Need help leaving once and for all

[Dancetothebeat32]

As I type I am sat with my 2 year old shaking and crying, he has hit me for the last time today, I truly mean it. I am scrawling through women's aid and refuge, waiting for the police to arrive my other 2 children are still in bed I feel like such a failure to them for allowing this to go on for so long

I’ve been reading your posts and want to add my words if support. You are very brave and stronger than you know! I’m glad you’ve come to this decision, stay focused on a better life for you and your children. You will look back on this day and be very proud of yourself for having the courage to leave. I hope you’ve been able to get some rest now.
Please let us know how things go later.
Thinking of you.

I managed to get some sleep, the kind where you aren't fully asleep because you jolt up every half an hour, but it was better than nothing, I didn't hear a thing from him,
Im just sitting tight now waiting for the social worker to come now, the magnitude of the situation I am in has really hit me this morning, I just went to the bathroom and took a look at myself in the mirror, With my black eye, bust lip and bruised jaw and don't ever want to see myself like this again

Glad to hear that you got through the night ok op. Stay strong.

Thankyou, I just hope that I am priority to the social worker and she comes as soon as possible, I do not want to be around when he decides to get in contact or tries coming to the house, I am going to leave the keys with the social or family support worker, if he wants anything else from the house they will have to let him in and stay until he leaves..... if not I don't really care I won't be here

I hope today is a better at for you OP, and you manage to get away. You can do this!

• better day.

Thankyou I am having a bit of nightmare, the social worker that has been allocated to us is not back in work until tomorrow, but she is going to ring me just after 9, I am just going to tell her everything that has gone on, I'm quite sure that she will put things in place that he isn't allowed near the property until I have left with the children, my family support worker is going to come even though she is off work to see what she can do for me.
I'm just going through the motions right now I may have to sit out another 24 hours until my social worker comes back on duty, I don't see the point in uprooting the kids to a refuge for a day to then uproot them to the other end of the country

Keep going. I'm sure you feel exhausted but keep reminding yourself you will have a better future by going through the motions today. Stay strong your doing amazing!

Hi OP,

I just wanted to say you are doing the right thing, so be kind to yourself. It doesn't matter that it's taken you a while to come to this decision, the fact that you have come to it now is a Good Thing. For you, and for your children.

Keep going. I know it's hard at the moment, but you will get there. Take a photo of your poor face, then use it as evidence, and as a reminder to yourself that he did this to you. The mother of his kid.

I hope you stay safe, keep posting on here too.

Hi thankyou for your replies and I'm sorry I haven't been able to update my circumstances today

My social worker came today and has stayed with me all day sorting out arrangements and travel tickets.... she is picked my me up in the mornings and taking me and the DC the station so I can leave,
Police have been informed of the incident and I have had to give my notice in of the house

I didn't hear a thing from him until midday today and he was still pissed out of his brain,
There is a flag on the address and he has categorically been told by the social worker that he will be arrested if he shows up, he's accused me of having an affair today, that I have been planning this for a long time calling me a cunt....... to them being so apologetic and threatening to kill himself......I have been through the motions today, but me and the kids are fine for one more evening, my social worker has an iPhone so I am just screen shotting the texts and forwarding them to her, the little one has just gone to sleep so I am going to try and get my head down for an hour as I have had a draining day today

I have spoken to my family member in regards to me staying with her and she has been brillliant, so so supportive and is just glad the realisation has finally reached me.... I'm not going to pretend that this is at all easy for me, because I am filled with so many emotions right now, but it is out of my hands now

Wow, well give yourself a pat on the back for getting so much sorted out in a single day when you are tired and emotional and bruised and HURT.

You deserve a fucking round of applause, and I'm giving you one right now.

So pleased you're getting sorted. And having the social worker on side is great. Keep going. A peaceful life is awaiting you xx

Just to say you are amazingly strong, and you should be proud that you have had the courage to do what you have done over the last 48 hours. You are not a fool, you are not weak. Real courage is standing up even when your legs are shaking from fear. I hope you are doing ok and that tomorrow goes exactly as you need it too

Thankyou, I don't feel brave or courageous or strong.......or anything to be honest with you

I am just on autopilot and wondering how I'm putting one foot in front of the other at the minute, but I am so so grateful at the help and support I have received today, it's a truly humbling feeling when you have been made to feel that nobody in the world cares about you and you aren't worth anybody's time.

We all care, and your children all love you! To them you are the most important person (I'm 29 and STILL need my mum!) I know you don't feel it right now, after everything you have gone through that's not surprising, but we all think you are brave and courageous. And one day in the future you will be able to look back at this horrific time and be able to see that too 💐

Please don't ever feel ashamed of yourself Dance. The only shame in this situation fully belongs to your EX partner.

You have done what was necessary to survive, and now you are taking the right route to get you and your kids to safety.

I really appreciate the support this thread is giving me right now, I've been able to get a couple of hours earlier while the little one napped, we are all back upstairs, house is locked and bolted I know he won't come here tonight he is too busy feeling sorry for himself somewhere, the aggressive,acuusations and nastiness didn't work so he tried to turn on the tears and bullshit promises, I am just so so over it all
I cannot tell you how the dynamic has changed in such a short amount of time....I'm going to try and get as much rest as I possibly can because I am beyond exhausted and have tomorrow to contend with x

I'm glad the light bulb has come on for you and your life can now start to improve with him out it. I hope you can have a restful night sleep and he leaves you alone. You are very strong!

Well done OP, you have done so well. Just think, this time tomorrow you will be far away and beginning your new life with your children. You should be proud of yourself

You are doing so well OP, we are all behind you. You can do this lovely

You might not feel brave but you are.

Good luck for tomorrow.

Will be thinking of you.

Take care.

Op l just dropped in on the thread in the hope that you had safely left, and it has made my morning that you are finally going to be free of this vile abusive man, and take your son to a safe future free of abuse.

I hope your injuries heal soon and you start to feel better, well done for being so brave, wishing you and your Ds all the very best.

Thinking of you, hope you are away safely today

Hope you are ok OP. Keep moving forward you have done so well x