OMG I can't believe what has I've just done is anyone around PLEASE?

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Night Mhamai

Night OSJ, chin up,we are always here 4 u. We can offer lots of cyber hugs!
xx

osj, you okay?

in work presentations all day today but will try to check in later.

big hugs
x

Im back now! Had all of about 2 hours sleep! Now dd raring to go!

Hope you are feeling a little better this morning osj.

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osj, believe me i know how it feels to be pushed to the limit of endurance.

don't give yourself a hard time about it.

first off, call in sick if you're due at work.

can anyone take ds for a bit? can't remember if he's at nursery or something?

let h stew a bit, stop worrying about how he feels and start focussing on how you feel.

do you know they use sleep deprivation as a form of torture? tell your h that when he wants to know why you lost it!

if all else fails stick ds in front of TV and make yourself a coffee and go drink it in the garden.

so sorry you're going thru this at the mo.

So sorry to hear abou this, you poor thing. Sleep deprevation is just the worst thing and it makes the best of us act irrationally. DOn't beat yourself up

I know what you mean about the way the men can walk in and out and know that the children will be looked after, makes me cross sometimes too Can you imagine if it had been you who had walked out?

What have you got arranged today? Can you get some time out?

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call in sick despite the shower guy. you're in no state to go to work.

even if you just sit on the sofa and watch jeremy vile you'll be getting some rest.

gotta run now but deffo think w/end with your mum is a good idea. get some rest before you drive tho. even if h shows up you should still go.

your dc won't remember any of this - promise.
x

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How long has he been gone now? Have you any idea where he might have gone? Is he due into work today?

I agrree you need to phone in sick, your mind won't be on the job, you'll be thinking about last night all day. Drop the children off at nursery and then come home and pack for your mums. When he comes back plan to go anyway. It will be good for him to see just how much he has upset you and that you need to get support from elsewhere as he isn't providing enough. Be calm but to the point.

Don't know if I'm being any help but I really feel for you.

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osj just found this how are you ?

Could you do a short day? Don't you think it's a real bloke thing to storm out and then come back when he knows you should be at work!!! Maybe you should just continue as normal, go to work, sort the children - after all your responsibilities are still there and it will appear that you are the grown up and he behaviour is out of order.

Whatever happens when you both eventually do talk try and remain calm (I know it's really hard) but you will be more effective at getting your point across. ANd let him have his say, don't interupt and then he must offer you the same courtesy.

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Why does he feel he has the rght to sleep downstairs and get all the sleep? Whay can't he take his turn with your DS? Especially as you both work!

You still have to get some sleep though and I bet your day doesn't end when you walk out of work? WHo does all your housework and cooking, shopping etc?

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1am!!! I couldn't survive if I went to bed at that time especially as you know you are going to woken up! He is being really unreasonable and his excuses are terrible! Oh jelly...you poor thing

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Hi osj!

Sorry things havnt improved for you this morning.

You h needs a good hard slap!! Im 25, have 1 child who sleeps pretty well and Im in bed by 10 at the latest!! (unless I cant sleep like last night)

You have evry right to be pissed off with your H. I cant believe he expects you to do all of this, its unbelievable! You deserve much better honey!

Phone your mum and go up there for the weekend. Catch up on your sleep. Dont speak to you h while you are away. Is you mum quite helpful when it comes to the kids? Will you be able to catch up on your sleep?

osj we all say the nasiest things when angry and especially tired. I dont know what you said but can imagine and im sure his feeling very hurt right now and poss angry too. Im sure when he calms down he will realise you didnt mean any of it.

Lack of sleep makes us all cranky im a nightmare from lack of sleep.Ds2 went through night terrors that lasted all night for months. Lost count of the time i left house having forgotten to brush teeth and put any knickers on!

Working might take your mind off of it. Do you think you should talk to him before you go to your mums? Just thinking he might take it the wrong way? Do you have any friends close by you could go see and talk in person to them?

Sorry questions questions. Just going toget dressed but will be around. Try taking it easy i know how hard that is but try xx

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Im ok, dont worry about me. Its just a 1 off. You seem to be going through it every night! I feel so awful for you.

I think its time you put your foot down and stop putting up with this shit! Be strong and talk to him, yes, but dont appologise. You have sod all to appologise for!! Just be firm but calm and explain that you are unhappy, you KNACKERED and you need space to seriously think about the future. So your going away to get some space.

Maybe offer him a deal. Say, 2 -3 days where he has complete responsibility of the kids. day and night. Would be interesting to see what he would say??

Just taking dog and dd out for a little walk. Will be back in aboyt 1/2 hr.

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