Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step

[RunsforCake14]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread

Ooh. I, er, don't know how that went. He kept touching me whilst we were chatting, but I think that's because he is naturally expressive. No move to kiss me goodnight, nothing about seeing each other again... I think maybe it was just a nice chat.

Didn't look like I expected. Not in a bad way, mind. He has a lovely smile.

I could take him or leave him. Well, he has my number, I shall see if he gets in touch.

I don't think he will, but I'm not upset about it.

The main thing is, I'm back in the game.

Oh Pringle I had a 'tactile' one once. He must have touched my arm in a lingering way about 50 times in the first 10 minutes! I had to ask him to stop touching me! He said it was because of how close he felt to me after our warm communication. I then placed my handbag between us I'm a cold fucking bitch sometimes.

Been oooh that’s my worst nightmare: being touched by someone I don’t know well enough/don’t know if I want them too. I just freeze

😬

To. Not too. FFS

Pringle yay, you’re back in the saddle

Interesting opening message on POF - "Hi are you open".
I can't decide if it's a typo, rude or something else. But as he's around 4 hours away I'm not going to bother finding out.

Well Miss Trekkie is quite good fun. No spark but lots of laughs and common interests. New friend made.

The wine is now making me feel slightly indignant about the lack of kissing. I mean, I don't like first dates, but I like first kisses. And I am good at them. His loss.

First ever match on Tinder. He hasn't messaged me. Sod this shit. I have to message first on Bumble, I'll be damned if I'm messaging on Tinder for someone who only seems just OK and is probably not my type in person because all of the photos in all of the world lie all of the time. His bio, such as it is on Tinder, wasn't that interesting. Meh.

Does anyone else use Happn? I am getting occasional matches only, and they are all not particularly great.

More swiping to be done on Tinder, I think.

Right. Let's find me another first date!

This is why I shouldn't drink wine. Left to my own devices, I overthink and start to sound far crosser than I actually am. I'm not actually cross at all.

RunsforCake14 Oh, for the love of... I wouldn't reply to that. Just no.

Rich pickings on Match this evening. A man in Cairo and a 37 year old. Bloody tough choice. I went out with DS to Cote instead.

My Friday night - home from work with a longing for cheese flan - I'm not a cook but gave it a go - it smelt ok but the bottom half was not cooked - scraped off the cooed bit and ate it - at least 40 nopes but after a glass or two reds - swiped a few yes. After chatting to a friend for over an hour - going back to tinder to see if anything interesting has happened !! I gave an exciting life.

saveyourkissesforme Sounds like you had a winning evening!

Just spotted a rather douchey bio on Tinder: "If you are looking for a sugar daddy, please advertise on an escort website."

I can take care of myself, but honestly, who says something like that? And who would be attracted by someone who says something like that?

pringle I almost always message first, because I want dates. So I've gotta be bold!

Came back from work, checked various sites for messages, checked tinder (no one interesting near by).

Message from someone on a certain site, asking me if I can do prostate massage

One of my best mates has clicked on ‘want to meet’ with me on POF, awkward

@cover it's annoying isn't it? I just hope the irons don't lose interest in the meantime!

@pringle maybe he doesn't kiss on the first date. I usually don't, aside from last week but she initiated it not me XD see how it goes, you never know, if there's a next date it might happen then.

@been I've also had an overly tactile date... It didn't go well and I practically ran away. But he was a bit of a prick anyway XD

@kin glad to hear you've made a new friend and getting back into things! The previous one sounded like a right pita D:

So - with enthusiasm from this site I joined a couple sites.
Met really nice guy on Bumble, not ready for a relationship, but not really a major goer just wanted FWB type arranagment.
Decided this could be the best thing for me so entered into the spirit readily. However, now I’m feeling keener on him than he is. Tricky one. We had a chat today and he is honest about things,so I just have to make my decision. It’s not going to happen with him but if I stick to what we have now am
I missing out on something/someone else?

Anyway, came home and joined POF so will see what that has to offer!!

nothing1 Yes, but you're logical and I'm just sulking.

Lovemusic33 A person from real life! Ooh. That warrants an awkward conversation... Do you both look like your photos?

Thekitten Mm. The more I sober up, the more I think we're not really suited. I feel like I would send him a LinkedIn request rather than say on FB I'm in a relationship with, if you know what I mean. I think we connect professionally rather than romantically!

hatty44 How would you feel if he was sleeping with other people? If you're not fussed, keep it up. If you feel miserable at the thought, you're too emotionally involved - run.

pringle, yes he knows who I am, he was on POF a while ago but came off, I WhatsApp him most weeks and have been talking to him this week. He’s a very close friend but has also been a FWB in the past but I don’t want to rekindle that relationship as he’s more like a brother too me.

WHERE do you all find these irons???

I've been signed up to Tinder, Bumble, Match, Plenty of Fish and eHarmony and though I have had a few dates before, since before Christmas I have had ONE. That's it. One in about three months. One date out of two irons. And now - nothing at all. I don't want it to get me down but it kinda is. I just can't find anyone anywhere.

im losing patience with MrForeign 😭 im mirroring the way he texts because i figured it was just the way they communicate in his country. but there is literally NO chat/banter inbetween dates. hes fine in person, but it makes it hard to feel like you’re getting to know someone better.

i think thats why i pulled away when we kissed, i dont feel like i know him because we’d only spent about 5 hours together, half in the cinema.

i text him joking that he’d have i carry me during our date tomorrow cause im working late tonight, he read and didnt reply 🙄 byeeee

save I'll take the 37 year old if he's good looking and can spell!

Pringle well done for getting back on the horse! I don't kiss on first dates either so I wouldn't necessarily write it off on the basis of that. It takes me at least one meeting to decide if I fancy someone or not. If you don't think he's for you though then that's different.

Rose I think it can sometimes go through cycles, feast or famine type thing. Have you tried changing your photos/rewriting your profiles a bit? That can often stir up interest.

Love that's potentially awkward... can you just unmatch and pretend it didn't happen?

Runs I've had the 'are you open minded?' question... It usually means they want to wear your knickers.

Kin shame no spark but sounds like a good evening nonetheless.

Hatty I couldn't do FWB as I have to really like someone to want to have sex with them, but I think Pringle's test is a good one - if the thought of him having sex with other people bothers you then you're overinvested emotionally. If your ultimate aim is a relationship then you probably need to cut him loose after one last shag for old time's sake

ignore my last post - he replied with something really sweet

As you can tell, it's all go chez Vet tonight... Oh yes indeedy... I'm on call, have already had to go in once and am currently lying on the bed watching Alien with my dog. Livin' la vida loca!

Evening all!
Checking in late as it took me so long to read the thread (god you lot waffle!)
Cover hope you are feeling better soon :( You're still witty when you are ill though so that's ok.
Kin glad to see you are attacking the MB mission in a proactive and positive manner, but stop making friends, meet someone hot, don't overthink and fall into bed :)
Pudding did you sort the younger FWB situation? I still want Mr A to declare his undying love for you.
Runs One I have had tonight after I politely declined.....'well can you just wear over the knee boots and let me w**k over them then' ! Hmmm sounds like a fun evening for me :) no thanks.
Love I dread people I know spotting me, and I live in a really small town so its bound to happen, hope its not too awkward.
Pringle enjoy being back in the game.
Hope everyone else is doing ok.
I have a new iron I shall call Mr DJ and thus far he is respectful, interesting and we have a lot in common, that could all change when we actually meet of course and I shall share the disaster as it unfolds if so :)