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Original poster

I'm ltb. Help me to follow through. Black eye :(

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LoveYouSo · 31/03/2018 04:02

So. I've posted on here before in a different name. I can't change my user name right now, but here goes.

My H punched me in the face. It started off as EA, now it is physical.

I have a lot of debt. I only work 15 hours pwk, but I love my job. How do I go about this? We rent, but I don't want to move and uproot the dc. How do I do this?

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Original poster
LoveYouSo · 31/03/2018 09:40

Have all essential paperwork, baby memory boxes, portable hard drive.

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OnTheRise · 31/03/2018 09:41

Well done for getting away from him, OP. You're very brave, and doing the right thing.

Next step: police, and hospital.

Keep going. You can do this.

Original poster
LoveYouSo · 31/03/2018 09:42

Thank you folly I've already looked up divorce and separation on the gov.uk site and have browsed through the gingerbread website.

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OhOfCourse · 31/03/2018 09:42

Good luck and lots of hugs. You can do this xx

blueskyinmarch · 31/03/2018 09:45

Well done for getting away.

seven201 · 31/03/2018 09:56

Well done. You're doing so well.

Crazycatladyx5 · 31/03/2018 09:58

Well done for getting away.
It took me far too long to leave my first H who was violent. I was just 16 & pregnant when I married him. My oldest daughter was 8 when I left. In her teens & 20s she had a string of relationships with violent partners. If I'd known back in the 80s the impact Hs behaviour was having on my kids I would have left much sooner. After years of support my daughter is now happily settled with a wonderful man.
I uprooted my 3 kids back then ...it was hard but it was the right thing to do.
You will need to be strong....you have already shown the strength you have by leaving, well done.
Sending you strength & love to get through this & have a happier safer life for you & your children. X

BettyBaggins · 31/03/2018 10:00

Well done op. Blue skies ahead. Go get your eye looked at and let your family look after you whilst you plan a bright new future.

GeekyWombat · 31/03/2018 10:02

Hope you've got your family member with you, and are on the way out. I'm sure today is going to be a tough day. Sending best wishes. Every day will get a little easier - and life will be much sunnier soon.

Original poster
LoveYouSo · 31/03/2018 10:09

Thank you all. We're on the road.

Feeling a little bit of freedom already.

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Flomy · 31/03/2018 10:19

We're on the road to the rest of your lives Flowers

Happy Easter OP - a fresh start and the BEST bloody Easter present you could EVER give your beautiful children Easter Smile

Original poster
LoveYouSo · 31/03/2018 10:23

Happy Easter FlowersEaster Smile

We have a lot to look forward to.

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Quantumblue · 31/03/2018 10:29

Remember Easter is all about spring and new beginnings. Hope you can feel a bit of joy.

UtterlyRainbowed · 31/03/2018 10:30

I just want to add my support. You're being absolutely wonderful. Please press charges for assault. He seems to think he's getting away with it

Want2beme · 31/03/2018 10:38

I wouldn't have any practical advice to give you, but just want to say how glad I am for you and DC. Enjoy your freedom and hope all goes well for youFlowers

Follyfoot · 31/03/2018 10:38

I just said 'woo hoo' out loud reading your updates!

You have so much to look forward to as you say. On your way to a wonderful new life Flowers

Chocolaterainbows · 31/03/2018 10:41

Well done op. You are doing the right thing. I wish you and your little one a very happy easter Easter Smile

Lisette40 · 31/03/2018 10:48

loveyouso cheering you on here. May this be the start of a wonderful new beginning. Flowers

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 31/03/2018 11:25

You are amazing. Well done. Today is the first day of your new life Flowers

AdoraBell · 31/03/2018 11:31

I’ve just seen this. Glad to see your latest post OP

Well done on getting out and accepting help. 💐

RTBAdmin · 31/03/2018 11:56

I don't know you but I am so proud of you. It's so easy in the cold light of day to stay put. God knows I done it for years.

Here's to your happiness Brew

MrsBartlettforthewin · 31/03/2018 12:03

Didn't want to read and run. Well done OP you are truly amazing. Your D.C. will see how strong you are and that you only want the best for them. The police will support you it doesn't matter how much your H had drunk it is never an excuse.

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Helbelle75 · 31/03/2018 12:03

Just seen this and wanted to add my support. Well done for getting away and enjoy that freedom!

KittyBelle123 · 31/03/2018 13:22

Thanks As PP said, I don't know you but I'm so pleased and proud that you have made this move. Please report him, drunk or not drunk - no excuses for his behaviour or violence. Wishing you a Happy Easter - a time of year when we are all looking at new beginnings in some way or other Easter SmileThanks

Maddiemademe · 31/03/2018 17:13

How are you OP? Just read this and so proud of you!! You are a fantastic role model for your children and a wonderful, strong woman. Well done for being brave and starting your new life. Have you had it logged with the police yet and have you had it looked at? Flowers

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