I think he has a child but denies it

[Nanny67]

I found photos on his laptop of a baby and when I looked on the mums Instagram account (I know his exes name) the child is now 6 and is the spitting image of him. Around 6 months ago we were watching s programme about childbirth and he went into a rant about how the dad always feels left out. I asked him if ex had his child but he denies it. Would you contact the ex and ask her or does that come across as a bit crazy?i don't have a problem if it's his child as I have 2 but it's the lies that I wouldn't be able to get past.

Men feel left out during childbirth?

Boo hoo! It's not about them, is it? There's a woman in agony, who has possibly been in agony for some time and a vulnerable baby.

Ditch him for that comment alone.

Yeah I'd contact her. This is huge if he's lying.
Of course the mum might think/say someone else is the dad.

The bottom line is that you don't trust him. That's the only and best reason you need to dump him.

Bin.
He's not even worth the effort of following up this sorry situation.

Have you snooped on fb? Not condoning stalking but doubt he will admit it without evidence.
Then ltb for lying.

One thing's for sure, you're going to look a right loop if you go asking the ex and you're wrong.

I don't think you have enough to go on to be approaching the ex, personally. Baby photos on his laptop and a 6 year old that looks like him... were they together 6 years ago? Just broken up? Not together yet?

More info needed. but to be honest, once you've got more info (assuming it backs up your suspicions) you'd be far better off taking to your partner to explain than asking his ex about it.

How long have you been together?

I'd dump him based on a rant that the poor dad feels left out in childbirth, tbh.

I would think very carefully before contacting ex.

She may have a very good reason for not wanting him in her DS's life (if it is indeed his). And it might not be a nice one. (And she may not want you stirring things up.)

Maybe he feels excluded, hence the shitty comment (I'm not excusing it.)

Is this the twat 10 years younger and gave you the STI?

" Have you snooped on fb? Not condoning stalking "

April, looking on someone's open FB page is not 'stalking'. Why don't people get that putting something on FB and not using privacy settings is about equivalent to putting up a notice on a bus stop or school notice board?

OP honestly, do you really see a future with someone that would deny his own child, and whine about men being 'left out' in childbirth>? really??

Is this the twat 10 years younger and gave you the STI?

@FourFriedChickensDryWhiteToast

Agree. Not sure where people get the idea that looking at someone's public social media is stalking. It isn't. I must "stalk" every online newspaper, celebrity, etc. if I look at what is posted often.

A friend of mine had a baby with her partner, he wasn't ready and didn't feel he could be involved with a little one but she felt ready. So they separated and she decided she wanted to bring baby up without the Dad and be a single Mum for her and her little one.
I wouldn't contact the mother but I would ask him if he can tell you the truth and if you don't trust what he says then you're done. Don't get the other woman involved, there might be more to the story.
Good luck 

There's another thread about a husband who lies or kept 2 children hidden.

It's very possible he's lying.

How would he know men feel left out? Sounds like he's speaking from personal experience.

PISSED yes it's the same guy.

There's a huge back story but it's tedious. Yes he had a thing with her around 6 years ago - the pictures on his laptop is the baby on his sofa!! He said the reason the relationship ended was because she asked to borrow a few pounds for nappies and she didn't pay it back so he sued her. Looking at his FB he was in a relationship with someone else at the time he got this other one pregnant.
The police and my DA advisor say he's a narcissist and to stay away but I'm scared. I just want to know if the child is his - I've asked him and he got angry and denied it.

FFS, Nancy, scared of what? Being single for a bit? Who cares if the kid is his? What's that gonna change? He's a cunt and you know it.

He seriously sued the mother of his child because she asked to buy nappies?

Jeezus....LTB. Quick

It doesn't matter (to you) if he has a child or not, you already have more than enough reasons to get yourself far far away

You are kidding right? The police and your DV advisor say stay away and you don't?

How old are your kids OP?

Is this the best you can do ? Deary me.

Honestly, this isn't a relationship to stay in. What help would you need to end it?

she asked to borrow a few pounds for nappies and she didn't pay it back so he sued her

For what, exactly?

I mean, he paid a solicitor hundreds of pounds to sue someone for a tenner?

No way he sued her for borrowing money for nappies. Wonder how that went down in the small claims court? Did he call in the Sheriffs? What a load of old bs.

Yes, the child is his. He probably pays nothing towards the upkeep and that is why she asked for money for nappies. Who asks for money for nappies from a man who is not the father of the baby. The baby was on his sofa for his contact with his child most possibly.

The Police have warned you and your DA advisor have warned you he is a narcissist yet you are preoccupied with whether he is the father of a six year old child. Red flags are mounting here op and I recommend you leave this relationship joining the professionals who have given you the same advice.