OMG I can't believe what has I've just done is anyone around PLEASE?

[ohsmellyjelly]

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Not necessarily the end - lack of sleep and those early days can strain any relationship.

It's best that he's gone to have a think before either of you say any more.

How old is ds and is he your first?

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Im so sorry osj, thats awful. I can understand the whole, getting up in the night thing while dh sleeps! I know things have been tough for you lately. How long have you been together?

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It sounds like you need a break from each other. Even just a trial seperation to see how you both feel? Does he say that he still loves and wants to work it out? Or is he a typical bloke and bottles everything up?

You sound so worried that he is really mad. He isnt going to do anything horrible to you is he?

I'm a late night owler tonight ohsmellyjelly, it's sounds like you are just both worn out from lack of sleep and the fact that it's so late probably makes it all look so much worse. Have you been able to contact him? mobile?

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Sorry dionne, didn't see your post, don't mean to cut across you. Ohsmellyjelly, I can't say I know much about your situation bit the main thng right now is to try and calm down, you have both obviously been under pressure, please don't try and assume the worse case scenario now because it's late and your both frazzled. Has he got a key to get back in?

Im thinking that maybe you and the kids could go away for a week or so. To visit a relative or something?? Just so you have space, time to clear your head and maybe realise what YOU do or dont want. He obviously loves you, so will understand.

Also, are you on anti ds? If your feeling this low and depressed you may need something. Have you been to docs? It could help you. My mum is on them and she feels much better for it. More functional, able and brighter.

Is there a reason your ds is waking up a lot lately?

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Hi mhamai!

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Sorry, I wont keep you, I know you tired honey. I would strongle advise taking them. I have seen the good that can come of them. And no one should feel ashamed about it, life is hard sometimes! They take a week (i think?) to get into your system and take effect so the sooner you start, the better. Hopefully.

Maybe you should put a new thread on toomorrow about your ds waking all night. I only have one child so dont have the experience to advise. Im sure that there are some great mothers who have been through the same thing. Or look on websites such as 'dr tabya byron' or 'super nanny' They might have an email address? They might have some helpful tips to make your nigts smoother.

I really really feel for you and hope you are going to be ok. This is my email address incase you want a chat anytime.

[email protected]

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You are both knackered, Especially you! Try not to worry to much about tonight. Just appologise and offer him a hug? May help?

I just know I'm gfonna x post with someone but here goes, hi dionne! Ohsmelly I' probaly the last person t be doling out advice at this ungodly hour because I've been on the sauce! but from a brief lookin, it looks like you have had to shoulder more than your share of the responsibility re childrearing etc? That you have taken that shoulder, ie your a good mum etc but there are times when you need extra support without dh behaving like another infant in the house? You have got support here until you get support there if that makes any sense! Sleep now asap with ds and try not to fret about dh, he prob just needs to flounce! sorry couldn't resist! Not making light of your situation but tell you what I promise to check in with you tomorrow to see how you are.

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Take care honey. Thinking of you xx

Nite ohsmellyjelly nite dionne too.

ps
Ohsmellyjelly, your
not alone! nite nite pet.