DP won't eat lunch!

[BetterEatCheese]

I am writing this to see if I am being a pain in the arse and whether I need to leave dp alone.

He is self employed, a labourer, and never ever stops for lunch. He says he wants to get home earlier and doesn't have time to stop. He's crap at getting up in the morning and I think the issue is this as getting up earlier would mean he could get to jobs earlier and still have time to make lunch and stop to eat it.

He is a grumpy arse when he comes home as he's so hungry and then snacks all evening. I also worry about him doing a very physical job on an empty stomach.

I had a right moan at him today as he has to take dd out this evening and won't be back until 8:30pm and he was moaning that he is hungry. I asked if he'd had lunch and he hadn't. I can't bear it, it's all self inflicted and I'm losing sympathy!

Should I leave him to it or keep on at him to stop and eat. I'm really worried about his health and moods

My oh is like this. He hardly ever drinks anything and is always complaining of headaches and feeling fatigued. And he only eats if I make it for him or remind him to. If he was left to his own devices he’d be dead by now. He gets very grumpy when he’s hungry too. I’ve stopped pandering to him so much about it and if he starts complaining about feeling ill or hungry then I just zone out and ignore him until he stops. It’s infuriating

I see now he doesn't pull his weight else where so he is a man child
Sorry op.

BetterEatCheese He is a grown up and should have learnt by now how to take care of his health. This means eating for the life you lead. If he has a physical job he really should eat for fuel otherwise over time it will catch up with him. His health may not allow him to work as he needs to, to have the life he has. But... that's in the future.

What you have to decide is 'is this what you want'? It's probably only going to get worse and if he can't be arsed to look after himself now, chances are he won't in future either.

You said it's affecting your whole family so you have to choose. Just accept it as he's not going to change unless he has a health scare or carefully consider what are your other options.