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Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step

999 replies

RunsforCake14 · 21/02/2018 20:14

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread
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Pogmella · 26/02/2018 20:35

She's all tall and blonde and booby. I'm built like a large child and very dark. And all her stuff's designer. It really fucking sucks. Feel like she's won everything any way and now I need to want her and DD to have a nice relationship when obvs I hope DD will hate her and throw up on her nice stuff*.

*I mean, not really, I want my kid to be happy at her dad's place, but you see what I mean...
**Yes really.

MissCatt · 26/02/2018 20:35

Oh bloody hell, I go away and do a few hours' work and all this happens! Can't keep up. But I totally love this thread. The highlight of my day.

Kin Wtf? What happened? Hope you're ok... Did she not show up? Was she not great? Sorry you had a wasted evening... (sorry, waisted)

After I finished work today, I had a chat with an 'alternative' site iron as planned. He's so far replied to my messages and called when he said he would. And he sounded... well, really nice!!! We had a great chat while he was on a long drive home and got on great. So the problem? Well, my own insecurities said it ended too quickly. He had to pull over at a service station for petrol and a wee, and we were still chatting loads... but then he was like 'Oh, gotta go... are you free for me to call or text any time?'
I said 'Yeah... ok... erm, sure...' feeling a bit abandoned. I stupidly squished in something about 'oh it would be nice to meet, wouldn't it?' at the end and he didn't really reply, so now I'm thinking he just wanted out. But we were talking for 45 mins. Tell me that's OK? We def had loads more to talk about... so best to be left wanting more, right? Thing is, I wanted to be the one leaving him wanting more, not him signing off!! Grrr....

Oh... actually... long drive, chatting to a guy in a car... It wasn't you, was it, Kin? haha Grin

Mumfun · 26/02/2018 20:39

Pog thats a toughie. I was fortunate to avoid that. Be super kind to yourself Flowers

BeenThereDating · 26/02/2018 20:42

But Cover what was his punchline? What magical influence did you have on him? I'm hanging here due to premature rejection...

CoverMeLads · 26/02/2018 21:03

Oh I think he got the message. Literally. Though I’m guessing the next line is “because when I see you everyone else disappears” (I Googled Wink)

MissCatt was it like......”adult” talk or just chat?

VetOnCall · 26/02/2018 21:08

Pog I've seen you* and you are gorgeous and funny and talented and you have awesome taste in dogs. She's with a cheating bastard, all she has won is the booby prize. Can you train DD to poo in her handbag?

*just on IG, I'm not stalking you around town.

MissCatt · 26/02/2018 21:09

Cover It was just lovely chat! Easy as anything. He was driving, I was chilling at home. His profile on the 'alternative' site was face pics only. Mine is normal profile. No dick pics from him (obvs not from me either as I don't have a dick). So yeah, the chat was lovely. I wanted more... I was mid-flow (I'm a bloody talker, but also listen well too) and then he had to go!!! I just feel sooo frustrated that it ended abruptly. Unless he is master of 'leaving woman wanting more'. In which case, he won. I am SO itching to message 'Nice to chat' etc as he'll be home now, but sitting on hands. Play it cool, Catt. For once in your life, play it fucking cool...

Kinunir · 26/02/2018 21:09

So, with the exception of one very young lady a couple of years ago, I’ve always preferred women a few years older than me.

Miss Dunstable was, she said, twenty years my senior but upon meeting, it was obvious she’d knocked several years off. Wasn’t particularly pleasant either so one drink and I drove home.

On a more positive note, had a lovely long chat with a potential iron while driving. Miss GaggingForIt is everything I want - sensual, sharp, dripping wet, articulate, sexy, moist, intelligent, dirty, funny and more.

We chatted for 45 minutes though it seemed like longer, she asked to meet but then got pissed when I said I had to stop for diesel and a loo break.

Oh well, hopefully I’ve left her wanting more?

Mumfun · 26/02/2018 21:19

Hmm Kin and Catt have you something to tell?

MissCatt · 26/02/2018 21:20

It was petrol, Kin. Petrol. At least get your story straight... Wink

pudding21 · 26/02/2018 21:22

cover I am sorry but I would have had to delve a bit further into that....I'd be curious, even if it was a terrible line ;) Good response though.

kin prey tell.........

pog remember she still shits like all of us ;) Smile in the knowledge that you are dating therefore can select any item from the candy store........and one much more worthy of your wonderfulness. (but really hope it goes ok). Be gracious but firm, and go with what you know is right. I admire you for sitting down with her in the first place to be honest.

MissCatt · 26/02/2018 21:25

Pahahaha Mum

BeenThereDating · 26/02/2018 21:33

Thank goodness you didn't go to her house Kin

Kinunir · 26/02/2018 21:35

Been as much as I need some. Really need some. I would not have been able to get it up for her. No way.

Bant · 26/02/2018 21:36

pog - one of the pieces of wisdom I've seen on here that struck a chord was 'remember, that woman chose a cheater. What does that say about her?'

How long has it been now? I think you're perfectly within your rights to insist that the kids don't have anything to do with the woman until she's been fully background checked and certified. With paperwork to prove it. Not that, realistically, you need it, but you could insist

Pogmella · 26/02/2018 22:03

Thanks guys Smile

Had a chat with a friend and feel a bit better. Plus my fella got chattier- I was clearly projecting...

Vet feel free to stalk but also let's see how many spaniel we can gather in one place between us?! I've got a tennis ball and a jar of peanut butter (left over from my date with Mr Dom, actually...)

Bant She is CRB checked due to her job. They've been doing their thing 6 months now. Apparently I should be completely over it already Hmm

In credit to her and him they haven't rushed introductions and have let me set the pace. She's also taken up an evening class so he can have DD at theirs for tea once a week.

It's gonna be OK. I'm gonna look smokin' and be a super mature diplomatic adult. Like Kofi Anan in heels. Boom.

Pogmella · 26/02/2018 22:04

pudding I've seen her throw up once, and I can totally replay that memory- thank you!

MargoLovebutter · 26/02/2018 22:08

Hugs Pog. It is really difficult. FWIW, my two sussed ex-H’s new partner and ultimately wife (who he had cheated on me with) in a relatively short time. They were tiny people then too. Your DD maybe a bit starry eyed early on but give it time. Kids have phenomenal bullshit detectors.

VetOnCall · 26/02/2018 22:12

Pog give the tennis ball a quick spritz of Dettol and I'm up for Spanielfest. Mine have always been better company than men anyway

Pogmella · 26/02/2018 22:13

Thanks Margo. She doesn't have kids and DD has just turned 2 so it'll be quite the baptism of fire. By fire I mean vomit, snot and glitter of course....

Pogmella · 26/02/2018 22:14

Vet mine likes to do proper hugs with her head resting on your shoulder/neck and she clambered up when I was having a little cry- so sweet!

VetOnCall · 26/02/2018 22:26

Yep, exactly the same here, they're just the best dogs. I'm all about the demonstrative affection/neediness me.

ignoringthechoc · 26/02/2018 22:29

Another Spaniel over here :) stupid springer though who if I'm being honest is a bit of a dick.

Kinunir · 26/02/2018 22:29

POF girl: I love 80s music my fave band is DuranDuran
Me: Nice one Rio, do you like wild boys? ;-)
Her: I'm not that kind of girl and my name is not Rio

I give up. I give up.

pudding21 · 26/02/2018 22:31

Pog I hope it was when she was shamefully drunk, but I can be a teeny bit mean ;) So she shits and pukes......Go Kofi!