He makes to much noise during sex

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I have never been with a man who moans more than me but my Partner of 7 months does and it is annoying me..
he moans like you would expect a woman to moan
it is so off putting I hate it. Should I bring it up? does your partner moan a lot?

I don't know what I would do. I have to admit that I would find it off putting. I don't know if I would tell him. Realistically I would probably distance myself.

If you like him and think it's worth pursuing tell him sometime when you're relaxed and feeling close. Who knows it might work out.

Gag him. Could be kinky?

If it's off putting and you hate it then you should probably tell him so that he stops, otherwise he's none the wiser. Perhaps he thinks you like it!

I think YABU for saying there’s an expected way for women to moan but other than that tell him to tone it down.

Everyone is different. I suspect some women might even like this. You're not compatible.

I agree with Mini - you’re just not compatible. There is nothing wrong with how he is expressing his pleasure.

You should only bring it up if you are ready to receive similar criticism. Be kind.

To say that you are not compatible because you think he is too noisy is rather jumping to conclusions. If you are fine in all other areas, both in and out of the bedroom, why not tell him about how you feel? At the end of the day, nobody is perfect and we do need to sometimes let go of our partner's foibles. My partner of 15 years, whom I love dearly, sometimes does things which might annoy me but I simply tell myself to let it go.

Judging from most of the other posts here, it will not be a problem a few years into the relationship, because you'll probably be no longer be having sex anyway.

I wouldn't tell him! I'd be so offended if my partner told me my moans are off-putting. Moans are a sign that he's enjoying sex with you, so what if they're annoying?

And in answer to your question, my partner moans most times and sometimes comes out with some really odd phrases but that's because he's in the moment, I love that he is comfortable to let himself go.

Does he think he is a porn star in other ways?
I actually had to make an honest remark to dh the day after his attempts at talking dirty last week. Better a cringe conversation than sex you aren't enjoying.

Agree with @slim it would be very offensive to tell him, it’s probably something he wouldn’t be able to change. I think everyone has a quirk in the bedroom, my ex constantly wanted me to say his name and tell him I surrendered and that I’d have his baby, at first I thought this was weird (fourth date ha) but soon got used to it. It was a dominance thing I think but if I didn’t like it I didn’t have to be with him.

What kind of noise. Grunts or talky shit

he moans like you would expect a woman to moan

How would you expect a woman to moan?

Genuine question. I'm the only women who's ever been present when I've had sex. Don't know if I'm doing it right!

My partner is mostly noisier than me. I like it!

YABVU. And have a really bizarre double standard on how men and women can express pleasure.

You watch too much porn.

Oh god my ex did this and I hated it. It's so off putting. All the "yeahs" and the groans when he touched me made me feel weird. In the end I dreaded sex for that and other reasons but I'm glad I got rid of him. It was good sex but we weren't compatible on any level really.

If your relationship is sufficiently intimate to have sex, then you should be able to chat to him (and have a laugh) about this. Humour might be the way to go.

Uuuugh no.

Tell him if it's for your benefit that you'd rather he didn't.

I remember being utterly thrown by the amount of noise my ex made during sex. But then before that my previous partner had been completely silent.

I think you get used to it and look at it as him enjoying being with you and the enjoyment of the act that it being off putting.

OP - seems like you are Ok with being the noisier one during sex, but it’s not Ok if he is. Hmm. Yes, that’s totally normal and fair.

But - at the same time - if the way he expresses pleasure is off putting to you - by all means - leave.

If someone wanted me to be louder or less noisy while I am having sex and am totally relaxed and in the moment - i’d think hard about whether it’s worth bothering being with them.

God, if someone doesn't make a sound, that really puts me off especially when you have to ask-"are you enjoying this?"

I find it a real turn on to hear them shout!

I don't think you should tell. I don't think it'll work between you.

I agree it's off putting if someone is really quiet too. I think there's a difference between pleasure noises and being a bit OTT. OP is he overly enthusiastic in other areas?

My bf moans and talks and I have to say I sometimes laugh! It's because it's new to me and it'll probably take a while to get used to. In the back of my mind, I think "Oh god, what must the neighbours think". I suppose it's kind of reassuring that he is enjoying himself, it never sounds fake.
Myself, on the other hand, I am very quiet. He has sometimes asked if I am ok. It's not like I just lay there, unmoving, he certainly knows by my actions that I'm enjoying myself. It's a case of getting used to each other. I couldn't be forced to be more verbal anymore than he could be less vocal.
After 8 mths I would be questioning whether you are compatible long term.

So it's ok for you to moan but not him

Better than being silent, imo