A few moths ago, I met a guy online and we emailed for a few weeks. We hit it off straight away. He lived quite far but we met up, nice chemistry, he kissed me at the end of the date.
Over emails he explained he didn’t have the emotional capacity to get (emotionally) close to anyone, despite the obvious spark. However, he still wanted to meet again, which we did.
Great second date. It led to sex, which was fabulous. Spent night together, loads more sex. Given his emails, I kind of knew it was unlikely to lead to a relationship, but thought we might at least continue to be friends. I specifically asked him not to ghost me.
He continued to communicate for a few days after and then, guess what? Yup, no contact.
I’m over it - it’s his problem and not mine. I doubt there was anyone else. He was hardly ever on the site and his membership was coming to an end. I don’t think he blocked me, I think he was genuine. He did tell me about his problems with emotional intimacy and I still agreed to sex anyway. I am pretty detached, emotionally, myself.
My question is: it’s his birthday soon. During our emailing we had a lot of banter over when his birthday was, all jokey kind of stuff. Do I email a one liner to say HB, or shall I continue to ignore him?
I kind of want to show my kind side - “you have been a shit but hey, I still remembered your birthday”
but another part of me wants him to think he has lost the privilege of being in my headspace.
Maybe should mention I have ASD so get this stuff wrong all the time.