He made me eat paper

[Cantspellbutimmagic]

I’m stuck in my situation
I know I can’t get out but it helps to write

Tonight after 3 days non stop verbal abuse or complete silence towards me
My husband found some pictures I drew of how I felt ( sad faces ect )

That day - he called his parents to our table
He said I had to explain myself and the images

I said it’s just how I feel , I draw sad things when I’m sad

He called the kids to watch and He said You have two options

Eat your drawings now or I will devorse you and take it all

I said no I won’t ?!? Why would you even suggest such things

After arguing about this for a while and refusing , his mum started pleading with me to eat the paper

After sometime he held me against the wall and shoved it all in my mouth then pushed me in the floor in front of our family

I can’t belive I was made to eat paper I’m so upset this has happened to me . And they saw

Has anyone ever heard of this before ?

This is horrific. He's made you think you are nothing and have no power. Not true!
There is help available if you take it. Please reach out to someone and get away. He will hurt you again. Please!
I'm in Bournemouth if you're anywhere near.

Whoever you have contacted, I hope it’s along the lines of police and Women’s Aid, I hope they help you and the children get somewhere safe very soon.

Has op replied to any pm's?

I am so worried for you, OP. Are you okay? Please post a short message to us if you are able to.

Your husband is an asshole and deserves to be put behind bars for what he is doing to you and your kids. Respectable member of society, my ass. YOU deserve to live a life away from this asshole.

And oh you have incredible strength, don't let anybody tell you that you are weak - it takes tremendous amount of strength to withstand this much of abuse, now you just need to channel this strength from defense mode to offense mode - all this time your strength had served to buffer you from the evil, but time has now run out now, and it is time now to use the strength to give you the impetus to escape from this nightmare. You can do it - if you had it in you to bear all that mental torture, you definitely have it in you to run and never look back.

I understand the place of fear and self loathing you are in now, but you have a choice - you CAN come out of it. This fucker has made you think that you have no choice, but you do. Do you have a sister or a daughter? Please imagine a situation where they are in your shoes. What would you advice them? Please do that. You have got such wonderful advice in this thread. Everyone here is reaching out to you. Please take the help.

You need to take the help, OP, otherwise this man will be the death of you and your kids' lives will be screwed too. At least if you leave now and take control of your life, you can turn around your and your kids' future.

Ok a harsh but true post here...if you do not take steps and be seen to be making steps to get help and get out it will look very very bad on you when social work/police get involved. They will see it as you can't safely protect the children as you have allowed them to witness the emotional abuse. Witnessing adult domestic abuse is emotionally abusive to children.

It's ruined my life seeing that. And experiencing that.

You have a chance now to get away with the kids. Dial 999 ask for help. Or pm someone on here and get them to do it.

I don't mean to be horrible. I'm sure I'll get hate for this. But you've done so well talking about this all. You now need to escape. Fast. Before the danger ramps up.

Sorry but that is utter BS, Ghost. Abusive behaviour is 100% the abuser's fault and 0% the victim's. No authority is going to reprimand a victim for suffering abuse and not doing enough to get out. Some women never manage to leave. Of course abuse severely affects children but it is NOT the victim's fault if she struggles to find a way out, because that's what abuse does to victims, it wears them down and makes them feel powerless.
If you've been through this yourself you will know that, so to shift any amount of blame onto the OP here is completely unjustified.

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I’m still hanging in there - things are still not great
I feel very conflicted and worried - I’m so greatful for everyone’s support and people who offered to help ... I’m scared I’m not ready or not able to get free from him and I don’t want to mess anyone around and waste there time xx

You have a duty to your children to act. You can't stay there. People are offering help, not taking it might be catastrophic.

If you don't want to take help from people who've offered, call the police instead to get you out. Even just speak to the police to reassure yourself of how they'll help.

OP, you will not be wasting anybody's time. There are people out there who are trained to help women like you, and your children. They literally do it every day.

Please keep posting, if it is safe for you to do so.

Cantspellbutimmagic
You won't be wasting anyone's time.
Your safety and that of your dc is paramount.
Please contact Woman's Aid.

How are you ..I'm Magic? I hope you have found some help in RL? I am very late to see this but nobody should go through the abuse and exploitation you experienced and I keep wondering whether you have found some support?

I am still here

Things got better for some time but then got worse for me. He is becoming more physically aggressive towards me but he never leaves marks . Then he says it never happened and I’m crazy and dillusional . He wanted his parents to visit again and I said no after last time :( I’m too ashamed and I can’t even talk to them.

I’m not asking for help ( so many of you have been kind ) I know I’m in this mess because I’m not strong enough to leave him. It helps to write things down and if it ever gets too serious I don’t want what happened to me in complete vain

If anyone sees signs in there partner early on .... run ... get out and never look back

Oh Op, you sound so broken. So resigned to your fate

I pray that you get free of him and find happiness. Your children need you, please try and reach out for help to leave him x

Thinking of you OP and hoping you can change this when you feel ready

I think you need to make the step and break free

My f**ker ex went to kill me
Surprised I'm still alive

Why you let him do this?
He sounds awful and I think in many ways you are braver than you believe
I do think of your post often

Please take care

It's not over. You CAN leave. Please don't think your only choice is to stay. X

You sound so broken. I do hope you find the strength to get away.

You ARE strong OP!!!

I remember reading your first post at the time, you CAN do this !!

You say for anyone in a position, you can do it ! You deserve it for yourself to do it

Keep talking as much as you can and reach out when you need to!

We're behind you x

Please phone Women’s Aid. You might think you’re not strong but you are stronger than you think and you are worth so much more than this.

For me its quite rare the poster comes back, but you know what? You have!!

You know you deserve better! You can get out or this and although I'm useless there will be posters who can advise better and point you in the right directions

You can PM me if you ever need to let off or hent and I will try to help all I can

You owe this to yourself to get away from this person I can't even begin to type what I'd call him

Stay strong, there is a way out x

You can get away from him op! My heart breaks reading your posts.

I saw the post title and remembered the original. and strength to you. Hope you get to safety in the end xx

In my area, women's aid offer a one stop shop session with counsellor/staff member, solicitor, and benefits knowledgeable person once or twice a week. Please contact them and even if they don't do this, they can still advise you and help you. You can get out, lots of women have (even if it took a long while to get there) and you can too.