Is this normal sexually? Should I do it?

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Ok so for context and not to drop feed... Dp and I have been together for 2 years. I've been in 2 previous long term relationships and him 1 but in all previous relationships we were both victims of DV. So we treat each other very respectfully and can be very cautious with each other. We also find that neither of us have much of an idea of what a "normal" relationship is like.
We have a good sex life but only recently we have slowly started expressing what we like or don't like more.
Last week I was shopping online for some new bras and due simply to the fact that they have %20 off and bras can be expensive I was looking on the Ann Summers site. We were looking down the lingerie and DP made some comments (respectfully not sleazy or anything, just saying that he liked this or that) about some of the items, and seeing as he seemed to be taking such an interest and really liking them, I added some basic bras to basket and then gave my phone to him to have a look and see if there was anything else he wanted to add, like I say were both very cautious so this was easier than having a conversation about it. He had a look and gave it back to me with a big smile on his face asking if I liked them, it was leather look gloves full arm length and wet look leather lingerie/body's.
It's all a bit sexy for me I was your typical nice girl I can't imagine myself in leather lingerie and it's not my cup of tea when I think of what makes me tick, but I do really want to make him happy and I think this is a huge step for us in terms of being comfortable enough to express what we want and need and it's not like I'm putting myself in any danger or he's hurting me in any way, it's just not quite my cup of tea.
Is it normal sexually to dress up like that for your partner if it doesn't float your boat at all? I feel I have no judgement of this anymore, I want to do something nice for him but also don't want to get myself in a situation where I'm doing things I don't want to

Also, to clarify, in Ann summers you have to click into the lingerie section as that's where the bra section is located!

I think a lot of people would feel silly trying something new and I’m front of someone you like. I know I would and I’ve been with my partner five years and he has watched me give birth and seen a lot more than he bargained for. If you want to try it because he would like it then that’s ok. Go for it, you may enjoy it yourself.

So you've ordered them OP. Open the package alone, have a look at the things you're unsure of, try them on. If you hate them then return them and that's that. If you think 'hmm I feel a bit silly' then show DP see what he thinks. At that point you may find you warm to the idea if your confidence is boosted, in which case great. It may be you think not a chance and that is also ok. Send them back.

I hope this doesn't sound awful (it's really not intended) but you've mentioned a few times that you're a 'good girl'. Have you done much exploring of your own sexuality and what you enjoy rather than wjat you think you should enjoy? That might be a starting point to getting yourself feeling body confident and sexually confident. If i've misunderstood then I'm sorry and ignore that last bit

I couldn’t imagine not dressing up. Obviously not every night but occasionally, yes.

If you want to wear something then do. If you don’t want to, then don’t. It really is that simple, you’re over complicating things.

Sometimes I buy stuff as a surprise for DP, sometimes he’ll send me a picture of something he likes the look of asking if I like it, if so he orders. If I don’t, he doesn’t.

What I really think is the problem here is your lack of communication and over worrying about something so trivial! If you can’t discuss with your partner what you would/wouldn’t find comfortable, should you really be having sex?

I’m not being rude. But I couldn’t imagine sleeping with someone who I couldn’t even say yes/no to wearing an outfit for.

It is absolutely OK to wear them to make him happy and no you are absolutely not degrading yourself! From your posts he sounds like a good and caring man that would never pressure you, and that you are trying out a few new things within the context of a very loving relationship. And yes it is wonderful to see the delight in your partner's eyes when you wear something special just for him. There is nothing wrong with that at all and it creates such an amazing level of intimacy with a good and kind partner.

My boyfriend of a year loves it when I wear stockings. Not all the time, but every few weeks or so. I feel like a massive idiot in them but the "wow" look in his eyes makes me forget all that and feel like a supermodel (I'm not)

I'm not sure if it's completely normal but if you can get a size that fits him, then why not? 😁

Applesauce 😂😂😂
I see what you mean about the good girl thing, I don't mean sexually I'm satisfied sexually but maybe in terms of just personality, i have worn bikinis and short skirts when I was younger but I tend to dress in a style that's very clean, neat and I'm not sure how to describe it really, I don't dress like a nun but I don't ever wear anything revealing or overly "sexy" either, mumsy I suppose? I think maybe because I have had abusive relationships I don't like to dress in a way where men will look at me like that. So I dress quite covered up and I've never worn anything out there or different.
So yes it is going to make me feel silly and like it's not me in the slightest and like what am I doing wearing this? But I suppose I would feel exactly the same in a track suit and trainers or hot pants it's just so out of my comfort zone. I think I feel like if I always dress like Somebody twice my age I am less likely to have men staring at me and it makes me feel less at risk in a subconscious way. But that shouldn't be affecting my life now. Maybe I need to just figure out who I am