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Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step

999 replies

RunsforCake14 · 21/02/2018 20:14

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread
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BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 16:06

Spring Shock there's no way autocorrect could have worked that one out...

Lovemusic33 · 27/02/2018 16:07

Kin I can imagine it’s quite painful. The man I met on the alternative site had a testicle removed after suffering a blood clot Shock

Luckily I’m not bothered by photos of men’s bits, I’ve seen so many Grin.

SpringtimeSun · 27/02/2018 16:20

Kin my 1st thoughts ran to Ian Beale too....and I don't even watch Eastenders.

pudding21 · 27/02/2018 16:26

Love I often joke I have seen more penises than a sex worker as I was a nurse for years and years (I am not working clinically anymore) but I still don't want to see pictures :0

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 16:54

Pudding a friend used to be an A&E nurse and had torrid tales of removing trapped willies from items and inserted objects stuck in orifices... my mind boggled at the time until I discovered OLD which makes her stories look so tame.

Lovemusic33 · 27/02/2018 17:25

pudding I work in care, most days I see testicles, doesn’t bother me at all, not different to seeing a arm or a leg. I was a bit shocked that he actually sent me a photo though, he’s never sent me any rude photos and we have chatting for ages. I was talking to him about his injuries from his accident and he mentioned his balls, I didn’t believe him so he then sent me a photo (he had already shown me his other injuries).

After trawling through a certain hook up site I have seen so much genitalia, I wonder why some people post pictures as they must now it’s not that pretty or very small Grin.

That just reminded me, have any of you watched ‘naked attraction’ the dating show where people chose their date by looking at their naked bodies? Maybe it’s the new way to pick a partner Grin

Kinunir · 27/02/2018 17:30

I know I must be getting old and out of touch based on the number of thank yous I get for NOT asking for nude pics.

Either that or I'm just weird because I think imagination, anticipation, touch, taste and smell are soooo much better than looking at a 2D image on a screen Confused

VixenSixen · 27/02/2018 17:30

Pudding: Actually properly laughed my head off at that..... I wonder what his success rate is? 🤣😂🙈

CoverMeLads · 27/02/2018 18:06

This poor bastard was the recipient of my ire, just now. I mean REALLY????

Anyhow, off to read back properly. The weather’s done for tonight’s date, but we’ve rescheduled 👍🏻

Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step
Gamechanger123 · 27/02/2018 18:10

Ooh I've not checked in since last thread!
This thread is hilar! Really makes my day.

Kin - sorry about your wasted trip!
Pudd - any more plans with mr a? Suggested dinner again yet?

So my current irons:

  1. Mr slim - hilarious and really sweet. Loads in common but i just can't fancy him! Had 3 dates and the attraction just hasn't grown. Meh
  2. Mr hotness - such a strange character. Beautiful looking, amazing body, great job, well off. No kids and never had a long term relationship despite being mid 30s. I broke my own rule and had MB with him second date. Why? Cause hes so damn fine and i know it wouldn't go anywhere and no issues of becoming attached due to him being an emotionless robot. However he still wanted to see me after and were on our 4th date this week. Strange considering he lives so far and we have nothing in common. Its not like finding sex would be hard for him. But hes great in the sack and scratches an itch.
  3. Mr business - had a great first date this last week. Took me to a top restaurant and spared no expense. But again no future as he lives too far. But it was lovely to be wined and dined for the night.
  4. Mr country - squeels he is my type physically and so nice. We've had 2 dates and the second date he planned and was really thoughtful. Get on well and seem to have similar views on things. trying not to get overinvested have our third date this week so we shall see.
  5. Mr husband - i call him that as on paper and via conversations he is 100% someone i could fall head over heels for. However hes making no plans to meet up as hes busy with work (to be honest he does work long hours however we've been speaking everyday since january so no excuses and he doesn't live that far).

So far mr country is the best contender, however only 2 dates in so I'm not going to cut off everyone else as of yet. I know how these things can go. I'm also really enjoying the dating. I'm averaging on dating 3 people a week (some first dates some third and fourth dates). But it is tiring. I'm no longer looking for new irons as juggling these is more than enough.

Also a question for you fellow daters, how do your friends feel about it? My group were ecstatic when i first decided to start dating and begging me to download the apps, but now I'm actually dating and really enjoying myself, they seem really offish??
No idea as to why as they're all in long term relationships!!

Your all so funny and intelligent on this thread, no idea how your all not snatched up! Whats the deal?!! Some people don't know a good thing when they see it.

Kinunir · 27/02/2018 18:14

Your all so funny and intelligent on this thread, no idea how your all not snatched up! Whats the deal?!! Some people don't know a good thing when they see it.

