New relationship & drip fed information

[Hilarium]

I’ve been with him for 3 months. I fell for him very quickly which is unusual for me - very unusual. I am not one of those people who is in love with being in love. We just clicked. He’s gorgeous and I really enjoy his company.

He had been married for 16 years and told me that he and his wife separated because they just grew apart. However, he also told me his teenage daughter doesn’t speak to him and is angry with him. I thought there has to be more to this. His lack of relationship with his daughter really hurts him and he desperately wants her back in his life.

So anyway, last week I found out the truth. Which is that the reason for his marriage break up and his daughter’s anger is that he developed a porn addiction and had sex with a prostitute. He moved into a different room in the house but then added insult to injury by going off with another woman because he was ‘lonely’

He had suggested that his wife was difficult because she had not let him value the house and sell it. But I can completely understand why she would do this and if I were in her shoes I would think why the hell should I lose my home because he decided to bang a hooker? I can also understand why his daughter won’t speak to him.

I think everyone deserves a second chance but would I be letting myself in for more of the same? I had noticed that he seems to have hang ups about sex which apparently is all related to the above.

I really love him and he treats me very well always. But obviously it concerns me that he could behave in such a self destructive way.

Would you be concerned about this?

No

Op was unable to post under Hilarium so she had to change the spelling

For some reason

I can't get the old spelling back. If you think I'm a troll report me. I don't care 🤷🏻‍♀️

You don't appear to know how name changing works.

You don't appear to know how name changing works.

You don't appear to know how name changing works.

You don't appear to know how name changing works.

You don't appear to know how name changing works.

You don't appear to have any curiosity as to why someone would do it 3 times on one thread

Dear me...

Twice on one thread. Which is less of an issue than your troll hunting is.

You better get regular std checks.

I openly asked a question. That's not troll hunting. Unless you believe op is a troll ?

Op has given her reply. I am still wondering what she is playing at but the name changing function is open to all to use as they see fit

it was obvious troll hunting, which you know.

Perhaps hq should examine the thread very carefully then

then perhaps you should have reported it instead of openly troll hunting

Not defending the guy here and I know I'll rile some folk up with this question but would his wank addiction be somewhat justified say if he was a very sexual person and his exwife was not available or interested. Different strokes for different folks...I know if I wasnt giving up the goods I would never begrudge my partner the right to some self service. For all we know they may not have dtd since their teen was born...I could understand if that was the case.
It's unfortunate but some men view prostitutes as a service therefore justifying it to themselves that theyre not cheating as opposed to starting a secret relationship or having a one night stand. Still pretty grim though, I wouldn't tolerate it nor would I insist on dragging out a sexless marriage if one or both of us were unhappy.

And you should report me instead of wading in

Well I've been on MN for 14 years - get a life AF. If you think a thread is not genuine you are supposed to report it.

Teahot - no i don't think it's ever justified. He had a perfectly good marriage with a woman who was the love of his life and he screwed it up.

I spoke to him about his daughter and said that if I were him I would put every effort into fixing the hurt he has caused her instead of focussing on her personality flaws.

Afternoon folks. Just a reminder that we do prefer people to report suspected trolls, or indeed troll-hunters, to us rather than call it out on the boards. It just derails threads.

For the record, the OP has been pretty open about the fact that she had a name-change fail and then had trouble name-changing again, which does happen from time to time (sorry, OP). So we can't see that there is any attempt at pulling the wool over anyone's eyes here.

Do just hit the report button though, if there are any other concerns.