I think he has a child but denies it

[Nanny67]

I found photos on his laptop of a baby and when I looked on the mums Instagram account (I know his exes name) the child is now 6 and is the spitting image of him. Around 6 months ago we were watching s programme about childbirth and he went into a rant about how the dad always feels left out. I asked him if ex had his child but he denies it. Would you contact the ex and ask her or does that come across as a bit crazy?i don't have a problem if it's his child as I have 2 but it's the lies that I wouldn't be able to get past.

Excellent news. Get your DD to block him on FB and everywhere else.

Update: police came round spent 2.5 hours with me. Today I got a phone call from SS, due to him contacting my daughter they want to come round and see me. I've got loads of support and actually feel really lucky.

Well done you. Has he been in touch?

STAY AWAY from him, keep him away from you, keep your dc safe,

and yes, I have been where you are and can confirm that you can never placate an abuser, not long term, they up the ante, that's what they do.

there is no safe place when you are with an abuser, the only safe is being out of the relationship with them kept away from you/yours

ITCH and HISSY yes he's emailed me. I've contemplated moving away, what do you think? My housing officer is coming to see me Monday. I feel by running away I am giving in. I feel so confused - his emails say he will never treat me bad again.

@Nanny67 yes move away.

block his emails etc. you know exactly what he is like.
Abusive, lying, cheater.

Write down all the rotten things he's done to you and every time you're thinking he's changed, read that list again. Ask yourself, if he the kind of guy you would want your friend, sister, mother, daughter to be with?

Thank you PISSED. Having validation from you guys helps because he's screwed with my brain so much, think I will write down every piece of shit he's put me through and stare at it.

If your 24 year old daughter was in your relationship and decided to end it and move away would you say she was running away and he might not be unpleasant again, or would you support her in making a new start?

SHOULDWE yes you're right - id pack up her stuff for her and drag her as far away as possible!!

How did you feel after his emails? Have you started to doubt your decisions?

Hi Nanny, you have taken a brave brave step. 100% the right step for you and your children.

Good work finding ways to keep up your resolve.

You will have a better life away from him!

@Nanny67

Just glad to be able to help out.

These creeps are so manipulative and convincing.

Definitely make a list and read it when you are doubting yourself and like should suggested, pretend this is your daughter and you know there's no way in hades you'd want her to be with him.