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He makes to much noise during sex

91 replies

TutTutButt · 31/03/2018 03:50

I have never been with a man who moans more than me but my Partner of 7 months does and it is annoying me..
he moans like you would expect a woman to moan
it is so off putting I hate it. Should I bring it up? does your partner moan a lot?

OP posts:
TheSassyAssassin · 31/03/2018 13:28

Bored at 4am were we and fancied a good old moan?

ItsASairFecht · 31/03/2018 13:36

If he is making noises that suggest enjoyment I would take it as a compliment (and also find it enhances arousal)..my husband can go either way, but I always worry when he is quiet that he isn't enjoying it.

PrettyLittIeThing · 31/03/2018 14:28

See I've only ever been with men who are completely silent and honestly I find that a little weird. But too noisy wouldn't like that either. Hmm

laurahill88 · 31/03/2018 14:39

I’d phrase it so that it is less reflective on him and more on you like the whole ‘it’s not you it’s me’. Tell him to reach orgasm you need to really concentrate and sometimes his noises takes you out of the ‘moment’

LiteraryDevil · 31/03/2018 14:43

Laura I had someone totally offended that I needed to concentrate during sex Hmmmy mind flits about a lot and I have trouble concentrating so have to concentrate to stop it wandering.

FinishingTheHat · 31/03/2018 14:48

Yes, like a previous poster, I want to know how women moan, in case I'm it wrong, and why women are allowed to moan, according to you, and men aren't? Did I miss a memo?

ThirdTimeUnlucky · 31/03/2018 14:50

Laura and Devil - that's it exactly!

Heatherjayne1972 · 31/03/2018 15:59

Better than total silence op
At least youre getting feedback about whether he likes it

UndomesticHousewife · 31/03/2018 19:44

We have sex in silence so the kids don’t hear us but I think I’d be very put off if dh was moaning. A bit of noise to let me know he’s enjoying a particular thing is great but not all the time. I put myself off if I moan I’m just not a big noise maker, though dh asked once if I was awake so I try to mumble a bit here and there.

LiteraryDevil · 31/03/2018 19:49

Undom he had to ask if you were awake?? What do you do, lie back and think of England?!

PeacefulBlessing · 31/03/2018 20:16

so I try to mumble a bit here and there.

God, how depressing!! Grin

I have to have silent sex in the house because I have 2 kids who are pretty much always at home.

So we are silent but we never have to ask if the other is awake! There is very much active participation on both sides...

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 31/03/2018 20:23

I was going to mention children? Do you have any? If yes, it's a big No to all the moaning.

Unless he's just moaning during sex about random stuff? The dust on top of the wardrobe, Bob's been off sick at work for 4 days now and he's not happy about next door's hedge, it needs trimming and so on.

JaneEyre70 · 31/03/2018 20:23

If it's putting you off, tell him. Nicely.

killinginthenameof · 31/03/2018 20:54

Gosh I'd find it so off putting if a partner complained about the noises I made! I'd be thinking about it and not able to relax after that. Be careful as you risk ruining sex with him forever

Apricotjamsndwich · 31/03/2018 21:30

I've had that-massive turn off.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 31/03/2018 21:30

It can be mentioned tactfully. E.g. Mavis next door told me today she heard funny noises and thought someone was being murdered last night so let's keep it down tonight dear.

Octave777 · 01/04/2018 00:28

Haha. Mavis

Quietlife1979 · 01/04/2018 00:32

If you like every thing else tell him.

Dh used to do this weird kids thing on my forehead - hated it. It stopped

UndomesticHousewife · 01/04/2018 00:50

He was joking in a way! I wasn’t making any noise, I wasn’t comatose
It was a light hearted post...

PussGirl · 01/04/2018 06:23

My boyfriend makes mmm noises from time to time during sex & grunts a bit when he comes.

I find it a turn-on.

Can't complain really anyway as I'm quite noisy Blush

If he was shouting Oh Yeah Baby or something I'd probably piss myself laughing.

HeyMolly · 01/04/2018 06:29

People who are quiet during sex and extremely off putting. I’m not talking exaggerated porn screams but you do need some expression of pleasure.

Criticising anything people do in the sex department is always a very very touchy subject. If you absolutely HAVE to bring it up, I would make it very light and jokey.

HeyMolly · 01/04/2018 06:32

My boyfriend has some weird thing where he knocks 3 times with his cock before he comes in....wtf is all that about? Got to say, i’d rather have your problem.

cloudchasing · 01/04/2018 06:36

TheStoic what do you mean, 'you watch too much porn'? The OP is not about herself, it's about her partner Confused

Man alive, I HATE silent sex. It comes over as cold and functional. Ugh.

But over exaggerated porno moans would turn me right off. Nice bit of noise when he comes, but otherwise, stfu Wink

cloudchasing · 01/04/2018 06:38

HeyMolly that has made me proper laugh Grin

Also, what is that weird thing some of them so when they go down on you and start shaking their head about, like a terrier worrying a rat. Now THAT'S too much porn Grin

HeyMolly · 01/04/2018 06:42

Motor boating the vagina Grin

Yep I know that one

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