Very sadly my partners grandma has recently been diagnosed with cancer. She's in her 90's and due to a family rift he he hasn't seen her for many years. As a consequence she also hasn't met our son who turned one in February.
My partner wants to take our son to Brazil on his own to meet his grandma as it may be the only chance she gets to meet him.
I'm not a heartless person. I understand the situation is a horrible one to be in.
I've said our son can't go without me coming too. My reasons are he is too young to be without me and also that I'm still breastfeeding and he relies on that.
Our son does go to a childminder and manages during the day while he's there but the minute I turn up he is desperate for a feed. He also still wakes twice or more during the night for a feed. Sometimes it takes an hour to settle him back to sleep, sometimes only 15 minutes. I have never been away from our son for a night and when I have gone out for a few hours over bedtime and my partner has put him to sleep he cried himself to sleep (in my partners arms) after half an hour, then woke every hour until I got home.
My partner thinks I'm being totally unreasonable and that our son doesn't rely on breastmilk anymore as he eats food so he should be able to take him away without me.
I'm interested in your thoughts mumsnetters...
Whether it's relevant or not our relationship is on the rocks and not going well at all at the moment unfortunately, however, I always remain calm and measured with my words, even when he raises his voice or gets angry with me