I was just wondering if anyone else has a very negative relationship with their parents?
When I was 7 my dad walked into my bedroom and sat at the end of my bed and told me he was leaving. He didn't even give me a hug and then he left and I didn't see him for weeks and weeks. Until then he'd been coming in at 3am drunk and stinking of fags. He slept on the bathroom floor and shouted at my mum and slapped my brother and me so hard you could see the perfect red handprint afterwards. I saw him hurl my little brother into a TV and I didn't realise this was not what most Dads did. My mother just let it happen. She took pictures of the marks on our bodies but that's it. Idk where those pictures are today.
Later he got a grubby flat and eventually his own house. Me and my brother went to see him often. He drank and watched the rugby and we sat there and didn't really say anything. He would call me a useless selfish cunt almost daily and used me as a way to arrange meetings with my younger brother because he didn't have a phone (my brother). I think he hated me more and wanted less to do with me because I was a girl. One day he drank a lot and he tried to break my arm after smashing my little brother head against the wall. He was laughing while he did. I didn't speak to him for a long time until my grandmother (his mother) said he was very upset and encouraged me to speak to him. I was 13/14 at this time and again I still stupidly loved him. I never told a soul until much later on. He continued to call me a stupid cunt almost daily until a few weeks ago when I asked him for help with a medical issue which causes me to be in pain 24/7 and he his response was so vile it made me realise I didn't really need to be in contact with him at all. I'm still young and rely on my parents financially so this is obviously quite difficult. He wants to take my bother to Monaco and I don't know how to feel. I love my little brother so deeply and I worry about him. My brother hardly speaks and is very timid. He twitches and never leaves his room except to go to school. I sometimes think this is due to our upbringing.
My mother also says very spiteful comments regularly and is mentally unwell. She is on tablets for this but they don't seem to work. Growing up she never had food in the house and would clean obsessively for hours and spend hours having multiple baths/showers everyday. She still does this. Me and my younger brother worked hard in school, always got good grades and never made trouble. For some reason she would still make negative comments. The smallest tiff with a friend and she'd tell me i couldn't get on with anyone. I'd get all A's and Bs and she'd tell me about a friend of a friends child who got 5 A*s. She also made random comments about me being 'lazy and self indulgent.' I had three separate jobs whilst studying and always took opportunities in school. I took the hardest options (like triple science/extra stats gcse/even traveled to China as an extra curricular trip) yet I was never good enough. Id console her when she was upset and now I'm in constant pain and all she does is pass comments about me not working. My mother's behaviours also include screaming animalistic-ally or repeating a word over and over again "shit shit shit shit shit shit shit" whilst getting louder and louder and frantically scrubbing the floors with vinegar etc. On one occasion she even had a knife out and was threatening to stab herself and I had to coax the knife out of her hand. Sometimes I wish I hadn't. I was only about 14/15.
I wonder if anyone else has had such issues with a parent or both parents and how they deal with it cause sometimes I just want someone to hug me and tell me everything will be ok.