Would your DP do this??

[Neveragain12]

So we don't live together and both have children..

Last night I sliced my finger open on a can and it was pumping blood out and wouldn't stop.
I messaged my so to say if it didn't stop soon, I may need to get it looked at so would he drive me to a&e.

His response was "get one of your friends to look at it, seriously other wise I won't get to bed until 3am as we'll have to wait 5 hrs.... what a joke I drive myself when I hurt my finger"

I explained that at that time I wouldn't have been able to drive and actually I just wanted his support. I'd also asked his sister in law if she was free to go and st with his boys which she was.... but he would not come.

Would your do be there for you in a heartbeat? Even if it was something little?

I wouldn’t expect DH to come with me. I didn’t go with him when he broke his wrist because I was looking after our children at home. We could have got childcare but didn’t see the point.
For a cut finger neither of us would expect the other to come, especially at 10pm.

You were being a bit daft but I suspect you were being so dramatic to try and get some of the love and attention you crave from him that you aren't getting. He could have been kinder in his reply to you. Honestly I think you're better off looking for someone more on your wavelength.

The issue isn't that she asked him, we can all do that sort of thing, nor is it the fact he declined to spend the best part of the night in a&e because she had a minor cut on her finger, that's fair enough, it's the fact she went ahead and organised child care for his kids , who he was caring for on his own, without his agreement, knowledge or permission,. I don't know any parent that would be ok with that.

Well clearly a few women on here would be not just and fine and dandy with it they'd fully accept a man doing that to them, but I don't know anyone in real life who would accept that.

No way would I leave my children at 10pm to go and help someone with a cut finger!!!! Seriously, if it was that bad, call a taxi. If you needed help with childcare that’s one thing but having to organise 2 lots of childcare to take you to hospital (when you didn’t actually need to go) sounds like a joke.

OP - i think it was out of order of you to call his SIL to ask her to babysit his kids, and OTT of you to ask him to come out at 10pm for a hypothetical bad injury, when he had work the extra day.
Surely much less inconvenience to everyone if you had thought of the easiest option; get a cab (theoretically).

If he's generally unloving end the relationship, but not just over this.