He made me eat paper

[Cantspellbutimmagic]

I’m stuck in my situation
I know I can’t get out but it helps to write

Tonight after 3 days non stop verbal abuse or complete silence towards me
My husband found some pictures I drew of how I felt ( sad faces ect )

That day - he called his parents to our table
He said I had to explain myself and the images

I said it’s just how I feel , I draw sad things when I’m sad

He called the kids to watch and He said You have two options

Eat your drawings now or I will devorse you and take it all

I said no I won’t ?!? Why would you even suggest such things

After arguing about this for a while and refusing , his mum started pleading with me to eat the paper

After sometime he held me against the wall and shoved it all in my mouth then pushed me in the floor in front of our family

I can’t belive I was made to eat paper I’m so upset this has happened to me . And they saw

Has anyone ever heard of this before ?

When someone just types the word placemarking on the thread.

If you make a comment on a thread mumsnet will notify you if any further comments are made and and take you back to your last comment. (This can also be achieved by bookmarking).

So people write placemarking to get the update. Fine on a CF parking thread when you cant wait for an update... But when it's a thread like this that it very serious it just feels in bad taste. Write something constructive.

OP, I understand you are scared of leaving and that you feel your community will believe your husband because he is a 'respectable member of the community'. But please please try to put your safety and your children's safety above everything else. The police will believe you, Women's Aid will believe you. Your husband thinks he has the power to keep you so afraid of him that you will do nothing. YOU have the power to change this. Never tell yourself you are no one. If you do not feel free to call police or Women's Aid because you are being watched at all times, is there a way you can leave the house to make this call? Make a GP appointment and tell the GP exactly what is happening? Or we can all tell you the areas in which we live and if you are in the same area, PM us and one of us might be able to help. I am in the West Midlands/Welsh border area.

I'm North Yorkshire will help if can

Agreed Honey. So vulgar. Use the 'watch this thread' function fgs!

@HoneyBadgerApparently thanks, new to mumsnet hadn't seen it written before - sorry to distract from the thread!

In Liverpool I will help any way I can

Liverpool area. Will help xx

I’m in North East Lincs.

I'm in Ayrshire, Scotland.

Get in touch with me if I'm near you and I'll do whatever I can to help you.

I'm in Cardiff but can cover pretty much the whole of south Wales. My friend has a van too so lots of space for your stuff.
Please let someone on here help, we're all worried about you and want you to be safe.x

I'm in Lancashire OP. Please feel free to PM if you are anywhere near here, I'd be happy to help you leave and take you to somewhere safe. Can access a large van if required to remove your things.

Lots of people in different areas are offering help, please please take one of us up on it.

Hi all,

Following on from our previous post, we also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

OP please get out, please, this is a terribly upsetting thread to read and we all want to help you, but I feel you can only now help yourself by doing one thing - take the kids and RUN

Take nothing else. You will be helped. It doesn’t matter where you are from, the police WILL help you.

Think about your children having no mother and having to deal with their father alone if you don’t, as he will do something worse we all fear

Please, go, and let us know you are ok when you can xxx

Also OP, please know that the above MNHQ post is what they always post on threads where posters are offering any kind of personal help - it's in no way a reflection on you or what you have posted.

Do let us know you're ok if you can, lots of lurkers like me worried about you too.

Cantspellbutimmagic
If you are in the UK illegally you can still be helped by the police and Women's Aid.
Or call into a Christian church. You will get help there too.

Thinking of you.

Im in London and will be happy to help you get to safety or assist with practicalities if you're nearby.

I've found that whenever I needed help there were a lot more caring and generous people out there then I expected and really hope you have the confidence to reach out.

OP, if you're reading and want to get help, please contact a wonderful organisation called Savera UK.

They help people in situations like yours to get away from not just husbands, but families who collude in the abuse too. They specialise is helping women who may have additional issues such as immigration, cultural and language barriers that might prevent them from contacting the police or womens aid.

You can call them on 0800 1070726.

They are honestly brilliant

Best of luck

OP, I did ask before but I apologise as been very hectic and havent been following the thread fully. Are you Asian? It’s possible You could seek help from a local mosque , temple or Gurdwara? They could contact police on your behalf? I hope I haven’t offended anyone reading this just a suggestion

OP, I hope you are on tonight. I hope that you are OK and safe.

I just wanted to say, if you look at the thread, Help me please - is he abusive and what do I do next? on here from today, you'll see the poster on there had an abusive man living with her. It all happened very quickly and he's now removed from the house and Women's Aid took action immediately.

I say this because I hope you read and see how close you are to help. A phone call away and they could help you. You and your children could be safe and away from this abuse.

Please, please, please contact help.

How are you doing OP? I'm concerned that there have been no updates for a while.
I hope you're ok xx

Me too xxx please let us know how you are x

Cantspellbuti'mmagic
How are you doing ?

I remember reading this when the OP first posted. Even knowing the story, rereading it today has taken my breath away. Such brutality, I really hope that the OP and her children have escaped this situation. Awful.

Please come back and let us know you are safe x