I'm ltb. Help me to follow through. Black eye :(

[LoveYouSo]

So. I've posted on here before in a different name. I can't change my user name right now, but here goes.

My H punched me in the face. It started off as EA, now it is physical.

I have a lot of debt. I only work 15 hours pwk, but I love my job. How do I go about this? We rent, but I don't want to move and uproot the dc. How do I do this?

I hope you are ok OP. Well done for leaving. We are all here holding your hand.

Congratulations Op, this is the start of your new life! Feel really proud of you for taking such a brave step! Happy Easter and take good care

Adding my support. Good for you. You can do this. Now you’ve left, don’t go back. He will try and love bomb you to get you back but he will punch you again if you do. Stay gone

I've been to A&E, had an x-ray and my eye socket is intact. Have also logged it with the police and they are on their way to interview me. Not sure if they're going to pay him a visit.

Thank you again to all of you, for your kind words of support.

Oh sweetheart, you poor thing. Glad it's reported. Glad you're safe.

I’m glad you’re ok physically. You’re being very brave. Please tell the police everything. Best of luck to you, darling.

13 years ago that was me!! Op.... you've done the right thing

Good luck, it's downhill all the way

Sending hugs, love and strength.

Fantastic progress, op, you are handling this brilliantly!!

Definitely get it logged at the walk in or hospital. It’s very very important to build up a diary of things that have happened.

You’re absolutely brilliant. You’ve been incredibly brave, well done.

Well done OP, we’re all here for you, keep going in the right direction

Well done you .... very proud. Took a lot of courage . Keep going look ahead not back .

Hope you are safe.

Well done!

Well done LoveYouSo, amazing strength. Glad you are all safe.

Congratulations on breaking free! 💐🎍🌼🌻🥀🌹🌺🌸🌷

Thank you all. Have logged the incident with the police, should I press charges?

Absolutely press charges. If he is hoping for contact it is vital that the Court makes findings about his violence, and a criminal conviction is a much easier way to get that than you seeking findings in the family court.

So many of my clients Don't press charges, and then bitterly regret it.

I would.

If nothing else, it shows you're prepared to take legal action to protect you and the DC. It shows your DC, your family and and yourself that you understand it is not acceptable for anyone to hit you.

Press charges, he broke the law he should pay the price.
You are a victim of abuse and pressing charges will also help you stay safe. He will be released on bail but with conditions not to contact you so this will help you with some mental breathing space.
Pressing charges and going to court is hard, but for me , eventually it helped. I was finally able to take back the control and stand up to him, it played a big part in my recovery.
Also the police will assign you an IDVO these can help with referrals to groups that help with rehoming and counselling etc.

I'm only really thinking of the long term, if the dc find out he was charged and imprisoned. But agree, he broke the law and needs to be punished.

OP you are not responsible for how your children feel if he is prosecuted for his actions. That is his problem.

FWIW I think they will be proud of you for standing up to a violent thug. A powerful woman is a great role model. Well done.

Genuinely delighted to hear your update you are doing amazingly.

And yes, Alabsolutely press charges.