partners nastiness worse during pregnancy can i turn this around or is there no hope?

[wishinonastar17]

Was hoping for a bit of insight or advice really....
Been with partner a few years
No children together as yet
Lost a baby a few months back so we were both over the moon when i fell pregnant again so quickly but since then things have been awful
Im currently 20 weeks pregnant and he flips out over the tiniest things and goes mental at me saying the vilest things he can think of... this is pretty much on a daily basis now....
Constantly telling me hes going to leave me and he can see why my ex had an affair
Im forever trying not to say the wrong thing and barely say anything at all atm but then if im quiet he screams at me for being miserable and he cant stand to look at my whiny face
I have no idea why its got so bad i really thought he would be protective now im pregnant again as we lost the last baby but he doesnt seem to care at all about the stress hes putting me through and if i get upset and ask him to stop he just says im a drama queen or pathetic.....
Is there a right way to act in all this i desperatley want him to just be calm he does have other stress but i just seem to be the emotional punchbag
Has anybody been in this position when pregnant with it gradually getting worse?
How do you/ can you turn it around?
I dont want to split up but i dont know how much more i can take and im worried for this baby with the amount of stress im under not sleeping/eating etc
Any ideas would be really helpful .....

Yes, but who estranged you from your friends? Did he disapprove? did he make you angsty about calling & meeting up? Did he give you the silent treatment if you said you were meeting up with ahold gf? Did you feel they wouldn't like him? why was that ?

Abusers love to ostracise you from your support network, its a text book classic.

ahold = an old !

Oh star, you are braver than you realise! You’re not weak at all. I do think you’re quite vulnerable though. It sounds like you had a pretty tough childhood and men like this prey on women who are vulnerable. When the dust has settled, it might be worth you doing the Freedom Programme so you recognise red flags don’t fall into the same kind of relationship again?

Even the right thing feels hard x

I'd suggest you play him at his own games and completely cut all contact and ghost him. Unfortunately op he will never ever change and his problems with his ex are un likely to change unless he does something about it ? Please keep yourself safe and remember all his nasty words are said to hurt you and are in no way true . Unless he is seriously willing to change and get proffesinnal help for his anger then you really need to leave him . You deserve so much better sweetie . Would you really want to bring a baby up around a man that is abusive ? . Good luck op and don't let him back in the house xx

How have you been?
Thinking of you over past few days

You will feel better once your body recovers from the fight/flight state that is caused by an abusive relationship.
His abuse towards you isn't rational so none of this makes sense.This is what causes the mental drain, trying to figure out why he is being so destructive.You may never get an answer but its likely to be deeply rooted in his childhood.

How you doing @Wishinonastar17? has he left you alone?