He just stopped loving me

[Deflatedandrejected]

Me and my husband seperated a month ago and I’m struggling.

He came home one day and just said he didn’t love me anymore didn’t want to be with me.
He said I’m not someone he sees his future with and stopped being “in” love with me months ago.

We have three children and I am devastated for the life and family that they no longer have.

I feel alone and sad all the time. The tears still haven’t stopped. He is Mr Sunshine though and super happy.
He is ready to date and build a life with someone new.

Tell me when this gets better. I can’t see any future atm and am stuck in heartache mode.

Yes neither my ex is worth the time, effort or jail time (would still love to have seen his reaction to some of my ideas though )

Hi 0P was wondering how you are getting on?

Point out to him that he will be responsible for 50 per cent of caring for his children

That’ll put a spanner in the works of his single life.
Tell him the day he procreated children was the day he was no longer single.

So sorry op..been there too.
Least my kids were adults

Hi,

Just to update everyone....
I’ve had a really good week feeling so positive. Lawyers went well until I realised I don’t have my marriage certificate he does. Had asked him for it but no response so have applied for another one. Didn’t hear anything back from him about filling out the CMS forms although I know he’s looked into how much he will have to give me for the children as he said he is going to get screwed over with their estimate . He doesn’t want the children over half term said we can’t all have a holiday luckily my mum is going to come and have them.
I also got asked on a date think that is what is making me smile. I practically skipped through tesco that day. It was just nice that even after three kids and a failed marriage that at least one man still finds me attractive.
My only issue I’m having this week is I can’t seem to stop fb stalking him wanting to know what he’s up to etch why is this!

Well done for taking control OP. My ex is always banging on about how paying CM is crippling him financially, little does he realise just how much it costs to look after our dc. But it must put a strain on him paying for rent on a 5 bedroom house and competing in motorsport

Well done OP.

Right. Block him on FB. Right now.

I know it's hard, I had to do the same as I couldn't resist 'having a little peak'.

Did me no good at all.

Keep on keeping on with the rest. You will fly! [flowers[

Well done OP. Tough he thinks he is going to get screwed over, he was trying to screw and the kids over. Of course you are attractive, enjoy the attention!

Well done OP. It's hard but you have to stay strong. Forward think in 5 years....how old are the kids, they will need so much in terms of maintenance promise you....you need to get all they are due for them!!!! He doesn't want to have the kids fine....that makes you sole carer so you get more!! Once these issues are ironed out then it's moving on emotionally. Sadly divorce and splits is 90% about finance and assets.

well done OP.. great update.. I'm happy for you

I'm so glad, OP, that you are getting on with your life and putting things in order.

Block him on all social media.
It's hard - I know and I've been there.
But if you don't it's just like torturing yourself.
It was a huge relief when I finally did block.
You won't regret it!
Honest!

Glad you are getting it together. Don't let him off his responsibilities.

OP you are amazing.

Only in his own opinion will he be 'screwed' by the CMS. Who the hell does he think should pay for his 3 children?

Did I say I think you are amazing OP? I think you are amazing. And damn straight men will be asking you out on dates.

And another thing. Attending events but ignoring his kids in the house does not make him an average father. The bar is much higher.

And I think you are amazing OP.