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Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step

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RunsforCake14 · 21/02/2018 20:14

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread
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CoverMeLads · 27/02/2018 19:39

Been I’m FORTYFUCKINGNINE, you’d think I could be spared a few more months..... Grin

I did start answering his questions one by one:
don’t have an opinion; it’s a fact
late last year
none of your business yet
none of your business yet
oh and none of your business yet; you’re a TOTAL
STRANGER” but in the end just replied “SERIOUSLY?”

To which he replied yes, would I send him my email address so he could send me photos, so I replied “No and you might want to reconsider your initial message”

Now I feel bad. Poor James.

Game needy of attention/after an ego massage/too much time on their hands/lonely and just want chats? Who knows? And frankly, if they’re time wasters, who cares? If you’re expecting to see your own standards of sanity and manners reflected back in online dating, you’re destined to be Very Disappointed Indeed. The majority of the time.

My (completely unsolicited) advice is have a cut off time to either ask for a date (or, if you’re old school, be asked) and if it hasn’t happened in that timeframe cut your losses and move on. Don’t start trying to analyse why people are being fuckwits; that way madness lies.....,Wink

CoverMeLads · 27/02/2018 19:41

Ack, Pog sorry you’re having a mare today. Virtual hug and virtual Gin, hope you get actual both imminently x

CoverMeLads · 27/02/2018 19:43

Vet I knew there was a reason I’ve avoided man management roles 🤔

VetOnCall · 27/02/2018 19:47

Pog that would be a pretty drastic thing to make up if he wanted to fob you off. I dunno, it would be easier to just ghost you if that's what he wanted I think. Do you think he was/is expecting to see you again?

ValMc1 · 27/02/2018 19:48

Pog cut your lissed

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 19:48

Oh Pog Flowers and gin Wine

I kind of hope the STD is because he's caught it since you last saw him but that's rotten too ... ugh

Does your boss know about the latest OW news? I was totally open when I was going through all the shit with XH and all I got was complete support with each twattish hurdle he dragged me over. I do recommend full disclosure at work if you feel you have a supportive boss and team.

NewYear2019 · 27/02/2018 19:49

Game I'm totally bamboozled by this too. My guess is they're lonely/hiding something/fantasists or something. It's very annoying though I wish I had the answer!

Lost how disappointing....have a long think I guess. If he's perfect in other ways of judge him on that and not his baggage. It all depeñds on your tolerance levels.

Well I got blown out yesterday. My date was due to come for dinner but apparently had to work late Hmm I may be wrong but if you're keen to see someone I'd expect you book a date when you won't have to work late or still turn up just for a short time. Oh well.

Lovemusic33 · 27/02/2018 19:50

Vet yes naked attraction is interesting, just shows that we all like different things.

Been yes, I love how Anna makes comments about people body parts without laughing, I wouldn’t be able to do it.

Pog I had a STI check last week, I did a home test (cost a bit but the sexual health clinic couldn’t fit me in for 2 weeks and they wanted me to go to one miles away). I should have taken one ages ago as my ex was sleeping with other people towards the end of our relationship. After I had a nasty UTI a few weeks ago but no bacteria in my sample I started to worry that I may have something else, I’m glad I got tested, everything came back clear so my mind is at rest. From now on I’m going to be extra careful.

ValMc1 · 27/02/2018 19:51

Pog - pressed the wrong key - cut your losses for today and do what I've done - large glass of wine, in bed and watching tv - bliss xx I've got a difficult conversation with a parent tomorrow so early night for me

ValMc1 · 27/02/2018 19:52

Oh and I'm playing SongPop - - I'm such a good time girl 😇

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 19:56

Pog I don't think he'd have lied about an STI to get rid of you. He'd have just vanished or told you he was moving on. It might explain why his communication has been a bit off though if he was plucking up courage to tell you.

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 20:01

I have an STI test after each partner and a few weeks after starting having sex with someone. If only they did loyalty points...

Lovemusic33 · 27/02/2018 20:02

cover poor James, though he does seem like a scammer. I’m always wary of anyone that asks for my email address.

I have 2 new irons, both look very interesting, very similar profiles to mine. One of them I shall call Mr Fox, he’s a lot older than me but is one of thought lucky men that have probably got better looking with age, he’s pretty hot, we have been chatting a bit and he’s already being cheeky and flirty. The other iron I shall call Mr Camper, not as good looking, a bit younger, no kids and we have lots in comon. Hopefully I can secure a date with one of them soon, I haven’t had a date for a while.

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 20:05

I hope Mr Camper isn't camp Love, I can't do a camp man or one who's overly metrosexual.

Lovemusic33 · 27/02/2018 20:13

Been no, not camp at all though I did have a message a minute ago from someone that looked very camp and the first line of their profile reads ‘I am on antidepressants’ Hmm. Mr Camper has a camper van and tonight he is sleeping in it whilst it’s -10 outside Shock

Pogmella · 27/02/2018 20:14

Hey all- you're awesome. I lied online that I'm u25 and am getting a free kit in the post. I'm u25 at heart!

Been I think you're bang on with him being off actually. Vet et al yeah you're right surely he'd tell any other lie this is a social nightmare!

Been I have told my boss (now) and she is supportive, im not overly worried about work it was just the cumulative cherry on the cake of today.

The OW meeting wasn't that bad. She apologised. She wants to take things slowly. She is happy to move out/not be around for the first few months of weekends. Apart from not having her role in my family imploding I can't ask much more. She was easier to speak to than my STBXH...

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 20:24

Love please tell me he has a bricks and mortar home and just happens to be camping right now...

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 27/02/2018 20:27

pudding This cheered me up no end !!! Thank you .

Best tinder profile of the dat:

Ricardo 39 (one picture of Jon Snow from GOT)

Caption: Winter is cumming (spelt like that) and you will too. I will make you scream to the gods.

Lovemusic33 · 27/02/2018 20:28

Been I’m hoping he does have bricks and mortar, judging by his photos he does but I haven’t asked.

POF seems to be crazy tonight, I am trying to message 4 people at once, Mr Fox got funny with me for not replying quick enough, I’m struggling to remember what I have said to who.

Lovemusic33 · 27/02/2018 20:31

Bloody Grin has to be one of the best profiles?

I had someone message me asking if I wanted to meet up for sex as I look like their ex. I didn’t know how to reply to that. Who would write that and think I would say ‘yes’?

CoverMeLads · 27/02/2018 20:32

Mr Fox needs to have a word with himself 🙄

Gamechanger123 · 27/02/2018 20:32

pog sorry your having such a crap time. But as i always say, it can't rain forever.
I hope things start looking up soon.

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 20:35

Thinking about the winter Pudding and Bloody I find the idea of the Beast of the East cumming more appealing than Ricardo the metrosexual.

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 27/02/2018 20:36

love - am speechless here !!! This all reminds me why I have given up - for now . Grin Love this thread though !! The humour is amazing.

Kinunir · 27/02/2018 20:42

Things are not always as they seem

Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step