“I don’t love you anymore”

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Just a short question - did anyone get this speech served to them and then have their spouse turn around/take it back/go on to stay together?

CF43, if you share responsibility for the children evenly then you will get a few nights "off". Weird not to have the children there, but it does mean you get some space.

"What did I do?

It felt like he was scared I found something out.

I would bet my bottom dollar this. He is hiding something. Probably an OW.

I am so happy for you that you have decided to take control of this instead of drifting on. Please take steps to make this actually happen. Have you had any legal advice?

I agree it sounds like he thinks you've discovered an OW or some other secret and is now on the back foot best place for him

Or a past infidelity at the v least.
If he wasnt thrown by wondering what you were aware of and what you weremt aware of i agree that i dont think he'd have been so panicked by you asking him to leave. He might have argued with you.
Agree he was on the back foot because there is something he has done and he isnt certain any more if you know. It could even be a legal thing or a financial thing tho.
Maybe he moved money or something intended to benefit him in a divorce

He has definitely done something OP.

You need to get your ducks in a row.

Tbh I'd say it doesn't matter whether he has or hasn't done anything or got an OW. You have decided that you can't live with a man who professes not to love you and to be uncertain about your relationship. It shouldn't matter if he's as chaste as the Pope or is shagging the neighbourhood - YOU don't want to put up with HIM any longer.

He says he doesn't love you and you have the dignity and self-worth not to want to be his fallback position. Good on you.