Sexual first date now, loss of interest :(

[1stdatejiggyness]

I had an amazing first date with a guy I met on OLD at the weekend. we'd been messaging and speaking almost daily for a week before.
We had so much in common culturally, academically and we really hit it off.
He paid for a lovely expensive meal and I did offer. He didn't want the night to end so took me to a bar till the early hours.

He was very flirty and touchy-feely all night. So, one thing lead to another and things happened in his car. ..we didn't go all the way.

Since that night, he doesn't call and hardly messages. I guess he got what he wanted but I'm shocked! I guess he thought I must not be worth calling again after that.... even though he initiated everything. I didn't throw myself at him.

I'll be honest, I have a high sex drive so when I meet a guy and there's sexual chemistry, I just can't wait but when they don't call again, it pisses me off.... I'm sure many will think "what do you expect"?

Sorry, dunno if I'm asking opinions or just venting but I dunno what to do now. I can't deal with one message a day from someone I really liked. So now what?

Was this a TINDER date?

If so, that app has a mind set of once they have tested the water they move onto there next match. Not nice.

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Interesting faugheen - can I ask what you're basing that on?

I met my dh on Tinder faugheen . Shagged him on.the first date too. You're not really allowed to share 1st date sex tinder 'success' stories on MN, though. Far too positive. The fact is regardless of what app you use, if its right, its right. If it just ends up sex it would have done no matter how you met.

Popcornandjam: Just being in a stereotypical male environment overhearing conversations. It's not nice. I'm sure women are the same hence the popularity of the APP.

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We should swap stories on here - maybe name and Shane done if the suitors I’m sure some of the blokes are “repeat offenders” .

Name and shame SOME!!!

Lesismiserable: Sure he's a lucky man.

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I think he'd agree heartily with you there faugheen but actually, I'm just as lucky, he's bloody lovely and gorgeous with it. Nearly four years down the line from the best, funniest, sexiest first date either of us have ever had, married and very happy, yep we're both very lucky 😁

If it’s consensual sex then doesn’t matter when you do it, you’re adults and you can do what you like! As you say OP, you have a high sex drive, so, you must have had a good time too

Two adults who both had a good time, no harm done, just a dented ego.

Id leave him be now and not respond to any messages.

Whatever, easy come easy go. Why do you care?

That's why you don't get sexual on a first date

In summary , who wants someone that anyone can get and is sexually irresponsible?

That's totally illogical. There were two of them. He was doing just as much as she was. Are you saying he wouldn't want someone like him?

And as for the that's why you don't get sexual on a first date. What is it with these double standards some women have. It's like the 1950s on here sometimes.

As a pp said, she engaged in sexual activity because presumably she wanted to as much as he did. Women are allowed to want sex you know.

I think he was coming off more interested than he was, it doesn't matter that you had sex (or well didn't but you know what I mean). In my experience if they are interested they will be interested if you have sex early or not.

It sounds like you aren't that into him anyway so I would just move on and have sex with whoever and whenever you want

How great was it ever going to be in the back of his car anyway?

Interestingly, I do think the location of first date sex has a bearing on how it might pan out. For example, ours was in a quite a,swish hotel followed by breakfast together etc so almost 'romantic' and definitely neutral. Whereas going back to one of the others houses or car-or whatever could be seen as showing all your cards at once because you've been allowed straight into that person's 'territory' as it were too soon and so nothing left to discover. Dont know.

In other news, what the fuck is the point of the horse at the end of every posting by faugheen?

I know have a certain song from Father Ted going round my head

I agree with faugheen that tinder is for the most part, a hook up app. Don’t get your hopes up on meeting a quality man on there.

OP, what do you want us to say? The man is not interested in you. Are you going to change your dating strategy, if I were you I’d stop getting busy on the first date and see if dating improves. I do think it gives out the wrong signals to get sexual so fast, not pc to say so though.

How did your react when you saw his pecker? Maybe he's embarrassed as you may have look disappointed!

Does the 🐎 not refer to erm.... well, riding? Ya know... 🐴

You were considering dumping him anyway because he doesn't have a big cock??! How fucking shallow are you? Deserve what you get.