I can't speak for anyone else - though I have to say there are some amazing people on here - but, for me, it's the fact that I'm a cross between the Elephant Man and Quasimodo. Fortunately, I do make up for that by having a huge... vocabulary Wink

CoverMeLads · 27/02/2018 18:19

I’m 49, overweight and extreeeeeeeemely picky.

And my friends are equal parts amused and encouraging. They know I won’t go for a dud. Again Wink

pudding21 · 27/02/2018 18:35

coverme sounds to me like English isn't James's first language........ and what a message! I have given up on POF don't like the format.

In other news on Thursday afternoon i will be going to a kitchen workshop to look at sample. I am not sure I will be able to look at the kitchen worktops without grinning from ear to ear.

ValMc1 · 27/02/2018 18:43

How many Loverboys can you say nope too? Must have done at least 10 tonight. The first thing I look at is their username - if it is naff, it's a nope. Really not sure why I'm doing this - I don't have a spare weekend until mid-April, have a good job, am solvent, good friends and close family. All I want is a man who is witty, can hold a decent conversation, and is ok in the bedroom - is that too much to ask? Think I need a rest from Tinder - perhaps I need to replace my late pussy with a kitten and become an old, mad cat woman.

esk1mo · 27/02/2018 18:48

pudding i thought that was a euphemism.

i dont know if i fancy MrForeign Sad i like it when a man is hard to get (ie busy, not focussing just on you) but he seems quite into me and he quit his job so i know he isnt really busy most days except for going to the gym.

the thought of DTD with him is 50% attractive and 50% err..no thanks.

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 18:49

Cover oh dear... let me guess, young James' real name probably has too many consonants in it to be English, he's 21, lives somewhere that requires a visa for getting to the UK and he's never exchanged one word with a NATO officer... but despite that HE LOVES YOU with a truth and ardour that you could not dream of and would never vanish once he's got his hands on the future blue passport...

I have to say I had a couple of those once over 50. I think they trawl a certain age bracket.

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 18:52

Pudding make sure those worktops are sturdy. I quite like granite - cools things down fast Wink

Gamechanger123 · 27/02/2018 19:05

Question, why do yo think some people don't want to make any plans to actually meet up yet will happily spend weeks and weeks at a time messaging you?
Some i guess are secretly married but others I'm not so sure. Do they just want a pen pal? It's really odd to put yourself out there as a public profile to date but not actually want it to happen. Plus the effort to message someone daily for a long time. The mind boggles!!

Kinunir · 27/02/2018 19:18

Game could be any number of reasons. I used to work with a guy in his early-thirties who’d never had a serious girlfriend. OLD was his way of feeling wanted without stepping out of his personal comfort zone and actually meeting anyone.

Tonight I had someone I’d arranged to have coffee with on Saturday block me on whatsapp in the middle of a conversation that was going real well.

Random is the nature of this beast unfortunately.

At least I still have one iron left... for now... 🤞

VetOnCall · 27/02/2018 19:21

Cover 'James' definitely gets today's prize Grin He works for you! He works for you!

Love Naked Attraction is strangely compelling to watch. It's interesting to see what different people go for. Fair play to the participants for doing it, I just don't know how they face their colleagues etc. again afterwards. I can't imagine walking into work again after it had aired; I would never be able to look my colleagues in the eye again, let alone trying to discuss a patient with their owner whilst wondering if they'd seen my minge on TV.

Pogmella · 27/02/2018 19:30

Right so today I had a (deserved) wake up call from my boss that I've not been focussing on work enough. Then my FWB informs me he has an STD (shouldn't affect me but I'm getting checked anyway and Just, ugh, that's the end if the road with that) and then I get to sit across the table from this fucking idiot so excited that her new life's about to start now she can meet my beautiful perfect girl one day.

Can someone actually hug me? Is there enough gin in the world to deal with this? Ugh.

VetOnCall · 27/02/2018 19:34

Oh Pog I'm so sorry. You've had way too much shit to deal with. That's all far too much for one day. Does your boss know what's been going on? As for the FWB, they've just found this out?!

BeenThereDating · 27/02/2018 19:34

I'm watching Embarrasing Bodies which is great for education etc but what I don't understand is how people who have been too embarrassed to see their GP and have endured a problem for years seem to become totally gung-ho about revealing all on telly... Confused

I think the best thing about Naked Attraction is Anna Richardson; she takes it all in her stride when I'd probably be sniggering like a five year coz I'm puerile.

Pogmella · 27/02/2018 19:35

Surely he's not lied about an STD to fob me off? Fuck... he's either super honest or really shit.

Pogmella · 27/02/2018 19:37

Yeah my boss was diplomatic Vet and it's not undeserved. Suggested I turn my phone off rather than have extended WhatsApp arguement's with my ex, for instance.

Yes he claims it was someone from before Xmas but I know he was seeing other ppl too so unsure why he's so keen to be clear it's historic?