s the one where the forward force of the adult crushes the child’s chest into the seatbelt and kills them.

How has it been resolved, OP?

Please don’t let him do it, it’s not worth it. Dh and I helped at a car crash where the lady in the back had gone through the windscreen and died. It wouldn’t have happened if she had been wearing a seatbelt and they were only 10 minutes from home. Dh had to break the windscreen to free her head whilst I cared for her daughter and sil who were hysterical. Horrific.....

It is a ridiculous suggestion, not only dangerous but will also make the car insurance invalid.

I know someone who, back in the 80s, got in the car with her son on her lap for a short journey. They were in a small accident where somebody drove in to the back of them.

Everyone survived.

The force of her leaning forward in the crash broke her sons back though and he is now in paralysed from the waist down and my friend has had to live with the knowledge that she was the one who injured him.

It is NEVER worth the risk.

Sorry to worry everyone. After our....chat...He saw sense and changed the plans. We're off to the beach but all legal occupants in the car...the extra person is not going. We're from the Mediterranean where generally they are very lax about that kind of thing. I really didn't feel comfortable with it as wouldn't have gone if he'd insisted. Thank you everyone for your comments.

Relieved to here that OP, enjoy your trip.

Your husband is putting his friends above his own son.

I think he's disgusting, especially since you very correctly pointed out if there was an accident he could go flying through the windscreen. It wouldn't even need to be that bad an accident, everybody else could be fine.
And you can never control what happens on the road, you could be driving so safely, but some other idiot could be drink driving or speeding.
Not to mention it's illegal for anyone not to wear a seat belt, but a minor has to have a car/bumper seat.

No, either don't go, or go on your own with your son.

There's something wrong with your husband when he's not factoring in your child's safety, but his friends feelings.

Glad he saw sense OP have a lovely day.