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Would you ever marry a guy the same height as you

279 replies

Sergio4 · 30/05/2018 01:58

I wanted to know if most women would ever consider this. What is the minimum you would settle for? How many inches taller does he have to be?

OP posts:
BitchQueen90 · 30/05/2018 12:12

Height has never really been something I take much notice of. I'm 5'4 and haven't ever dated anyone shorter than me but I've been attracted to men of similar height to me. Exh was 6'4 and the most recent guy I've dated is 6'1 but I've been out with a couple of blokes around the 5'7 mark.

MMmomDD · 30/05/2018 12:13

Strange question.
If you asked - are you attracted to men that are shorter/same size as you - then it’s at least more understandable.

However, still unclear - how it’s relvant to you. You either find a person attractive, or not.
What others find attractive isn’t really important.

reallyanotherone · 30/05/2018 12:14

Thing is, people aren’t saying “well my usual type is tall, but I wouldn’t discount a short bloke if I met the right one”

They are saying they would rule out men shorter than them, full stop.

I have a type. But i have met lots of lovely men that don’t fit my type. I went out with them anyway, had a good time. One of them i married.

Ironically, my idea of physically attractive is dancer build. Short, small build, athletic. Grin. Most of my serious boyfriends have been 5’8 or less. Dh is 6’, and definitely not a dancer..

If i had said no to the first date because I had a set idea of “physically attractive” i’d not be sat here 15 years later....

CookPassBabtridge · 30/05/2018 12:14

My DP is my height (5tt 7) and I love it. It sounds daft but it feels like we're equals, he's my best mate and I can look him in the eye. I've been out with tall men and I always felt like the little lady around them, they always had a certain dominance just from their height. I know a lot of women love this though, and I can understand because it is attractive! But I always found it intimidating.

I come from a family of tall men and so think I'm going off how that made me feel growing up.. like I was always the little baby who needed protecting.

AtSea1979 · 30/05/2018 12:18

Same height yes, shorter no.

ItIsUnnervinglyQuietInHere · 30/05/2018 12:19

OP you haven't been back?

Was your post just an angry "all women are shallow bitches" information gathering exercise?

Or are you a shorter man and it's something you genuinely worry about and were genuinely seeking reassurances about?

Much the way I might post a question on a majority male forum asking about a physical aspect of myself to gauge what men really think?

I hope you've taken from this that we all have personal preferences. For some people, height is a factor in a partner. For others, it isn't. Personally, I prefer shorter men. My ideal height range would be 5'6 - 5'9.

But I have dated someone the same height as me (haven't met many men the same height as me or shorter) and my last boyfriend was 6'3. He was far too tall though!

I'm nore interested in a 'sparkle' and personality/values than I am height!

MissWilmottsGhost · 30/05/2018 12:22

DH is shorter than me. I am 5'6".

My XP was 6'5".

Personally I find many other qualities far more important than height when choosing a partner.

MissWilmottsGhost · 30/05/2018 12:26

I suppose it depends whether you want to wear high heels

I've seen this sort of comment often on MN and it always puzzles me.

DH is shorter than me when I am bare foot, why the fuck would I care that I am taller than him when I wear heels? Confused

HRTpatch · 30/05/2018 12:31
Grin
lostinsunshine · 30/05/2018 12:33

"Settle for"HmmSurely this is a joke.
Here's my two penn'orth. Dad was shorter than mum by about 6 inches. A pal is 6 foot and her hubby of 20 years is 5'7" - well,he's a bit taller than me, anyway.
I once had an incredibly charismatic boyfriend who was just over 5ft.
Husband is taller than me but that's not by "choice". It just is.

Bubbletrouble43 · 30/05/2018 12:36

couldnt care less. Two of my best friends in incredibly happy marriages taller than their husbands. Didn't know it mattered.

TatianaLarina · 30/05/2018 12:38

I’m 5’11 so many men are shorter than me. DH is 6’2.

GeekyWombat · 30/05/2018 12:47

I did. But I genuinely can’t understand why it’s a factor. Does it really matter?

causeimunderyourspell · 30/05/2018 12:56

Well I'm 5ft2 and have only met 2 men in my life around 5ft3 but none shorter than that! I wouldn't mind really! Don't think I'd want to tower over someone by several inches if I were tall though.

sparkling123 · 30/05/2018 12:59

Yes, would and have (well, he is about an 1/2 inch taller than me). I'm 5'9 and I've been in relationships with men who ranged from very tall, tall and about the same. I can tell you that after all the messy breakups, falling into ruts, arguments and infidelities that I am 100% happy that I married my 'same height' man. The trivial things are not important down the line and I wouldn't trade my man for the world, I know he will be there for me no matter what and I would do the same for him, I wouldn't entertain marrying someone who I didn't think I could rely on, regardless of height. What you going to do if he had to have his legs amputated? Divorce? I know I would love my Husband no matter what our situation, that's the vow you make when you get married, it's not just for the wedding photos.

MarthaArthur · 30/05/2018 13:08
Grin
Would you ever marry a guy the same height as you
DramaAlpaca · 30/05/2018 20:37

I did. I'm 5'10 & he thinks he is a tiny bit taller. It doesn't bother either of us.

BoundByBriars · 30/05/2018 20:42

It doesn't bother me in the slightest whether they are shorter, taller or the same height.

LegallyBronde · 30/05/2018 20:46

I'm only a smidge over 5ft so it's never come up! As someone mentioned earlier, Danny De Vito never asked me. My mum is 5"11 and my dad 5"6 and stepdad about an inch taller so clearly doesn't bother her Grin. As my nan says " We are all the same height laid down in bed" HmmGrin

mummyretired · 30/05/2018 20:50

I married him. I loved him and that he wasn't my physical type didn't seem to matter. There were lots of issues in the marriage but if we had fancied each other more I'm sure things would have been easier.

Now divorced & got lovely taller OH.

goose1964 · 30/05/2018 20:52

I'm 5 7 and DH is 5 8, I don't think I ever dated anyone taller than 5 10

museumum · 30/05/2018 20:54

At 5’2 it would be unlikely I’d meet a European man shorter than me but i’ve met men from Asia and South America around my height. Have never dated any of them but wouldn’t rule it out. Probably more logistically sensible than dating a man over 6’2 - I’d be forever cranking my neck!

SVRT19674 · 30/05/2018 21:17

Already did. I'm 5.8. And I wear heels when I feel like it! My best friend is my same height and she only wants taller men than her. Still single at 43.

Voci · 30/05/2018 22:27

It’s a preference.

Nobody is entitled to a romantic relationship. You can’t force people to date people that don’t fit their criteria. I’m also quite sceptical towards the whole “he’s a brilliant person but because he’s small he can’t get …” thing. There’s probably another issue.

Gates · 30/05/2018 22:44

Im only 5ft2 so no. Could also never be with a guy skinnier than me 😂.

I never had a type before I met my oh my previous bfs had been quite slim. My oh is 6ft1 and of big build, feel so safe with him. My weights always been up and down I was a size 14 when first got with him and he picked me up over his shoulders none of my other bfs even tried 😂😂

We broke up for a while and I dated a guy same build.

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