Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step

[RunsforCake14]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

It’s ok, I have an unused family pack of condoms in my draw

Bant if I find myself free from the smitten bench I'll definitely see winkers in a new light. I always viewed winking as 'can't be arsed to write something' or lacking in oomph. I shall be more open minded if I find myself back in the wilderness!

Been I wink back at winkers/ favourite favouriters if I like the profile, but I still wait for them to message me first. Which very few do thereafter 🙄

But you all know I live in the 1950s and like the guy to do the initiating

Kin no sleaze and don't worry too much about no pic for the first message or two. Once there's been a brief exchange establishing literacy levels, humour etc then ask for a pic and move on if you don't get one. I either used no pic or a coquettish collarbone one and only provided a pic using a temporary email address.

Thanks Been chatting to a Miss Dunstable on one of those sites now. She’s 20 years older than me gulp

Kin - miss Dunstable eh? Used to stable my horse there !

So while on my date last night I had a very strange scenario where I was standing at the bar and recognised someone's voice. I turned and was convinced it was another iron I've been chatting too. I'm sure he recognised me, pretended not too.

He has messaged me today and I've established we were out last night in the same area, although he claiming to be in the pub next door.

What makes this very strange is our chat has not been the usual and not one I'd usually engage in, but I was bored last week .

He is an extremely fit man (not my type but I can appreciate a good body). Not sure how we got to the conversation but he has offered to be a buff butler who has to be whipped if he doesn't meet my spec!!! He wants nothing in return (obviously gets a kick out of that). If I prefer I can have a party of up to four friends and he will serve us all .

I've not taken him up on the offer. But seeing him last night (I'm convinced it was him) has made me realise that although the chat has been fun, it felt odd bumping into him and I felt really self conscious. It would have been awful if he came over while I was with someone I really liked.

You don’t know her do you Val?

A family sized pack of condoms is either an oxymoron or what, like, incest?

Or a joke

Kin I know a few over that way would need more details

Valglad you are ok, what will you do about the holidays now?
Interesting to hear others takes on winking etc, I never wink and have noticed less of a response if I message first so don't do that so much now. I often look at peoples profiles but had a message this morning saying 'you looked, so lets chat?' but I don't always think we would be compatible after looking and don't use this as a way of flagging up i am on there. Tricky this OLD lark :)
Cover good to hear you are edging towards normal again.
Been will watch those pesky hormones now after dtd (not that I have any opportunity coming up but stored the info for future)
Vet Thanks you are giving me hope that there are decent options out there, couple of rubbish dates recently have put me off a bit.

Also Kin thought you would be giving anyone with unstable in their username a wide berth? :)

LOL

Judge Judy is on form this afternoon - just shows that no-one interesting in line

ignoring - not a clue at the moment - paid 50/50 for both so I can dip out without any problems

So advice please How do you deal with dating/seeing someone when you know you've got hardly any time coming up? I've got 2 holidays and some crazy time at work coming up and will struggle to find time/childcare for about 3 weeks? Its not impossible but I'll need a decent bit if notice.

I'm guessing I should just say that but it seems presumptuous? We're seeing eachother regularly and chat most days so there's kind of a a presumption it will continue but it's by nature v.casual...

Just drop it into conversationPog - you're getting on with your life and don't need to bend over backwards to accommodate someone else, especially if it's early days

Pog if you are chatting most days presumably you can just talk about your up coming plans and how it will work? If its very casual then I suppose they may wander off to chat to someone with more time or they could declare deeper feelings and be happy to wait until you are free to resume the chat/ meetings. If it's meant to be you will find a way of working it out.
Just looked at a profile on pof by someone looking for someone to join them on their way to making their second million (just drop that in there subtle like) and honestly the list of demands this woman must fit is incredible - not sure why he thinks he is such a catch? He stipulates dress size, make up preferences, clothing style just for starters, I have never read anything so shallow! Oh and he is 44 but receiving messages from 18! to 40 :) Good luck mate

Just a quick update as I am so hungover and tired my eyeballs hurt.

No architect out last night, not any contenders at all. Got chatting and approached a few times, no person of interest ;)

Hands down though I've just matched With on photos the best tinder match so far, looks a bit like Jason Mamoa but prettier and a little smaller. Going straight in with this one. Phwoar. 😍😍😍

I'll catch up with the rest tomorrow, when I can open my eyes bigger than piss holes in the snow!

You're a lightweight Pudding :) Good luck on the Tinder match

He stipulates dress size, make up preferences, clothing style just for starters, I have never read anything so shallow!

And all I asked of ignoring was an ability to walk without a zimmer frame and she still knocked me back. Us men can't win!

Is a walking stick ok Kin?

Go on then ignoring, what size, make up and clothes is he asking for?? I can probably guess but I'm curious!

Ignoring he’ll get what he’s looking for. And what he deserves: someone who’s with him purely for what she can get out of him and who doesn’t mind being objectified for the sake of having nice stuff. Can’t see it ending well, meself.

Fascinated to know what his dress size, style and makeup preferences are: I’m guessing not size 12/14, natural and understated 🤔